Why it feels like narcissists always get away with their lies?
What we can do about it?
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So let's talk about Bill Cosby,
because a lot of people were outraged.
Not only did he actually get prosecuted and convicted
for his acts of sexual assault against women,
he had actually admitted to doing these acts and
he was in prison and a lot of people thought,
okay, this is what was supposed to happen and
he sitting in prison and weirdly, an oddly, and shockingly
to a lot of people, all of the sudden
cell doors are unlocked and there he is,
walking away a free man, and here he is,
smiling and saying hello to the crowds,
as he walks free, and for a lot of people,
I'm sure especially to people who were victims of sexual assault,
it was probably a very dark day and very sad.
A lot of people are probably wondering what happened, and
for those of you who are dealing with narcissists
in court or in negotiation cases,
you're thinking, they go again,
getting away with stuff, and what happened there.
This is a perfect opportunity for me to highlight that
there is a difference sometimes in court between law and
what people perceive to be justice and
I do have a whole video on this called ‘‘This is true justice’’.
I recommend that you check that out as well.
So, apparently what happened in his particular case,
I'm going to talk about Bill Cosby case and
why he actually walked, and then,
I want to talk about why it does seem like
sometimes these people do get away with things and
what actually happens in these cases sometimes and
how you can prevent this, by the way, in your particular case and
this is what I do teach you in the S.L.A.Y program
so you could prevent something like this from happening.
So, apparently what happened in his particular case,
I guess, not knowing the exact ins and outs, obviously,
is that I guess he was in the case, he was not talking,
there are conflicting reports that in order to get him
to say things, to talk, that he was promised
a certain amount of immunity,
if he did talk, if he did say things.
So, during some depositions,
he said some things that were pretty incriminating.
So then, whoever he made this deal with
whatever prosecutor, that particular prosecutor,
was no longer involved with the case,
left the office or whatever.
But then there was a new prosecutor,
a successor prosecutor that became involved with the case.
That particular prosecutor did not honor that agreement,
comes along, uses those statements against him,
those statements are now used in court.
They're used to convict him,
he gets convicted, he goes and gets put in prison and
so as part of his appeal, the appellate attorney said,
‘‘Hey, these statements were used as part of how he was convicted.
These statements should not have been used to convict him
because they were made as part of this promise for immunity
so, therefore they need to be taken out of this case and
without those statements, he would not have been convicted,
so, therefore the conviction should be overturned’’.
So that's my understanding of how he was able to walk away.
So, on appeal,
for those of you who don't understand what happens on appeal,
on appeal, you can look at like, errors as a matter of law,
things like that, you cannot add facts or anything like that.
It's not like a whole new trial you can just look at,
where their mistakes that were made at trial and
so that's why appeals
don’t generally really work that often because most of the time,
the appellate attorneys don't really want
to disturb what happened at trial,
they don't want to substitute their eyes and ears
for whatever the trial judge thought as far as facts and
evidence and things like that,
whatever facts and evidence were presented at trial,
pretty much that universe is closed at that point.
It's just were there are errors made at the time by that judge.
So, anyway that's how he was able to walk.
It was as they say ‘‘a technicality’’.
So, yeah.
Sometimes it does seem like they get away with things,
when they shouldn't get away with things and
that's why there is a difference between law and justice
sometimes and it doesn't seem fair and
sometimes, I've heard the expression fair,
as for the ferris wheel because, fair is, is very subjective.
I mean, it's different for everybody.
Everybody has a different opinion of what is fair,
if we didn't, then, we wouldn't be fighting over things.
Anyway, how can you make sure that you don't have this issue,
make sure that you present your facts,
make sure you present them under the law,
make sure you present them using the elements under the law and
this is what I teach you how to do
in my S.L.A.Y program, by the way.
S.L.A.Y stands for strategy, leverage, anticipating, and focus on you.
By doing that, you create such a strong position that
the other person will want to resolve the case with you,
so that you don't necessarily have to end up in court,
but if you do end up in court,
hopefully you have a strong enough case together,
so that if you do end up on appeal,
you have presented all of the things that you need to,
so that your case holds up on appeal.
So, anyway, that's what the story is with Mr. Cosby.
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