I have met people that think, well, I don't set goals.
I don't take time for goals,
but they still have goals and objectives that they want to meet in their life.
But I'd like to address something that you may not have thought about.
Are your goals conflicting amongst themselves?
In the 1980s, when I was doing consulting for a doctor offices,
I did about a thousand doctors offices during that decade,
and I watched doctors set unbelievable goals, that conflicted,
let me give you an example. They said,
I want to make a million dollars a year in practice.
And then I want to work three and a half days a week.
And then I want to travel and I want to spend time with my family and I want to
be able to go golfing and I wanna be able to work out and I want to do
all these different things that they wanted to do.
And when we added up how many hours that they want to do them,
how much money they wanted to generate, how many patients they were saeing,
how many dollars each patient visit was.
And I put them all together and we'd looked them out.
It was filled with contradictions. And so the brain, when it gets that,
because I don't know what to do with it.
And so it just shuts down and associates pain and conflict with the very pursuit
of goals. And if you wonder why you can't stay focused on them,
because they're one not achievable. And two,
your brain is associating pain with going after them,
because it's confusing to the brain. It says, 'I want this,
but I want that.' It's like, you're saying,
'I want to spend time with my family and my children,
but I want to grow my business.' And I have to, in, in order to do it,
I got to put 40 to 60 or a hundred hours a week into it. And so you're going,
but I won't do this. And you're, you're juggling these goals.
And a lot of people understand what it's kind of like the supermom syndrome at
home,
but it's like the super life syndrome with goals that conflict with each other.
If you've never taken the time to look down,
look literally and write down in your mind what you really really know for
sure you want in life, not fantasies, not delusions, but things, you know,
your life is demonstrating you're working towards and write them all down and
then look at exactly what is the amount of work it takes to get there.
And how do you effectively and efficiently take the actions to get that goal?
How much time it's going to take,
and then look at all the other goals and check and make sure you've literally
set goals that are reasonable, that are doable.
Now that doesn't mean you can't delegate actions to get it done.
And that may be the key to the goal.
You may have to outsource some of the components of the goals to get it all
done, but if it's not congruent with you, either outsource it,
rearrange it, reschedule it,
or figure out a way of doing it more effectively and efficiently in less time.
But somehow the goals have to be real.
And I'm amazed at how many people set these fantasies up and these delusions up
and they just can't get them done. The brain won't allow it.
And so I just want to take a few moments to discuss how important it is to go
through your goals in every area of your life.
Cause you're pursuing things in all areas. You have spiritual quest,
you have intellectual quest, you have business quest,
possibly you have financial quest, family and relationship quest.
You have social influential quest. You have physical fitness quest. All of them.
If you write down all the things you want, you'll be surprised.
You may be filling lots of conflict, trying to get them all, juggling them all.
And you're doing this.
And then this one's dropping and doing this and this one's dropping.
You need to have a cohesive system that you focus that allows all of them to be
included. And you need to make sure that they're not conflicting.
I used to do a program, an original form of Master Planning for life.
I still do that program today. And we map out and look at all the goals,
but we used to do it on a big,
big poster board and map it all out and make sure there was congruency.
And to make sure there wasn't overlapping in time.
And the second people saw that clearly they got inspired.
They saw how they could do it.
They knew the action steps and they didn't have conflicts.
That is huge in goals. And sometimes it's overlooked and not addressed.
So many people out there teaching about how to set goals and everything else,
but that one component, are the goals conflicting with each other?
So important to stop and reflect on that.
If you don't take the time to look very carefully, like I said,
with the doctors, they've said they want to make a million dollar practice.
They want to work three or four days a week. Let's say four days a week. Okay.
Four days a week million dollar practice means they have to make about $80,000 a
month. Well, in a month, there's four weeks.
So that means you need $20,000 a week. And let's say that their office,
it is $40 and they can need to make 20,000.
That means you need to see 500 patients a week. Well,
they want to do four days a week. That's 125 patients a day. And they mean,
well, that means I've got to go out and market and get 125 patients a day.
Well then I, but I don't want to work that many hours. And I don't,
and I can't charge that much. And,
and all these things come up when you actually confront them and they realize,
Oh my God,
what I'm asking for is not even possible with whatever I'm asking for over here.
And I'm wanting to go golfing, I want to spend time with my kids.
I want to do this. I don't have the hours to do that.
And I don't know how to charge that much.
So either gotta rearrange the goals and make sure that there's congruency to map
what's really true for their life or they're automatically gonna defeat.
And this is exactly what happens.
People put internal frustrations cause they didn't have any clarified goals that
aren't conflictive.
So I just wanted to take a few moments to share that because you may or may not
be aware of your goals. Some are conscious, some are unconscious,
and you may not be aware of the conflicts that they are initiating.
And if you're having anxiety and stress around them,
you may be doing it because the way you've structured it and taking the time to
actually write them all down, look at the strategies, look at the hours,
look at the income, look at all the things you need to do and get real.
The moment you get real, there's a huge load off your back.
You now know what you can do. You can get things done.
It's more reasonable and you don't fight yourself,
but just know that you can always outsource and delegate other components to get
things done. Let's say you want to write a book.
You can sit down and write it yourself that may take hours and hours and hours.
Or you may be able to sit down and do a presentation and record it and have
somebody transcribe it or a system to transcribe it and then give it to an
editor and get a book done. You may have to go work over here,
making the income and pay for somebody there, but the goal can get done.
And you're more likely to get it done because the hours won't allow otherwise.
And you don't want to go and dilute your hours.
And can't guarantee that you're going to get a return on your investment from
the book compared to the hours, you can be doing your primary business.
So you have to restructuring your goals in such a way that you maximize your
most productive use of your time in the highest priority way,
delegating as much as possible and making sure the goals aren't conflictive.
If you have delegation,
you have way more latitude to make sure you can overrule,
overrule that conflicting component,
but just know that if you don't take the time to go through it,
you may be sitting there banging your head against the wall,
trying to get goals that are actually contradictory to each other.
And I've seen this after working in a thousand doctor's offices in the 1980s,
I watched this over and over again happen.
I only found two doctors that had really clear goals that didn't conflict.
The rest of the people had conflicts.
And they're wondering why they're banging their head against the wall,
trying to get things that they said they want.
You can't put fantasies and delusions down and not strategize through that.
That's the reason why we have an executive center to strategize goals and to
think it through and anybody that's run a major business knows that that's
important to put that thing together and make sure you have it mapped out
thoroughly or at least unfolded gradually over time.
Cause otherwise you're just going to frustrate the hell out of yourself trying
to go after something that's contradictory inside your own mind.
I had that in my own experience back in the eighties, myself,
that's where I learned that. I said I wanted to do this. I said,
I wanted to do this. And I realized I was running out of time.
I just couldn't do it.
And at first I was trying to overwhelm myself with goal overruns and also not
sleep. But I realized that I had to prioritize and I had to realize I had to get
grounded and get real about it.
And that calmed down fantasies and got grounded into realities and allowed me to
achieve more. And once I got congruent on that and got it clear,
I got way more achievement, way less frustration, a lot less activities,
and a lot more delegation.
I freed myself up to do more extraordinary things and build momentum.
So I wanted to take the time to give you those insights.
Every week in the Breakthrough Experience program I do,
I have people write down love list,
and I explain to them how important it is to go through and really make sure
you're not writing just a bunch of fluff down.
You're really making sure that you're getting clear about that and make sure
it's congruent. If it's not concurrent with your highest values,
if it's not thought through where there's removing the conflicts,
you're very likely to bang your head against the wall and frustrate the hell out
of your life going after what you say you want,
your brain will automatically want to avoid it because of the pain of the
actually processing it. So make sure you set goals that are clear,
make sure that they're congruent with what you value most.
Make sure that they're not conflictive and make sure that they're prioritized
and make sure you give yourself permission to delegate anything that's lower in
priority to get you to fulfill what's highest in priority.