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at university
i didn't spend my money on anything
except for cigarettes and alcohol
basically that was it i would say i had
a particular affection towards women i
had a very warped idea of
male female relationships and i think
the biggest change happened when i met
sophie
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i remember she was always very smiley
very happy and so i wanted to know why
she was always so happy she didn't want
anything to do with me so she had heard
that because i
i didn't really care too much for the
faith she said if he wants to see me he
has to come to mass because she thought
i'd say no and i said okay fine let's go
to mass together then i think that was
sort of the beginning of how i
definitely knew this girl is is going to
be the one because i think that that
started to change the rest of my life i
think this woman isn't just amazing in
her own right but she's actually
bringing me much closer to god than than
anything that's done anything beforehand
really
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one of the big things that i think
actually i prayed for was
was the ability to become the man she
deserved not the man i was then
i had a very
clear idea that if i was going to be
boyfriend and girlfriend it was either
we're going to get married or we won't
get married those were the only options
available
and i think it took me about four weeks
or something after we were to say like
we're gonna get married
she doesn't know it yet but she will
so it was
about
one year and then i asked her to marry
me and then six months later we got
married
there's never a perfect time you know we
always wait for us to both have jobs we
could always have you know a property
secured somewhere or you know a good
position or enough money or order but
you know the truth is i think that i
kind of
had the idea that
the more things that you wait for the
more baggage you come with and it's
better to try and share the baggage and
go the adventure together but also i
just knew i loved her you know you
either we can waste each other's time
now or we get married now we continue
the adventure but married
because of my lifestyle habits i had a
lot of debt that i needed to paid and we
got back from our honeymoon and i think
yeah we had about 100 pounds and so
after about two weeks we had literally
no money whatsoever
you know we were thinking like well how
are we going to eat for the rest of the
week you know we have a place to live
fine but we don't have any food or
anything and you know we would pray
about it we said you know
god is always good you know and he's not
going to let us get married young and do
all these things but then dive off some
starvation you know so we used to and
then we would have friends that we
haven't seen for a very long time they
would come to say like oh you know they
wanted to see us after we got married
and he said i was really sorry i forgot
to get you a present so you know here's
some money and of course we look very
very oh thank you thank you that's
amazing and then they would leave them
like now we can eat you know
neither of us had a proper job secure
that was going to work out for the long
run and things and
i think that caused quite a lot of
anxiety at the time because
you know we were about when we found out
that we didn't have a baby but we had no
real way of knowing if we can support
the baby and i think at that point it
was quite a good reminder that actually
we need to abandon this completely to
god you know it's his plan you know and
and we follow it and try to be docile
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yes
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sophie had a huge impact on my my faith
he was bringing me closer to our lord
every day by taking me to mass by
encouraging me to pray
the more and more i started to get
closer to our lord i think the more and
more i realized that
he's calling me to be to be holy
as a father as as a husband
and and the best way to do that is
through a person to to spread it to
bring more people closer to our lord but
in the the ordinary moment in what we do
in everyday life and give purpose to it
because i'm very lazy and i love to do
my own thing you know i love to go to
the pub i like to play football i like
to do all these kind of things but
knowing that actually when i go to work
i can i can offer up to my lord and and
that's that's what he wants from me are
you happy
very
very very very happy here