- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers.
Welcome back to another video.
Be honest, how attractive do you think you are?
Without a doubt, you are a catch,
but if you want that teeny tiny boost
to up your attractiveness game,
then you've certainly come to the right place.
Here are eight little habits to make you more attractive,
not that you need it.
Number one, eat a at least one good meal every day.
Remember, we're talking about little habits
not outrageous ones.
Sure, it's nice to have a healthy diet overall.
It promotes heart health,
reduces cancer risk, and improves mood,
but let's be honest,
depriving yourself of that ice cream is not worth it.
Food restrictions and deprivations
are shown to have psychological manifestations,
such as preoccupation with food and eating,
increased emotional responsiveness and distractibility.
That's why it's better to start with one hearty meal
of carbs, veggies and fruits every day,
to add a happy boost to your beautiful attractive self.
Number two, substitute your bad thoughts
with affirming ones.
"I'm gaining too much weight.
My wrinkles are showing a lot.
Why can't I be more independent?"
How many times do you comment on your appearance
or personality every day?
Is it mostly good or bad remarks?
One large scale study found that rumination
and self-blame over negative events
were linked to an increased risk of mental health problems.
You deserve so much in life
and these unpleasant thoughts are not worth your time.
When you say something negative to yourself
why not try to shift it into a better,
more self-appreciative direction,
such as, "Hm, I'm bigger than I was before, but that's okay.
It's a normal part of life
and I love my body for working so hard.
I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for me."
It may feel weird at first.
You may not feel better immediately,
but you're slowly giving yourself
the appreciation it earned.
That's a step forward and it will help a lot over time.
Remember, you are everything you need to be.
That's gorgeous.
Number three, know your basic etiquette.
This means smiling, saying thank you,
excuse me, and being polite.
These actions may seem small, but they help a whole lot.
They're powerful enough to brighten a stranger's dark day.
Researchers, Sara Algoe,
at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill,
and her colleagues studying gratitude,
have found that being thankful and expressing it to others
is good for our health and happiness.
Not only does it feel good,
but it also helps us build trust
and closer bonds with others.
So don't be shy,
a person will always appreciate your kindness.
As Brittany Candau, author of "Have Courage, Be Kind:
The Tale of Cinderella" says,
"You must always remember this, have courage and be kind.
You have more kindness in your little finger
than most people possess in their whole body.
And it has power.
More than you know."
Number four, take time to reflect.
When you know you've made a mistake
do you accept it and move on, or find ways around it?
Life is full of lessons and experiences
and holds the value of the past.
From the moment you were born,
you've created a ripple effect
that influenced the lives around you and beyond.
That's why it's important to look back
and contemplate and think about today.
Who have you helped?
Who have you hurt?
What will you do next?
These little self-reflections will guide you
to become who you wanna be.
It sounds complicated, but it's as simple
as what you're going to do
in the next moment or the next hour.
Be tolerant and open in admitting your mistakes.
With that, you're wiser and more mature every step forward.
Number five, check up on your loved ones.
With life as fast paced as it is now,
people are often so enraptured with their own lives
that they forget to stop for a moment
and cherish the presence of those with them.
Even the simplest, "Hey, how are you?" will do.
People appreciate being checked up on.
It shows them that you're thinking of them
and care enough to leave a message or even go visit them.
When was the last time
you spent a moment with someone gadget free?
According to Griffith College,
switching off technology can provide better sleep,
less anxiety, and quality experiences.
So if your answer is, "Fairly recently,"
then congratulations, you are surely more attractive.
Number six, stand up for your actions and words.
An attractive person is an assertive person.
Assertive communicators can express their own needs,
desires, ideas, and feelings,
while also considering the needs of others.
The point is that confidence is sexy,
but too much of it may make you an you egomaniac,
and that's kind of straying off the attractive path.
When you live up to your actions and deeds,
people see you as trustworthy,
and trust is a major trait people seek in a partner.
So attractiveness, big check.
Number seven, listen to understand.
Author and inspirational thinker,
Stephen Covey, said, "The biggest communication problem
is we don't listen to understand, we listen to reply."
Hm, which one are you?
Listening to reply is the standard way
that most people communicate.
We're humans after all.
It's only normal to exchange words, right?
Well, not so much.
When you are listening to understand,
you're giving them your undivided attention.
Your eyes are focused.
Your body is leaning in.
You're smiling at the right moments.
It provides intimacy,
which the other person can find attractive.
This is because sometimes
people wanna have meaningful conversations
and you can't achieve that by listening halfheartedly.
But becoming an active listener takes practice.
So here are some tips to remember.
Listen, don't interrupt, understand,
try not to judge, respond.
Plus one for attractiveness.
Number eight, be supportive.
In life, you are the main character,
no doubt about that.
You're a star, but that also means
you're someone else's supporting character too.
When you are with the people you love,
you root for them with all your heart.
Being a part of someone's social support system
helps promote their good physical and mental health.
The ability to show your care
for another person is truly attractive.
You're building a deep connection with them
and involving them in your life.
If they don't find that attractive,
then who knows what they will.
I'm just kidding.
Remember that you're already so attractive.
These are only little tips
to make you even more irresistible.
Out of all these points, which do you agree with the most?
Who's the most attractive person you know and why?
Share your stories in the comments section below,
and remember to like and share this video.
As always, the references and studies used
are in the description below.
Until next time, and thanks for watching.