WE ARE HERE WITH DR. PHIL, I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE
IN THE STUDIO AND I AM HERE, THIS FEELS VERY, VERY STRANGE TO
ME.
SO WHERE ARE YOU, ARE YOU UPSTAIRS OR DOWNSTAIRS OR ARE
YOU OUT IN THE PARKING LOT?
WHERE ARE YOU?
>> HEY, PHIL, I'M EVERYWHERE.
>> I'M GOING TO FIND YOU.
>> James: YEAH, I WOULD HAPPILY HAVE THE COMPANY NOW
PHIL THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING FO BEING THERE EVEN THOUGH I'M
NOT, IT MEANS A GREAT DEAL, FIRST WE HAVE TO CONGRATULATE
YOU, WE'VE HAD A BUSY SUMMER AM YOU TURN 70 YEARS OLD,
CONGRATULATIONS.
>> MADE IT.
>> James: AND YOU CELEBRATED 44 YEARS OF MARRIAGE.
YOU'VE GOT TWO PUPPIES.
YOU'VE GOT A GRAND BABY ON THE WAY.
IS YOUR LIFE BUSIER NOW THAN IT EVER HAS?
THAT IS A LOT GOING ON.
>> I'M NOT SURE.
I CAN'T REMEMBER.
I CAN REMEMBER SONG LYRICS FROM THE '80S BUT I CAN'T REMEMBER
WHY I WENT IN THE KITCHEN THIS MORNING.
IT'S COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.
BUT I DO HAVE TWO NEW RESCUE PUPPIES.
AND THEY'RE KEEPING ME REALLY BUSY.
WE GOT A GRAND BABY ON THE WAY, A LOT HAPPENING.
SO VERY EXCITING SUMMER.
>> James: I WANT TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT THIS BECAUSE I HAVE
BEEN MARRIED FOR EIGHT YEARS NOW.
>> James: WE'RE JUST IN THE WARMUP RIGHT NOW.
>>EXACTLY.
>> James: 44 KREERS OF MARRIAGE IS INCREDIBLE.
WHAT IS YOUR TIP, WHAT IS THE SECRET FOR HAD 44 YEARS OF
MARRIAGE?
>> WELL, THERE ARE A FEW.
FIRST UNDERSTAND WHEN YOUR WIFE SAYS WHAT?
IT ISN'T THAT SHE DIDN'T HEAR WHAT YOU SAID.
SHE IS GIVING YOU A CHANCE TO CHANGE WHAT YOU SAID?
YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT.
AND SEIZE THAT MOMENT AND CHANGE WHAT YOU SAID.
THAT IS YOUR SECOND CHANCE.
SHE'S NOT CLARIFYING, SHE'S GIVING YOU A SECOND RUN SO YOU
GOT TO TAKE IT.
AND SERIOUSLY THOUGH I MARRIED WAY OVER MY HEAD.
AND ROBIN WE'VE BEEN TOGETHER ALMOST 50 YEARS NOW.
AND I HAVE NOT AGED WELL AND ROBIN, WELL, YOU KNOW ROBIN.
I MEAN THAT GIRL WOULD MAKE A DOG BREAK ITS CHAIN.
SHE IS REALLY GOOD LOOKING.
AND THEN THERE'S ME.
>> James: I DON'T KNOW ABOUT THAT, I THINK YOU ARE BEING HARD
ON YOURSELF, BEING A BIT TOUGH ON YOURSELF.
LOOK AT YOU, IN GREAT SHAPE, YOU PLAY TENNIS EVERY DAY.
>> I DO PLAY TENNIS EVERY DAY, I DO TRY AND STAY IN SHAPE.
HAVE I BEEN BALD SINCE THEN, THAT IS THE ONE GOOD THING ABOUT
BEING BALD, YOU LOOK THE SAME ALL THE TIME.
YOU PUT A LITTLE COLOR, YOU LOOK THE SAME EVERY DAY.
>> James: I WANT TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT THIS, YOU RECENTLY SET
TIKTOK ON FIRE WITH A VIDEO THAT YOU POSTED.
TAKE A LOOK.
>> DON'T COMMENT DADDY ON ALL OF YOUR POSTS, I AIN'T YOUR DADDEE,
I HATE TO BREAK IT TO YOU, I AIN'T YOUR DADDY.
AND YOUR REAL DADDY PROBABLY GETS HIS FEELINGS HURT, I
APPRECIATE THE SUPPORT BUT IT'S WEIRD.
BUT I DO APPRECIATE THE SUPPORT.
>> James: IS THIS A REAL THING?
>> IT IS A REAL THING.
THIS IS A JOKE THAT MY FOLLOWERS AND I HAVE BETWEEN US.
BUT THEY ALL CALL ME DADDY FOR SOME REASON.
THERE IS NOBODY THAT GETS TO CALL ME DADDY EXCEPT WELL ROBIN,
GETS TO CALL ME DADDY SOMETIMES.
BUT THIS IS JUST A JOKE I HAVE WITH A LOT OF MY FOLLOWERS.
WE TEASE BACK AND FORTH SO I POSTED THIS.
THERE SAY TREND ON TIKTOK LIKE YOU GOT TO STOP THIS, AND YOU
FILL IN THE SENTENCE.
30 MILLION PEOPLE HAVE SEEN THIS SIDIO.
PEOPLE HAVE WAY TOO MUCH TIME ON THEIR HANDS.
>> James: THEY CERTAINLY HAVE.
I AM INTERESTED, WHEN DID DR. PHIL MAKE THE DECISION TO
JUST JUMP WITH BOTH FEET STRAIGHT INTO TIKTOK?
>> LOOK, MY SOCIAL MEDIA TEAM CAME IN AND SAID YOU SHOULD OPEN
A TIKTOK AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS.
I SAID WELL, WHAT EVER THAT IS, OKAY.
>> James: NOW TODAY THE DOCTOR PHIL SHOW WILL CELEBRATE 19
SEASONS.
WHEN YOU STARTED THE SHOW DID YOU EVER THINK I WILL BE DOING
THIS FOR 19 SEASONS?
>> YOU KNOW, I REALLY HADN'T THOUGHT THAT MUCH ABOUT IT.
I HAD REALLY NO CONCEPT OF THIS KIND OF LONGEVITY.
BUT IT SEEMS LIKE IN SOME RESPECTS WE JUST STARTED
YESTERDAY AND IN SOME RESPECTS, IT SEEMS LIKE THE ONLY THING
I'VE EVER DONE.
YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE.
WHEN ARE YOU DOING IT EVERY DAY AND DAYS TURN INTO WEEKS, WEEKS
TURN INTO MONTHS.
AND I FEEL REALLY FORTUNATE TO HAVE BEEN DOING THIS FOR 19
YEARS, COMING INTO EVERYBODY'S HOME EVERY DAY, PARTICULARLY
WHEN YOU KNOW WE DON'T DO A LOT OF CELEBRITIES AND STUFF.
WE JUST TALK TO REGULAR PEOPLE ABOUT COMMON SENSIC EL THINGS IN
THEIR LIVES BUT I JUST AM REALLY BLESSED, THAT I HAVE BEEN DOING
IT FOR 19 YEARS.
AND TO BE RATED NUMBER ONE IN THE CATEGORY, IS REALLY AMAZING.
I FEEL REALLY FORTUNATE.
>> KNEW YOU MENTIONED THAT YOU ARE RATED NUMBER ONE.
AND I WAS INTERESTED TO ASK YOU, WHAT DOES THAT FEEL LIKE?
>> WELL, I CAN TELL YOU EXACTLY.
IT FEELS LIKE OPRAH QUIT.
THAT'S WHAT IT FEELS LIKE BECAUSE I WAS NUMBER TWO FOR
LIKE 11 YEARS AND THEN SHE QUIT.
>> SO THAT IS THE QUEE.
>> YEAH, STICK AROUND, YOU WILL BE NUMBER TWO.
GOOD TO KNOW, GOOD TO KNOW.
NOW I WANT TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT THIS.
BACK IN APRIL THERE WAS LOTS OF COMMENTEDS, LOTS OF CHATTER I'M
SURE YOU ARE AWARE ABOUT WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT CORONAVIRUS WHILE
WERE YOU ON THE FOX NEWS NETWORK.
WHAT DID YOU MAKE OF THE REACTION TO WHAT YOU SAID?
>> YOU KNOW, IT'S NOT REALLY WHAT YOU SAY IN THIS DAY AND
TIME, IT'S WHERE YOU SAY IT.
BECAUSE I DIDN'T REALLY SAY ANYTHING I HADN'T SAID MANY
TIMES BEFORE.
WE DID 30 OR 35 SHOWS ON CORONAVIRUS AND YOU KNOW I'M NOT
AN INFECTIOUS DISEASE EXPERT.
I'M NOT A CORONAVIRUS EXPERT.
I WORKED ON THE MENTAL HEALTH ASPECT OF IT.
WE RELY ON EXPERTS THAT WE HAD ON FROM HARVARD AND DUKE AND ALL
OF THESE TOP LEARNING CENTERS IN THE COUNTRY.
AND MY FOCUS IS ON THE MENTAL HEALTHAND MY POINT, MY CONCERN
IS THAT THE FALLOUT FROM EXTENDED QUARANTINE PARTICULARLY
ON CHILDREN WHO ARE MISSING OUT ON SCHOOL AND THE RISKS
ASSOCIATED WITH LONELINESS, PROLONGED QUARANTINE, THESE
THINGS HAVE A COST OF THEIR OWN.
THERE IS RISK FROM CORONAVIRUS OF COURSE.
BUT THERE IS ALSO RISK FROM BEING LOCKED AWAY FOR A LONG
PERIOD OF TIME IN ISOLATION.
AND OF COURSE NOW ALL OF THOSE THINGS HAVE COME TO THE
FOREFRONT AND ARE COMING THROUGH.
SO THOSE THINGS ARE NOT AT ALL TROARVETIONAL NOW BECAUSE
EVERYBODY SEES THE EFFECT OF THAT.
AND I'M VERY CONCERNED THAT WE GET OUR CHILDREN BACK TO SCHOOL
AS SOON AS WE CAN DO SO SAFELY.
BECAUSE THAT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO AVOID DEVELOPMENTAL DELAYS,
EDUCATIONAL DELAYS, SOCIAL DELAYS.
IT VL IMPORTANT WE GET OUR CHILDREN BACK.
>> I MEAN IN TERMS OF-- IN TERMS OF, YOU KNOW, PEOPLE PROTECTING
THEIR MENTAL HEALTH DURING THIS TIME, WHAT TIPS WOULD YOU GIVE
TO PEOPLE TO BEST PRESERVE THEIR MENTAL HEALTH THROUGH WHAT I'M
SEEING, A YEAR LIKE MANY PEOPLE HAVE NEVER REALLY LIVED THROUGH
BEFORE.
>> IN IS SOMETHING NEW FOR US.
AND I THINK I CAN SUM IT UP REALLY WELL IN A PHRASE THAT HAS
BEEN AROUND A LOT WHICH IS ALONE TOGETHER.
WE HAVE TO REACH OUT TO OTHER PEOPLE EVEN IF IT IS
ELECTRONICALLY BY FACE TIME OR WHATEVER.
AND HERE IS THE KEY JAMES, THE WAY TO FILL A VOID WITHIN
YOURSELF IF YOU ARE FEELING LONELY, IF YOU ARE FEELING
EMPI-- EMPTY OR ISOLATED, GIVE AWAY THAT WHICH YOU NEED THE
MOST.
IF YOU ARE FEELING LONELY, FIND SOMEBODY IN YOUR APARTMENT
BUILDING OR IN YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD, MAYBE AN ELDERLY
PERSON ON THE CORNER THAT YOU KNOW IS BY THEMSELVES.
GO KNOCK ON THEIR DOOR AND STEP BACK, YOU KNOW, WAY BACK FOR
SOCIAL DISTANCING AND SAY HEY, I KNOW YOU LIVE HERE ALONE.
IS THIS SOMETHING I CAN DO FOR YOU.
WOULD YOU JUST LIKE TO VITS.
YOU PROBABLY DON'T WANT TO GIVE YOUR PHONE NUMBER BUT HERE IS
MINE.
WOULD YOU LIKE TO TALK, WOULD YOU LIKE TO GET ON FACE TIME,
CAN I RUN AN ERRAND FOR YOU, GIVE AWAY WHAT YOU NEED THE MOST
THAT FILLS YOU UP QUICKER THAN ANYTHING ELSE YOU CAN DO.
(APPLAUSE) >> I DO FEEL LIKE THAT'S ONE OF
THE FEW SORT OF POSITIVES THAT I FOUND, BECAUSE NORMALLY IF I
CALL A FRIEND OR I SPEAK TO MY FAMILY AT HOME OR WHATEVER, YOU
SAY HOW ARE YOU DOING, YOU GO I'M GREAT, EVERYTHING IS GREAT,
YEAH, I'M FANTASTIC.
AND NOW FOR THE FIRST TIME I'M SPEAKING TO LIKE BUDDIES OF MINE
BACK HOME IN LONDON AND SAYING HOW ARE YOU DOING.
FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE I CAN REMEMBER THEY GO OH, I'M
STRUGGLING.
I'M NOT DOING GREAT.
AND I DO SEE THAT AS A POSITIVE, THE SHARING WITH PEOPLE HOW YOU
ACTUALLY FEELING.
>> YOU KNOW, IT IS THE PRINCIPAL OF PRESS ROSSITY-- RECIPROCITY,
YOU PASS SOMEBODY AT THE MALL ON THE STREET, HOW ARE YOU DOING,
FINE, YOU, FINE, YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE.
I THINK NOW PEOPLE ARE WILLING TO BE MORE VULNERABLE AND SAY
YOU KNOW WHAT, I'M ACTUALLY STRUGGLING HERE.
I WAS SO PROUD TO SEE JACK PRESCOTT OF THE DALLAS COWBOYS,
GO COWBOYS, ACTUALLY COME OUT AND SAY HE WAS REALLY FIGHTING
SOME DEPRESSION DURING THIS PANDEMIC.
HE LOST HIS BROTHER SEVERAL YEARS AGO.
HE HAD REALLY TIME TO DWELL ON THAT DURING THE PANDEMIC.
AND HE CAME OUT AND SPOKE ABOUT THAT.
AND FOR PEOPLE TO SAY HEY IF SOMEBODY LIKE THAT CAN
EXPERIENCE IT, IT IS OKAY FOR ME TO ACKNOWLEDGE IT.
AND THEN SOMEBODY IN THE PRESS CAME OUT AND CRITICIZED HIM FOR
IT WHICH WAS INCREDIBLY TONE DEAF AND INSENSITIVE BUT I
THOUGHT IT WAS GREAT HE CAME OUT AND SAID THAT, IT INVITES OTHER
PEOPLE TO SAY IT'SQ O.
BECAUSE WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT THIS, IF YOU GIVE YOUR FEELINGS
A VOICE IT IS VERY CATH CATHARTIC T HELPS TO TALK
ABOUT IT.
>> SO MUCH, CERTAINLY IN AMERICA IT FEELS LIKE SUCH A DIVIDED
NATION.
I MEAN WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON HOW I, HOW CAN WE REPAIR THAT.
>> WELL YOU KNOW, WE'VE GOT TO START LISTENING AND TRYING TO
FIND, ANY TIME I AM A'S IN A ASSOCIATION WITH SOMEBODY, THE
FIRST THING I TRY TO DO IS SAY WHAT CAN I DO TO GET THEM THE
MOST OF WHAT THEY WANT THAT I CAN POSSIBLY DO.
BECAUSE YOUR NATURAL TENDENCY IS TO SAY HOW DO I GET WHAT I WANT.
BUT OFTENTIMES YOU WANT DIFFERENT THINGS.
IF YOU CAN SAY HOW DO I GET THEM THE MOST OF WHAT THEY WANT, YOU
OFTEN FIND OUT HEY, WE WANTED DIFFERENT THINGS.
THEY VALUE MONEY, I VALUE TIME, THEY VALUE THIS, I VALUE THAT.
WE WANTED DIFFERENT THINGS AND WE CAN GIVE AND TAKE.
BUT RIGHT NOW PEOPLE ARE SO FRIGHTERNED THAT THEY ARE NOT
LISTENING.
YOU KNOW, EVERYBODY IS REALLY RATCHETING UP THE RHETORIC AND
NOT LISTENING TO FIND SOME COMMON GROUND.
IF YOU CAN START BY SAYING OKAY, LET'S JUST BEGIN BY WHAT WE
AGREE ON.
WE CAN TALK ABOUT WHAT WE DISAGREE ON BUT FIRST LET'S MAKE
A LIST OF WHAT WE AGREE ON, AND START FROM THERE.
SOMETIMES YOU ARE REALLY SURPRISED ABOUT HOW MUCH YOU
ACTUALLY AGREE ON.
>> James: TOM, THAT'S YOUR POINT TO RUN TO THE-- SORRY,
DR. PHIL, TOM, YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO RUN TO THE BUTTON AND HIT.
>> ONE SECOND, SORRY.
>> James: COME ON, BULLEDDEE, THAT WAS CLEARLY AN APPLAUSE
BREAK.
(CHEERS AND APPLAUSE).