In this video, I want to help you overcome your fear of visibility, overcome your fear
of being judged out there by the world so that you can confidently step into the spotlight
and run your business like a boss.
Make sure you stay until the end because, today, I'm also going to reveal to you some
very intimate details of what's happening in my own mind that help me step into the
spotlight, let go of my fear of judgment, and be consistently visible in my business,
even though I'm a born introvert.
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Hey there, coaches, Carolin Soldo here, and, today, I want to show you how to overcome
your fear of visibility.
I'm a naturally introverted coach, and I learned to embrace visibility because I simply had
to.
If we, as coaches, want to inspire people, if we want to lead teams, if we want to bring
our clients to transform and have better lives, better relationships, better health, what
have you, we need to be able to be seen and get our message out there big and wide.
Now, today, I'm on stage.
I'm hosting client retreats.
I'm on YouTube.
I do videos.
I'm on podcasts.
I'm in the spotlight 24/7, and I embrace it, but it wasn't always that way.
I used to be nervous.
I used to be shying away.
I used to be physically sick before going on a podcast, before hosting a webinar, before
doing an event, and what really helped me over time were some very specific steps that
I want to teach you today that have the power to change the way you think about visibility
and finally help you bring out that [inaudible 00:01:56] step in the spotlight and do the
work you really love.
Step number one is to let go of your own insecurities first.
Listen to this.
You have the ability to evoke in others what you're most insecure about.
Let me say this again.
You have the ability to evoke in others what you are most insecure about.
Your own insecurities about the type of business you're running or the way you look, the way
you sound, the way you act, can actually create the same reaction in other people because
they can sense your insecurity.
Makes sense, right?
If you're feeling insecure about being a coach, you're questioning your value, you're questioning
whether you can actually be a coach, whether you can create results for people, whether
you're good enough, all of these doubts, chances are people will sense that insecurity inside
of you, and they will then begin to doubt you, as well.
They will begin to question you.
They will begin to say, "Are you even fit to be a coach?
What kind of coaching will you do?
Will clients come to you?
What value will you be adding?"
You, by being insecure about these things, can evoke these reactions in others, so first
step for you is to become a lot more confident in the areas that are your biggest fears and
your biggest insecurities.
A very specific action item I want to give you today is to make a list of evidence that
you're already good enough.
Think of this one area that gives you the most insecurity, that you're worried about
the most, that you think people will judge you for.
It could be the way you look.
It could be an accent.
It could be your background.
It could be your goals and how big they are.
It doesn't matter.
Write them down and then come up with a list of evidence, supporting evidence, that tells
you and the world that you are already good enough, that you can already do it, that you
have the experience, you have the education, you have the background, your accent is beautiful,
the way you look is gorgeous, or maybe you think it doesn't matter.
Whatever that is for you, make a long list of positive aspects of evidence and proof
and credibility that help you build that inner sense of confidence and build up those insecurities
so that you no longer evoke reactions from others that might be judging you, that might
be making you feel insecure.
Step number two is to let service drive you.
This has probably been the most important step for myself.
My insecurities were there, but what really drove me in the beginning and still to this
day is my desire to be of service.
Instead of thinking all about yourself and the way you look, the way you sound, the way
you act, try to let go of these thoughts and think about the people that you want to impact,
the people who are in pain, who are suffering, who are anxious, who are unhealthy, who are
struggling, who need your help as a coach and who want your support, that you want to
serve.
The next time you find yourself worrying about what people will think of you and you find
yourself shying away from putting out a blog post or doing a video or going live or being
visible, no matter how, think of the people who need you right now.
I have this belief that these gifts and these treasures inside of you, these experiences
and challenges that you've had happened to you for a reason, and I believe that it's
your purpose to go out there and give back, and I believe you feel that, too.
If you let that desire, that purpose drive you to actually go out there and think of
the people you can help and think of only one person you want to help, let that be enough
to overcome the insecurity and literally just go for helping people and making that difference.
Step number three is to know what you know.
What do I mean by that?
Well, if you know what you know, you know what to talk about.
Let me explain.
If you know what you know, you know the areas that you feel most confident in.
You know those things that you could just talk about all day long.
Maybe it's nutrition.
Maybe it's weight loss.
Maybe it's running a business.
Maybe it's branding.
It doesn't matter.
Whatever your area of expertise is, that you feel natural and that you could talk about
all day long, focus on those areas first.
Talk about the things you feel most confident about.
When you do that, it'll be easier for you.
You'll be less anxious.
You'll be less nervous, so come across a lot more authentically, and people will know that
you are talking about a topic that you're really confident in and you're a real expert
in.
Step number four is to plan a makeover.
This tip is especially important when it comes to visual visibility.
We're not talking about blog posts or social media posts or anything like that.
We're talking about video where people can actually see you, and video is one of the
most important pieces of visibility that you can invest in.
Your action items with this step are to maybe invest in some new makeup, maybe chose some
new outfits that are on brand, make you feel beautiful, and also create a space that makes
you feel comfortable and that makes you feel proud of what you're putting out there.
Think about an area in your house or maybe you can rent a space, a studio, what have
you, and build something that is on brand for you that makes you feel professional,
beautiful, so that you can focus on getting your message out there without all the nervousness
and fear of visibility.
Step number five is to practice being visible, watch yourself, and make corrections.
I want to encourage you to practice as much as possible.
Record yourself on camera.
Give talks.
Make little videos.
Make little how-to videos.
Watch those videos and then figure out what you want to correct one step at a time.
Maybe you're saying a lot of ums.
Maybe you're saying, "Like."
Maybe you're saying, "You know what I mean?"
Maybe there is lots of filler words that you want to eliminate one at a time.
Maybe you have some weird facial movements that are going on while you speak and you
want to eliminate them.
Whatever that is, practice, watch the video, listen to it, make a list of things that you
want to correct and improve, and make those improvements over time.
Our last step for today is for you to expect criticism.
You will have people disagree with you.
You will have people get angry.
You'll have people ask for refunds and comment on your posts and do things that you don't
agree with, but guess what?
Their opinions of you are none of your business, and I say that with love because you cannot
control people.
Let go of your fear of judgment.
It's none of your business.
Let people think what they think because when you go out there freely and you finally speak
your mind, you will, guaranteed, impact the right people who will thank you day in and
day out.
Now, I want to hear from you.
Become visible below in the comments.
Let me know why you are afraid of being visible and how it shows up in your day-to-day life,
maybe in your business, maybe in your relationships, maybe in your work, and let me know what steps
you're going to take today to get rid of your fear of visibility and finally do the things
you really want to do.
Let's have a conversation.
Now, stay focused on your goals because I believe that you're meant to bring your passions
to the world.
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Until then, have a great week, and I'll see you next time.
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