I'm going to tell you in this video.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I'm a narcissist negotiation expert.
I help people shift the dynamic,
how to flip the dynamic,
whether it's a divorce, in a relationship,
whether it's a narcissistic
husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend,
whatever it is,
whether you dealing with them in a business relationship,
whoever it is, I help you.
So, if that's you and you want to shift that dynamic,
make sure that you hit that notification bell,
because I want to help you shift that dynamic,
I want to help you become stronger against narcissists,
because I'm on a mission, I'm on a crusade,
I've had to deal with narcissists
in my personal life and my law practice and
I'm the only lawyer on the planet right now
who's really teaching people how to do this.
So, how to break a narcissist down, all the way down,
so that you can get free, truly free and
I know how to do it, I've done it myself and
I've helped thousands of people do it too,
like, actually do it, who actually slayed.
S.L.A.Y is my system for how to do it,
Strategy, leverage, anticipate, focus on you and yourself.
So, they started conditioning you from the beginning.
By the way, they didn't attach themselves to you
because you had so little value,
even though that's what they want you to think,
they attach themselves to you,
because you have so much value.
Think about it.
They love you because you have so much value.
They love exerting control over someone who’s so valuable,
that makes them feel more powerful.
But the first thing you got to do,
is recognize they've been conditioning you all along and
you've allowed it.
I know, harsh words, but yeah, it's true.
So, you got to stop the conditioning and
no, they're not going to like it,
but that's okay.
You got to think about it
in terms of like a two year old having a tantrum,
two year olds, they have tantrums and
what happens is, it's sort of like,
they know that mom and dad,
the more they're going to have a tantrum,
that next time all they have to do is scream louder, scream harder,
and mom and dad are going to give in.
So, what do mom and dad have to do?
They just have to go,
“All right, we just gotta let them scream and cry a little bit longer”,
because they'll just eventually give up and
that's what you're doing with the narcissist,
you gotta just get through their screaming and crying,
because they're the worst right before they're ready to give up.
The not-so- secret secret is,
that they're actually way more afraid of you than you are of them.
So, the first thing you got to do,
is stop your conditioning by recognizing what's going on.
So, just stop.
They are getting supply from that conditioning of you,
you're giving them supply,
so you got to cut off that supply source
by starting to throw up some boundaries.
And again, no they're not going to like it,
they're going to put up a fuss,
you got to be okay with that at the beginning.
So, how are they going to come?
It's hard to say,
but it maybe some guilt trips that are going to come your way,
they're going to throw out some barbs,
they may start flooding your emails.
What are they going to do when you start shutting them down?
It's okay when that happens,
but you're going to have to be okay with that.
You can check out some of my videos,
what happens when you say “Goodbye” to a narcissist,
that sort of thing.
You're going to have to ignore
what they end up doing when when that happens.
I have tons and tons of videos on this channel
so that you can start getting educated
on what's going on with narcissism.
Get that strategy and leverage.
That's my whole S.L.A.Y system,
strategy, leverage, anticipate, focus on you and
you can grab my “Crush my negotiation” prep worksheet,
you can get that at winmynegotiation.com.
But, start getting that prepared,
start getting everything you're going to need prepared
so that you can start getting ready to negotiate with them,
or whatever it is that you're going to need to do.
So start getting everything, all your ducks in a row,
don't think that you're going to be able
to do the whole collaborative thing,
or whatever it is you're going to need to do,
if you're negotiating with narcissists.
If you're not negotiating with them, that's different.
Putting boundaries in place, put them in place,
keep your conversations as brief as possible,
go no contact, all that sort of thing.
You're definitely going to need it, it's not easy.
You definitely will have some stuff going on in your head,
maybe some trauma bonding, maybe you might need therapy,
you might need some other support systems in place,
such as your friends, your family, that sort of thing,
but get whatever support you need in place,
because you're going to need it.
I mean, I always joke, but I'm actually not joking,
that I never leave my thoughts unsupervised,
I always make sure I have good things going into my thoughts,
because your input, equals your output.
I'm always listening to e-books, good podcasts, motivational stuff,
because I want my vibrational energy to be as high as possible.
And I keep good people around me.
You are a product of the top five people around you,
make sure that the top five people around you
are vibrationally high and awesome.
So, be very vigilant about those top 5 people around you as well.
You guys got this, I know you're slaying it;
but that's how you break a narcissist and
break them down is cut off their source of supply,
because that is their food, that is their lifeblood,
that is their oxygen.
They're very simple, while their heinous to deal with,
they’re actually, very, very simple creatures to understand.
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Remember you guys got this, you can definitely do this.
Today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
I will definitely see you in the next video.