In this video, you will learn how to make a man worry about losing you using 5 powerful
psychological steps.
So, if you’re in a relationship and feeling taken for granted, or unappreciated, and you
want to remind him of your value and importance in his life then stay right here because you
must make him fearful of losing you.
You see, If your man never worries that you would leave him or that he could lose you,
he will never love, value, and appreciate you the way he should.
That’s because when a man is overconfident and has no fear of you leaving him, he no
longer has to work on securing your love and attention.
And when that happens, it easy for him to take you for granted and underappreciate you.
And too often, this happens when a woman has overinvested in the relationship and put in
way more effort and energy than her partner.
I’m psychologist and relationship coach dr.
Antonio borrello and I’ve seen this happen to hundreds, maybe thousands of women….
and I can tell you this.. when you complete the 5 psychologically based steps I’m about
to show you, you will be amazed at how quickly things turn around and he will be showing
you his love and attention more than ever.
And that all starts with number 1.
1.
Jump Out of the Insecurity Loop When you feel like he’s taking you for granted
or that he doesn’t appreciate you, it’s natural to feel hurt and even angry about
it.
Afterall, you probably worry that his feelings for you have changed and that he might be
slipping away.
And so you talk to him about what you’ve been feeling and hope that he starts to show
you the love and attention he once did.
And sometimes talking to him is enough to temporarily turn things around.
But Unfortunately too often he will get defensive and try to deny what you are feeling.
He might tell you that you are being too sensitive or too needy.
And when he doesn’t validate your feelings, you start looking for more proof to justify
what you feel.
And This can result in you becoming extra sensitive and noticing everything he does
differently or things that he no longer does..
it’s like you are looking for evidence to prove your point….
And when you find it, you reaffirm your insecurity and you bring it to his attention again because
you want your feelings validated.
Then he gets defensive and accuses you of complaining, or nagging and the cycle repeats
itself again and again.
So step one is to jump out of the insecurity loop and let go of your anger for now.
That starts by making yourself a promise that you are not going to bring this topic up again..
at least not yet…
instead, give yourself a break from worrying about it and talking about this issue for
a period of 2-4 weeks.
So, despite how you’re feeling, you must not let him know that you are upset, or sad,
or worried.
and in the meantime, you are going to be doing these steps in order and giving them a chance
to work.
Now step 2 is a game changer.
it works like magic.. and that is no exaggeration.
But, you must do this step correctly so pay close attention.
2.
Adopt an Indifferent Attitude Indifference is the trait of lacking interest
or enthusiasm in things or people.
It’s basically feeling apathy….
When you feel indifference for someone, you neither like them nor dislike them.
You just don’t care one way or another.
Now, Acting Indifferent towards him is the most powerful change agent that you have.
It works so well because it is what men are most afraid of.
That’s because indifference is the opposite of love.
And Nothing is worse than knowing that a person who once loved you doesn’t care about you
at all.
That Indifference means that you could walk away from him and never look back.
Again, Acting indifferent is the most powerful change agent you have, but it is also the
most difficult tip to pull off.
That’s because It requires you to act as if you really don’t care at all one way
or another.
So, you’re not angry with him, and you’re not ignoring him,
Instead, indifference is how you would behave if you actually didn’t care at all.
So, what does that look like?
Well, for example, you wouldn’t be texting him and asking him how he’s doing.
you won’t be reaching out to start conversations, but you aren’t ignoring him either.
instead, you simply respond to his questions or texts in a kind, but short way.
You wouldn’t be asking to see him, but you also wouldn’t be disappointed if he didn’t
try to see you.
And, you would not be ignoring him either because you wouldn’t be angry,
but at the same time, you wouldn’t try to further conversations or engage in any type
of flirting.
You are simply going to be responsive in a very platonic and polite way.
And, you wouldn’t be upset if you didn’t hear from him.
Trust me.. he is going to notice within days, maybe even within hours, and he is going to
start asking you what is going on.
He is going to start panicking.
And that is what needs to happen.. he has to worry that you don’t care about him like
you did before.
But just be prepared.. he is going to protest and try to trigger you.. and, he is going
to want to talk about what is happening.. he’s probably going to accuse you of things.
but you just continue practicing indifference and hold off on talking or reacting.
He has to be convinced that something has changed in you and you no longer care like
you used to.
And, also, This is not something that you’re going to tell him.
In other words, you aren’t going to tell him that you don’t care..
but your actions are going to show him that something is very different about you.
3.
Prioritize Your Fitness AND Glamorize Your Looks
It’s not uncommon for couples in a relationship to put on some extra pounds and make the gym
and their personal fitness less of a priority.
People get comfortable with one another and place less of an emphasis on the being in
their best and most attractive physical shape.
So, if you’ve gained a few pounds and don’t have the same hour glass figure that you had
when you met your man, getting back into shape is something that he will certainly notice
and appreciate.
So make working out and physical fitness a priority.
Make sure he understands how important this is to you and that you have particular fitness
or size goals to meet.
Now, he should be happy that you are making these changes, but he’s also going to know
that you are going to be more attractive to everyone…
other men included..
so, don’t be surprised if he makes comments or asks why you are trying to look so good.
And in addition to prioritizing your health and fitness, you are going to Glamorize Your
Looks.
When in a relationship, it’s common for people to get so comfortable that they let
their appearance fade.
If this resonates with you, it’s time to start glamorizing the way you look when you’re
with him, and when you’re not with him.
So, dress well, make sure your hair and your
skin is glowing..
, Look your best.
He’s going to notice when other men are paying more attention to you and that’s
going to remind him that other men find you attractive.
Now, if you’re a person who is always looking
your best, consider making a change in the way you look.
Perhaps you can change your hair length or color, or change your style of clothing or
your makeup.. just make sure that it’s enough of a change
that he will notice and it’s a change that makes you look sexier and more glamourous.
The psychology behind these changes are two fold.
First, he’s going to be wondering why you’ve made this significant change in the way that
you look..
He’s going to be questioning why it’s so important for you to look better, why you
want to look different?
And he’s going to question if it is because you want to be attractive to other men.
And again, this is going to provoke just a little bit of fear that someone else could
take his place.
The second thing that happens when you change the way you look or the way you dress..
he’s going to be wondering if you’re also changing your feelings.. and if your feelings
for him are changing.
So please….
Don’t underestimate the power that a small physical change can make.
#4 Resurrect Your Social Life Outside of His Go out with your friends and have fun again,
away from your man.
Do something for you… take up a new hobby or do something that you enjoy.
This forces him to recognize your independence and that you’re not just sitting by the
phone waiting for his calls.
Remember, one of the most important things that men find attractive in women is independence.
He’s got to know how full and complete your life is
So when he calls last minute to make plans…
Oops.. sorry, I have plans…
this will make him prioritize and plan his time with you.
He has to earn back that “high priority” status.
So Make other plans and he will start to remember how you used to be available for him, when
he prioritized the relationship..
#5.
Raise Your Standards and Expectations When he notices your changes, he’s either
going to step up his game and become more loving and more like he used to be, or he’s
going to bring up what he’s noticed and want to have a conversation about it.
And that’s perfect.
And when he does, Be clear and honest about what you want and your expectations for the
relationship..
This is when you are going to give him examples of when you’ve felt taken for granted, this
is when you’re going to explain the differences in the way he has been behaving..
So be clear and tell him what you need
Now, I should also say that if you’re dealing with a man who is a playing mind games or
manipulating you, these tips will probably not work that well.. so, Click here to watch
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