You will hear people say, ‘opposite attracts, but does it maintain?
Plus, what kind of opposite attraction is healthy?
The INFJs is considered to be the main target for the narcissist.
You would wonder why this warm, sensitive, considerate and empathetic personality would
be seen anywhere near entitled, unempathetic, exploitative, arrogant individuals.
Whether it’s as a result of their charming nature, or their desire to make people feel
special, INFJs are prone to attract these toxic people.
Narcissists are self-centred and have a grandiose sense of self-importance.
They believe they are unique people who deserve to be treated with high regard.
That is why INFJs will often end up being their victim.
They trap them with their charm and charisma, tie them in the vicious circle of manipulation,
to maybe be lost forever.
Or maybe not.
Here are 10 things that will happen when an INFJ meets a narcissist.
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The Narcissist Will Exploit the INFJ
Narcissists are highly exploitative.
They view others as objects to serve their needs.
Narcissists lack empathy and consideration; therefore, they don’t care about anyone
but themselves.
When they meet the empathetic feelers, the INFJS, it would be the perfect showtime for
them.
They would cross their boundaries and pretend that they care for the INFJ but instead use
them to feed their insatiable ego.
They are oblivious of how their behaviours affect others, and when they are told they
use the blame game instead of taking responsibility.
Altruistic INFJs, on the other hand, want to work hard for the greater good and dread
to succeed at the expense of others.
As they work on their dreams, they will do anything not to step on anyone.
The Narcissist Will Intimidate and Belittle the INFJ
Narcissists are usually insecure around people that have something that they lack or those
that challenge them.
Being around an INFJ may make them feel threatened due to the popularity of their kindness.
Being good people who are concerned about others, those who know them love them.
They also gain a lot of popularity due to their pursuit of the well-being of humanity.
The narcissist wants to be the centre of attention, if the attention they so much crave go elsewhere,
they decide to victimize the recipient of the same through intimidation.
As a defence mechanism, they can bully, demean, insult and even threaten the INFJ to belittle
them.
This kind of treatment usually gives them some power and a sense of superiority.
The Narcissist Will Exaggerate their Achievements
INFJs are known to be determined and passionate about things they love.
With a blend of idealism and perfection, they are high achievers in life.
They meet their set goals and accomplish all their plans no matter what it takes.
Their standard is nothing below excellence.
Narcissists on the other hand want to be viewed as perfect.
With their huge appetite for admiration and unrealistic sense of superiority, they think
they are better than everyone else.
The narcissist may exaggerate their achievements, talents and skills just to maintain that status
and outshine the INFJ.
The Narcissist Will Envy the INFJ INFJs are really liked due to their pleasant
personalities.
Due to a narcissist excessive need for admiration coupled with an exaggerated sense of importance,
they would want to be the ones in the limelight, yet everyone would know how wicked they are
if they saw the real them.
This would make them very envious, yet they wouldn’t try to work on themselves, instead,
they would belittle the INFJ, to make them smaller, then outshine them.
Narcissists are envious then claim that they are being envied due to the belief that they
are superior.
The Narcissist will Gaslight the INFJ
A true narcissist will use gaslighting when they are confronted about their behaviour.
They are not accountable for their actions and are adamant about not changing.
In the case of an INFJ, they will blame them and make it look like it’s the INFJs’
fault.
If at all the INFJ is unsure about themselves, they will blame themselves for the way the
narcissist is behaving.
This is what the narcissist thrives on, blame game, guilt tripping, brainwashing and messing
up with people’s self-esteem so that they can lose their self-worth.
INFJs will try to do more to please the narcissist, unfortunately, the unempathetic narcissist's
intention is to have the INFJ under their control.
The INFJ will Ignore their Intuition
INFJs trust their intuition so much but when they come across a narcissist, they may end
up ignoring that helpful side of them.
Their ability to see through people would conflict with their empathetic nature.
In as much as they can see the narcissists as they are; entitled, unempathetic and exploitative,
their desire to overlook this and focus on the possible good would completely blind the
INFJ.
Once they are found out, the narcissist would also pretend to convince the empath.
The INFJ avoiding coming across as judgemental, would pardon the narcissist and give them
the benefit of the doubt.
The INFJ Will Try to Fix the Narcissist
The empathetic trait of the INFJ thinks that people are victims of what’s happened to
them and don’t intentionally want to be bad people.
The INFJs believe that by being compassionate and caring towards the narcissist they can
save them.
They are optimistic and hope that they will one day change.
However, in the case of narcissists, that day will never come.
These are people who are resistant to change.
They are oblivious of the need to change because they think they are perfect.
Narcissists are toxic and don’t take responsibility for their healing, instead, they blame others.
INFJs should realise that not everyone needs empathy, not everyone can be saved, especially
manipulative narcissists.
INFJ Tend to Get into Relationships with Narcissist
Due to an INFJ Idealistic nature, INFJs may find themselves falling for the narcissists.
Narcissists know how to make a fake persona to meet the high expectations that the INFJ
has for a partner.
They use charm and flattery and make the INFJ feel wanted.
Unfortunately, narcissists want permanent admires, not life partners.
They don’t care whatsoever about other people’s feelings.
They are selfish and ungrateful, and they can never be fulfilled.
For them, there is no ‘we’ in the relationship; it’s always about themselves.
This relationship starts on a very high note but is short-lived.
It ends up with the INFJ broken if not depressed, due to continuous emotional and psychological
abuse.
The INFJ will Expose the Narcissist
An empowered INFJ might manage to expose the narcissist.
If the INFJ has learnt from their experiences, they can use their intuitive radar for toxic
traits and end the narcissist’s theatrics.
The INFJ should believe their inner voice, trust their instincts and ignore the narcissist's
constant gaslighting.
Only an INFJ who has learnt to use their sensitive paranormal senses will succeed, at exposing
the behaviours of the narcissist and end their ugly game.
The INFJ will give a narcissist several chances hoping they will change.
They want to give them time to realise their mistakes, just like a true empath would do.
Unfortunately, the narcissist doesn’t want to change.
In fact, they don’t want to be saved because in their eyes they are perfect.
This is a hopeless battle where the INFJ will never succeed.
Putting a stop to the narcissist behaviour by either exposing them or slamming the door
at them will do them greater help than playing the hero.
The INFJs also ought to be reminded that character development and healing is a personal responsibility
no matter what has happened to someone.
No one can fix another.
People can be supported to work on their healing but only if they are willing.