Hello YouTube…
my name is Brad Browning, I’m a relationship coach, breakup expert, and author of The Ex
Factor Guide program.
Like most of my videos here on YouTube, this one is going to give you some tips and advice
on how to win back your ex and give your relationship a second chance.
More specifically, in this video I’m going to tell you several things you can do to make
your ex miss you like mad.
Let’s begin by talking about what won’t make your ex miss you, shall we?
That way you’ll know, right off the bat, what you absolutely must not do if you want
to rekindle things with your ex.
Firstly, you must be able to control your own impulses… if you want your ex back,
you need to have the self-restraint to suppress your emotions, act rationally, and trust the
advice that I’m going to share with you in this video.
The steps you need to take to win back your ex are often counter-intuitive, so many people
are tempted to ignore the proven techniques taught by breakup geeks like me, and just
go with their gut instinct instead.
I’ve worked with thousands of clients around the world, helping them get a fresh start
with their ex…
I know what works and what doesn’t.
Sometimes, your emotions will compel you to do something that will really damage your
chances…
you may feel compelled to pour your heart out in a love letter or buy your ex a lavish
gift to try and convince them to take you back.
These sorts of emotionally-driven decisions almost always do more harm than good, so my
advice is to ignore your own gut instincts and stick to the techniques that have been
proven to save relationships.
I don’t want to get too self-promotional here, but now is a good time to say that if
you want a step-by-step plan for winning back your ex, so that you know exactly what to
do and say -- without running the risk of doing something dumb unintentionally -- then
you should consider investing in my Ex Factor Guide program, or at the very least you should
watch the full video on my website, www.BreakupBrad.com.
So, back to the topic at hand…. not only should you ignore your own gut instincts when
it comes to dealing with your ex, you should also ignore anyone who tells you to talk with
your ex to try and work things out.
You can never, ever talk your way back into your ex’s heart…
any attempt to convince your ex to take you back will only make things worse.
In fact, any type of “serious discussion” with your ex -- where you try to sort out
the problems that plagued your relationship, or you try to sell your ex on why they should
give you another chance -- is not going to make your ex miss you.
It’s going to have the opposite effect.
All you’re going to accomplish by talking with your ex -- even if it’s friendly and
seems productive -- is to remind him or her of the problems that led to the breakup.
He or she has decided that it’s time to move on, and you’re not going to change
their mind even if you’re the world’s greatest salesman.
Simply put, your ex is no longer attracted enough to you to want to continue the relationship.
You can explain to them how you’ll change and why they should give you another chance,
but that isn’t going to do anything at all to re-build their attraction.
In fact, generally speaking, every time you see or speak with your ex you’re actually
going to make them miss you LESS than they already do.
That’s because your ex already misses you.
Just because your ex was the one to initiate the breakup doesn’t mean they’re not going
to miss you… in fact, they’re probably feeling the same heartache and loneliness
you are.
Therefore, if you constantly try to talk to your ex and convince them to take you back,
you’re actually going to prevent your ex from missing you as much as they would have
otherwise.
If they can talk to you regularly in the weeks and months after your breakup, then they’ll
be able to slowly adjust to life without you, which is far less painful than if you were
to simply vanish all of a sudden.
As an analogy, imagine you lost something important that you use everyday, like your
cell phone.
If it happened suddenly, and you instantly had to adjust to life without ever having
a phone, you’d probably find it really difficult to adjust at first.
You’d miss having your phone, and you’d really wish you could have it back.
But if you slowly lost access to your phone -- if you could only use it for 23 hours a
day, then 22 hours, and so on… you’d have time to adjust to life without a cell phone.
This also applies to your ex.
If he or she can talk with you regularly, and slowly adjust to life without you, then
they’ll never feel that sudden shock of losing you.
Even if you’re only talking occasionally, you’re still available enough that it’s
going to prevent your ex from missing you as much as they would have if you completely
disappeared from their life.
So, the #1 way to make your ex miss you is to completely disappear from their life.
As soon as possible after the breakup, you should shut down any non-essential communication
with your ex.
This is something I cover in depth in my Ex Factor program, and you’ll see other breakup
coaches advocating for something similar.
It’s often called the “no contact” period, and it’s almost guaranteed to make your
ex miss you if you actually apply it the way I recommend.
I’m not going to cover the no contact rule in depth here, but you can learn more about
how to use this technique by watching the video on my website, www.BreakupBrad.com.
Another easy way to make your ex miss you is to subtly remind him or her of the things
they enjoyed during your time together.
Even the most troubled relationships have positive aspects, and you can use this to
your advantage by reminding your ex what they’ve lost now that you’ve broken up.
This is only going to be truly effective if you’re doing it in conjunction with the
no contact technique I just described, but it is a great way to make your ex think about
you in a positive light, and is almost guaranteed to make them feel nostalgic and miss you like
crazy.
The simplest way to drop these subtle reminders is via text message.
I’ve come up with several different types of text message that you can use to hint at
these happy memories without being obvious and giving away your true intentions.
For example, one of the most effective text messages I describe in my program is what
I like to call the “Mystery Question” text message… essentially, it involves posing
a question to your ex, asking them about something that relates to a particularly happy memory.
You might ask your ex if they remember how to get to a secluded beach that the two of
you stumbled across during a fun afternoon together.
He or she will be forced to think about the day you went to that beach and how much fun
it was to be there with you.
You can also mention in your message that you’re asking for directions because you
remember how great that beach was, and you want to take a friend there but can’t remember
the way.
Now you’re forcing your ex to re-live this positive shared memory, and you’re being
a bit mysterious by mentioning that you want to “take a friend” there.
Trust me, if you can think of an appropriately significant happy memory to use in this type
of text message, your ex will definitely be feeling nostalgic about you and your time
together.
The “Mystery Question” text isn’t suitable for every situation, so if you need more ideas
and sample messages, you’ll find a number of them in The Ex Factor Guide…
I explain how to use each message and when to send them.
You can register via my website, BreakupBrad.com, and you’ll get to access the entire program,
including all the sample text messages, within about 3 minutes.
OK, so, that’s two ways to make your ex miss you…. and there’s one final thing
you can do that’s guaranteed to have the same effect: show them you’re thriving and
loving life after the breakup.
Yes, I’m being serious here… if you can demonstrate to your ex that you’re able
to quickly move on to bigger and better things -- that you’re living life to the fullest
and not sitting around crying all day -- then he or she will take notice.
I know this sounds a bit nuts, but I promise you that your ex will miss you even more than
they already do if they know you’re out on the town every night, embracing the single
life and rapidly moving on without them.
This taps into a core element of human psychology, because it sends a clear message to your ex…
it says, “I’m awesome, and I’m going to enjoy my fun and exciting life, with or
without you”.
This, especially if it’s combined with the two other techniques I’ve already described,
will subtly re-wire your ex’s impression of you.
When they think of you and your life after the breakup, they’ll no longer see an image
of you sitting at home crying.. instead, they’ll picture you enjoying life, being social, dating
other people, and moving upwards and onwards.
Essentially, you’re forcing your ex to question whether their life wouldn’t be more awesome
with you by their side.
There’s so many subtle psychological things like this that you can use to your advantage
to make your ex second-guess the decision to break up with you… these 3 that I’ve
talked about in this video are designed to make them miss you, but that’s only half
the battle.
You also need to know how to take the next step and actually develop the romantic and
sexual attraction that’s necessary if you’re going to re-build a lasting relationship together.
Sorry to toot my own horn again here, but once again, all of this stuff is covered in
my comprehensive program, The Ex Factor Guide.
You can learn more about the program and get some additional free tips by going to www.BreakupBrad.com.
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That’s it for this video, stay tuned for another one coming soon…
thanks for watching!