- The degree to which you can let go
will be the degree to which you can receive.
And this is one of the most,
I think important secrets when it comes to manifestation,
when it comes to healing,
is that the key is not piling on some really cool idea
or wiring in this confidence or some type of belief system
in order to attract what you want,
it's more so about letting go of the old.
That old could be old pattern, an old belief,
a person, an attachment.
And as you let go of these things,
you then make room and you're then in an ability
and in a vibration to receive that which you want.
So in this video, I'm gonna share with you
the three best kept secrets
that I found a letting go that have made it so easy,
so much easier than it's ever been
and it's gonna save you a lot of times,
it's gonna help you understand this process
and a much easier way to digest the information.
And I'm gonna share with you that right now.
Welcome back to another video.
My name is Aaron
and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now in this video, I'm gonna be sharing with you
letting go and why letting go is so powerful.
Now maybe you've been sitting around, you been like, okay,
I keep hearing about how to let go,
It seems like this really easy idea
but what do I actually do?
That's one of the biggest things till
I realize about me and self-development is like,
what do I need to do?
I have all this awareness now.
I recently did something called plant medicine
in Costa Rica and I became aware of a memory
that I totally forgot about.
It was a memory just to give you a little bit of basis.
I realized that the more I go into my shadow
and the more I become aware
of things I was priorly unaware of,
the more I in a way become more empowered.
So I became aware that when I was a kid,
I felt emotionally abandoned.
When my brother was born,
I was an only child up until I was three years old.
My brother is born all this, the attention shifts
from me to my brother and my brother
had a whole bunch of health complications,
he had asthma, was in the hospital every like two weeks
and the attention shifted.
And in that moment I decided maybe I don't matter.
Maybe there's something wrong with me,
maybe I'm not worthy.
And once I became aware of that,
I'm like, okay, what do I do with this?
Now I know it but what do I do with it?
And for me, I then also, by the way just a little side note,
I realized that what I do in the world with making videos,
a part of me craved significance
from growing a big online following stuff
because I think I was trying to fill the hole
of not feeling like I had attention when I was a kid.
And when I was young
and that was a very powerful insight for me.
But part of me also was like, well,
what do I do with this information now?
What do I do with it?
And once again, there's an element of fear of letting go
that is very important to understand.
Now, when it comes to this process as well,
when I was I think unaware of it,
I was in this energy of just feeling like subconsciously
maybe I'm not worthy, maybe there's something wrong with me.
And then when I became aware of it, I'm like, okay, cool.
I can do something with this, do it, right?
But really what it was is it was letting go
of some type of blame that I may have had towards my mom
without even knowing it
or some towards my brother without even knowing it.
And it was letting go of that
and realizing that the reason I was holding on to that
is because maybe it helped me to survive some way,
anything we do, we do because there's some type of payoff.
And if we blame somebody that may be abused us,
maybe many of you know my story of the ex step-mom
between seven and 16 years old,
that was in my life and I think that
what happened with that is
I was in a way by not blaming her
but like by being in my old story and not forgiving her
it was re-identifying and re-establishing
why I was where I was,
like wasn't discrediting my childhood
and all the pain I went through.
So one of the first secrets to letting go
that makes it so much easier to let go
is realizing that there's nothing you really need to do
but make the choice.
So letting go is actually extremely easy.
The only reason it appears to be hard
is because we many times are conflicted
about making the choice to let something go.
So for example, if you're trying to let go
of an old relationship and it appears very hard,
the reason it appears hard to let go of that relationship
is because part of you knows that intellectually
maybe you should let it go
but there's another part of you that is afraid to let it go
because if you let it go, maybe you'll never get it back.
Maybe that was your one chance,
your one chance of ever finding love.
You see that's what the mind thinks.
Now of course, it's a notion
that doesn't really even logically make sense
but it's what we believe.
We believe that if I were to let go
then I won't actually receive
or if I let go, it's us trying to control
the situations really what it is
but letting go is extremely easy once we make the choice.
Now making the choice means
that you have a level of trust,
that you trust in yourself,
you trust in reality, in the universe,
in God whatever you want to label it as
but you have this level of trust where you realize
that when you let go of something,
you then make room for something as well.
And when you are attached to anybody or anything
it then infuses a level of resistance.
So the more you can recognize that resistance,
the more you see, well,
I thought that by remaining attached to it,
it would actually get me what I want.
But now I see them actually pushing them away.
Have you ever felt attached to somebody
and you really wanted it to go well
and then they felt that resistance and you repelled them?
If you ever really wanted a job, it's like the same thing.
You really go to the interview
and you're hoping everything goes well
but then they feel that resistance
and maybe you repel it.
The key is taking it off a pedestal
and letting go of outcome,
knowing that you're good either way,
have a frame that you're good either way.
So this is the first key to understanding that
letting go is actually extremely easy
but have you made the choice?
And if you haven't made the choice,
maybe you haven't made the choice
because you still believe that by being attached,
which means not letting go
you actually are in a beneficial part, that's good.
That's what the mind thinks.
But once you can look at it and see, you know what?
Holding on and the being attached to it
is actually hurting me
so much easier to let go then.
That's the first secret.
So letting go is actually easy.
Now here's the second secret to letting go.
Here's a rock that is in my backyard.
Okay, I'm gonna put it back when I'm done
because I'm very compassionate towards rocks
and I think they wanna be where they wanna be.
But here's the thing.
This rock right here.
Imagine that when you grow up somebody give you a rock.
So maybe your dad or your mom said,
hey, Aaron, here's a rock.
And then I said, oh, cool.
And I put the rock on my shoulder and said, thanks
or maybe I didn't even know I was carrying the rock
but I started carrying the rock around.
And I didn't recognize that the rock is not even my rock.
So I've been carrying the rock
everywhere I go thinking it's mine
and having reasons, that's the intellect,
that's the attachment
why I should be carrying around this rock?
And I could say, well, my mom gave me this rock.
It's a special rock.
If I let go of the rock, maybe I'm not myself,
maybe somebody gets mad at me.
You see, this is what happens
a lot of times with our beliefs,
we have beliefs that say I'm not worthy.
We have beliefs that say I'm meant to be seen and not heard.
We have these beliefs that we carry around
thinking they're our own when they're not.
They are our parents.
I know that for me,
I understand a co-dependency relationship pattern
that I had, I understand this whole nice guy complex
that my dad had and I had to shed it by realizing
this rock right here ain't mine, it's not mine.
So why am I gonna carry it around?
I'm only gonna keep carrying it around
just because somebody gave it to me?
Maybe if I let it go, I'll get in trouble.
You see, this is what I realized
and in order for me to do that
I had to realize this ain't my rock.
And when that went in
is I picked up the rock and I put it down.
I'm gonna go put it outside later after this video.
But that's the idea
is realizing the second secrets letting go
that makes it so easy is that that's not your rock.
You put the rock down, it's not yours.
Somebody gave it to you.
Most of the beliefs we have
they're given to us by family members, friends,
reference experiences growing up from the news, the media.
And we say, oh, I need to compare myself to other people,
those ain't your rocks, those ain't your rocks,
let go off the rocks.
Why are carrying around so many rocks?
Okay, unless you like carrying around rocks
then start putting them down,
realize they ain't yours.
So letting go is easy, so easy.
Once we make the choice
and realize that those aren't our rocks,
they're not even ours.
Most of the beliefs we have,
most of the patterns that we live.
They come from our parents and our environment growing up.
So once you recognize that you can then let them go
because they ain't yours,
you don't identify with them.
When you think they're yours, you then identify with them
and you carry them around because these are my rocks.
So that makes it so much easier.
Now the third secret to letting go
that makes this so easy
is realizing you don't gotta do anything.
There's nothing you really got to do.
Now you could go and do some type of,
I know this like ceremony I recently went to the Costa Rica.
We did this like permission slip thing
where we put like tobacco in his little cloths
and then would send healing to family members
or friends or our inner child and stuff.
And then we'd then like tie it up
and throw it in this little alter thing
and it was this symbol of us doing something
that didn't help us to then believe that we let go.
Rituals can be very powerful I believe
but it's not so much that you got to do anything
but you got to feel it.
This is the secret.
You got to feel it,
in the past you probably had some type of trauma.
You have emotions coming up.
I'm working with the shadow work integration coach
that I've been working with for months now
and basically all he does is he hold space
for me to then feel and tap into my body
and see what emotions come up.
When I'm around other people,
different feelings come up based on past experience,
based on traumatic childhood things and stuff.
And as these feelings come up, I go into it and I feel it.
So if you wanna heal something from your past, feel it
don't try to repress it,
sometimes the law of attraction we say, oh, if I feel
I'm gonna manifest it.
Feel it, imagine I explained this analogy
to my buddy the other day.
Imagine you've got this big balloon full of pressure
and you want to let go of what's inside the balloon.
What you do is (blows out)
you start to let go of the pressure.
Anytime you feel it, you're letting go
of some of the energy inside of it (blows out).
But every time you stop feeling it,
you clamp it shut (blows out),
it's then shut.
And that balloon then still has the pressure.
If you wanna heal it,
all you gotta do is continue to feel it.
Let it be there, be more curious about it.
My coach tells me this all the time.
Be curious, curious and feel it.
What am I feeling in my body?
There's nothing you really got to do except feel it.
You don't have to sit there and try to push it out.
Try to push it away.
No, this is so much more simpler than we think.
Feel it to heal it.
When you feel it, everything begins to change.
Now I do have a meditation for feeling
and it's called like a process for completing the emotion
from childhood trauma, childhood pain
that allows you to become emotionally free
and feel 100% worthy, whole and complete.
It's one of my most powerful meditations,
it's like a meditation slash activity exercise mixed.
It has, you read the comments
and see what's possible, I'll link up below,
it's fulfilling 100% worthy, whole and complete.
You'll see that, I'll put it in the end card as well.
Other than that, I hope you guys enjoyed this video.
Like this video if you liked it,
like it if you got some type of value
of understanding of how to let go
and then comment below,
let me know how you're gonna let go
what you're going to let go of.
What are you gonna let go?
Let me know.
Anyways, other than that, as always,
I'll (mumbles) in the next video.
Peace, much love and not namaste.