hi everyone I'm Adrienne Everheart your feminine energy dating and relationship
coach and in this video I'm gonna give you tips on how to avoid and get out of
gridlock gridlock when you've hit a place in your relationship where no
one's compromising no one's budging and you're in this state of conflict I'm
gonna help you so stick around so so often when you're in gridlock with your
partner both of you have dug your heels in and the situation is just not getting
better in fact it's getting worse one of the toxic things about gridlock is that
it actually infects the rest of the relationship you go from having this one
thing that you're arguing about you're discussing in a really heated you know
moment in situation but it begins to show up in all sorts of places from
where you're gonna park at the movies to what time you're gonna eat dinner it
really starts infecting your relationship from all angles so gridlock
is totally frustrating and it's where neither of you want to compromise the
reason arguments happen is one person wants it their way
or sometimes both people want it their way so here's some tips about how to get
out of gridlock the first one I want to share with you is that I want you to
envision how you want this situation to end it could be something as simple as
you and your husband or boyfriend just embracing each other with a nice
warm hug and looking into each other's eyes and saying oh I'm so glad we
figured out how to do this or oh I feel so much better having spoken to you so I
want you to imagine a really positive outcome number two I want you to if you
can include a little bit of humor now you're probably in a situation where
your tempers are flaring and you're both probably not liking each other very much
in that moment and I want you to figure out some way to bring a little bit of
humor a little bit of happiness to really get you guys back to that loving
place that loving energetic place that you're at that is one of the beautiful
things about feminine energy is that we can bring warmth in
almost any situation children are also great at this as well so I want you to
go to a little childlike place where you can bring a little humor into the
situation or argument and see if it can't lighten the mood and help you get
to that problem-solving place for the compromise to take place step number
three you can always agree with your partner now sometimes your partner might
be accusing you of being selfish or insecure or something like this and you
can say well yeah you know I am a little insecure well yeah I am being a little
selfish here and agree with them so the amazing thing that happens when you
agree with your partner is you actually put them off their Center they're now
coming from a place of instead of armed with all this defense against you you
are now waving the white flag and saying well yeah I can be this way a little bit
so if you can use these three tools it will help you dig yourself at a gridlock
and stop it from infecting other places of your relationship one of my favorite
scripts that I use out of my ebook 500 ways to talk to a man where if you
haven't gotten your copy please use the link below in the description 500 ways
to talk to a man has more than 500 scripts and phrases that help you
connect right to your man's heart and really make it so he can hear your heart
speaking to him now my favorite phrase for this is I want to fix this what
should we do when you say that to a man you activate him into his masculine
energy and he begins doing what he does best which is fixing things so try that
script out and also check out my ebook in the link below and as always if you
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