So you’ve done your research and think you have the INFJ
all figured out. But with functions that run so deeply within their inner minds,
do INFJs really show who they are from their outward appearance? No.. not really. In fact, this
rare and unassuming personality type is one of the most difficult to spot from an outside look,
but today we’re going to tell you exactly what to look out for to easily spot an INFJ in minutes!
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the video starting with.. Number 1: Figurative language
The first and foremost thing to look out for when deciphering whether or not someone is an INFJ
is in their verbal cues. INFJs have unbelievably complex introverted
intuitive minds that cause them to seek the deeper meaning of things, however,
their findings and conclusions aren’t exactly so easy to communicate
to others. They tend to use a lot of figurative language and comparisons in an
attempt to put their mind’s work into words easy enough for other people to understand.
They may seem to pause, look elsewhere, or stutter their words in an attempt to find the
right words to use without seeming unnecessarily deep or introspective. In fact, some INFJs may
even resort to using their hands or a pen and paper to effectively communicate their thoughts.
You can expect transition words such as “like” and “um” to litter their speech as they strive
to express themselves as coherently as possible, without losing the interest in the other person.
Number 2: Uncanny listening skills The stereotypical INFJ trait of
attentive listening skills can also pose as a clear indicator of this personality type.
When you talk to an INFJ about something important, you can expect unwavered attention,
eye contact and focus. There will be no phone scrolling, no interrupting and no half-effort
replies. INFJs ask only the most appropriate questions that will allow the opposite party
to effectively communicate their feelings in a way that the INFJ understands on a deeper level. Not
only do people walk away from a deep conversation with an INFJ feeling like they’ve been understood
in a way they never have before, but they can bet that the INFJ will remember every minor detail
for the next time you see them. Once information is stored in their chaotic inner filing system,
it’s there to stay! Bonus points if you talk about something introspective and intellectual
that catches their attention and you’ll see their eyes light up and their personality come alive!
Number 3: The INFJ stare
INFJs are normally quiet and reserved inorder to effectively observe and analyze their
surroundings without too many distractions. And when they’re observing and analysing,
you can expect to witness the infamous INFJ stare. Whether they're caught in deep introspection, lost
in an imaginative daydream, or simply admiring something or someone for the beauty they display,
there’s nothing that quite compares to the intense stare an INFJ gives off. Ironically,
if you bring this to their attention, they’ll have no idea how they looked from the outside,
and probably didn’t even realize they were staring off in the first place.
Of course, other introspective personality types may have their times of staring off
into the distance in an effort to connect to their inner mind, but the INFJ stare comes
with an intensity that is unmatched. Number 4: Always wanting to help
Whether it’s going out of their way to open the door for someone,
paying for someone else’s food, or even being the first one to start cleaning up at a party,
the INFJ gets a high from helping others that they can’t get from anywhere else. Their compassion
and kindness is quite obvious when you’ve spent a good amount of time with an INFJ,
but it doesn’t stop there. In fact, the kindness of this empathetic personality
type is matched with their innate common sense and intuition, which allows them to spot the people
and situations that need help before they’re willing to ask for it. For example, one INFJ
reddit user claimed they “sometimes linger in a grocery aisle for longer than needed when
they spot a person in a wheelchair to make sure they don’t need anything from a higher shelf”.
Now.. that may fall into the category of the INFJs tendency to lend a hand where it’s not really
needed or wanted - but in the times where this tactic actually does assist - it can make their
whole day, and usually the other person’s too! Number 5: Seemingly cold demeanor
Sure, INFJs can be noticeably kind and compassionate, but they’re reserved body
language and facial expressions say otherwise. As a matter of fact, if you were to pass an INFJ
on the streets, you’d probably see their demeanor appearing either sad, lost in thought, irritated
or even slightly angry. Yet, if you were to tap them on the shoulder to ask them for the time,
for example, they would greet you with bright eyes and a warm smile while racing to get you the time
in an orderly fashion. Being highly sensitive and introverted, there’s no doubt most INFJs can feel
a little uncomfortable in certain public settings, and it shows. But aside from that, similar to
the INFJ stare, with introverted intuition being at the forefront of their functions,
this seemingly cold demeanor is nothing more than sheer focus. Despite the reasoning,
there’s no doubt this distant appearance can come across as unapproachable
and intense to the average passer-by. Number 6: A strong sense of independence
INFJs march to the beat of their own drum in almost every aspect of life,
with little focus on how others think. They love their alone time and can surely live a happy life
without having many people around. For example, INFJs for the most part, would prefer a night in
over a night out, a solo travel over a group trip, and independent living over having roommates.
They have specific goals, morals and values that they don’t want to have to rely on someone else
to approve of before going forward. In fact, some INFJs are known to take the non-traditional route
in life in an effort to avoid feeling tied down to a job, or specific way of living. This means they
may be known to do things like taking on that solo travel, starting a business on their own,
and even simple things like not conforming to gender-specific roles within a family dynamic.
With introverted thinking as their tertiary function,
INFJs want to accomplish things on their own terms by being their own bosses in life. In other words,
what INFJs want is what INFJs get, and there’s not really any chance in stopping them.
Number 7: They try not to stand out
Despite the rare and uncommon quirks of the INFJ personality type that cause them to stick out like
a sore thumb in certain scenarios, most of the time, this introverted being prefers to blend
in with the background of things. They don’t want to be the centre of attention and they never want
to be personally rewarded for something that took a team effort. The INFJ is known to actually take
conscious efforts in hope of blending in or seeming.. normal. For example, they know they
tend to stare when in deep introspection, so they make conscious efforts to avoid it the best they
can for the sake of other people. Quite frankly, if an INFJ could opt for being a fly on the wall
in social gatherings, it probably wouldn’t be so difficult to get them to come out of hiding.
Number 8: Depth & intensity
Once you’ve cracked the INFJ’s surface, the following layers just keep getting deeper
and deeper. Not everyone will be invited to see this side of the INFJ, but if you do,
you can consider yourself approved by their intuitive radar. The depth and intensity of an
INFJ isn’t always so apparent until you get them talking about something they’re interested in;
a topic they’ve had a good amount of time to analyse and ruminate on. And while they
try to keep their explanations and viewpoints as surface-level as possible to ensure they
don’t lose their listener - their passion shines through and causes them to dive-deep
no matter how hard they try. They’re known to ask seemingly personal questions,
blurt out insightful blurbs or opinions, and take the simplest of topics into a whole new realm of
curiosity that other personality types are usually a little taken-aback by. INFJs can see a world
that others can’t, and they so desperately want to share it with the right people.
Well, that wraps up today’s video, Psych-os.. Do you think you’ve come across an INFJ according
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