hi everyone Adrienne Everheart here with you just making a quick live video before you start your
weekend and I want to talk about some tips to soften your vibe with a man now this video is
definitely for the ladies or if you're in a masculine feminine relationship energy wise
this will also work for you because one of you is more feminine energy which is a softer more
receiving energy by Nature and the other one is a more masculine energy which is more giving
doing action by Nature okay now I have a lot of masculine energy and guess what I'm a girl so this
means I'm very good at business I'm very confident I have a lot of action and willpower and can do a
lot of things I can make a lot of things happen very quickly ok feminine energy is receiving I
can receive and this was something that I had a particularly difficult time doing with a man is
just receiving and a lot of powerful dynamite women have problems receiving in a relationship
with guys and we then suffer relationship problems with men possibly more than our sisters who are
already grounded in their energy okay so I'm gonna share some tips with you today about how to soften
your vibe with men and what is this gonna do this is going to make you more attractive it's gonna
make you easier to be around for a man he can be around you and he can relax and he doesn't
have to worry like he's on the edge of his seat because he won't feel like he's competing with
you so when you're in your masculine energy the man often feels like he's competing with you and
he will not relax around and then just somehow through the process of the relationship you'll
find that you have a partner who is unhappy because he just can't connect he just can't
relax he just feels you know and mask you laid it on some level maybe not all those things but maybe
just a couple of those things all right so you may have a completely different experience with
this I want you to be open to trying it and see what happens with your guy okay so here are my
tips who why when and how so who why when and how so these are the way we start a lot of sentences
who is doing that who is going why are you going what did you do how are you gonna do that what
what are you doing why did you do that so we start with these words okay these four words in the key
to softening your vibe when you're talking to a man you actually want to change the thing that
you're talking about until what you're feeling okay so listen your guy is doing something that
is annoying you okay he's really really annoying you so you can say why are you doing that God why
are you doing that or you can say what you feel so let's say he happens to be being really loud
and you don't like it when he's really loud like playing his video game or maybe he's just being
loud on the phone or he's driving too fast or something like this and we want to direct the
man we want to tell him what to do and we also want to question him and that's really masculine
energy it's kind of this questioning so instead I want you to say how you feel so let's say he's
irritating you instead of saying why are you doing that or what are you doing you say I'm feeling
really agitated right now you know it would feel so good to just relax at that point you need to
either take care of yourself go to another room do something different but at least you're able
to state how you feel let's use another one how is that gonna work how are we gonna get there on time
how is this supposed to happen let's say you're using the word how you're possibly worried let's
say how you're gonna get somewhere to dinner on time so then you state how you feel what are you
feeling about getting to dinner on time or the movie on time or whatever it is you're doing
I'm feeling anxious I'm feeling so anxious about getting to the on time tonight you say that tear
man and then he goes into problem-solving mode instead of you directing him into problem-solving
mode so then the guys like I'm in charge I'm telling you how we're gonna do this you know
you're telling my lady is feeling anxious my lady is feeling irritated my lady is feeling
sad depressed angry pissed off whatever it may be you can say you know I'm feeling really pissed off
about this thing not I'm feeling really pissed off at you I'm feeling really pissed off at how
little time we have together it's really pissing me off I feel just so agitated uptight inside I
feel so lonely I feel so sad what can what do you think what do you think we can do you can add in
I want to fix it what do you think so I want to fix it but what do you think mister let him do the
solving and see what happens okay you will start to get some magic so just look for these really
direct ways that we communicate these really direct words that we're using and change them
to I feel I'm feeling I felt and just find what it is you're feeling so this means you're gonna
have to watch your language and this is just a fun exercise it's a way to strengthen a muscle
a new muscle in you that you do have you're just gonna start being aware of it and practicing it
so practice it this weekend practice it all the time practice it with your friends your coworkers
you know anyone you want until you get into the habit of using it it gets easier and easier than
where you do it now if you really want to crank this up and learn it all I have a top-selling
book called 500 ways to talk to a man it is a guide book which means when you open it up on
your iPhone or your PDF or your computer you can use a little search tool and you actually search
the words like let's say pornography is an issue or dating is an issue or commitment is an issue
or sex or arguing or chores you know art issue or grooming anything you can come up with you type
it in and it's going to tell you everywhere in the book you know just like a normal PDF
search it'll tell you every wherever that is and it'll give you a script to use and it will also
tell you how to customize that script to your particular situation it is it is everything you
need to know it is a bottomless pit of information so it is everything you need to know to say to a
man hold him closer soften your body make him feel very comfortable and relaxed like you are
the only woman in the world who understands him and gets him and he can just all right everyone
so I don't see any chat popping up but I'm gonna check here and see if there's anything coming in
I've got some hellos and hi how are you and if anybody has any questions now's the time to ask
but if nothing pops up I'm gonna let you guys go for the evening it's kind of hard on my phone to
see questions and chat with you but thank you so much for tuning in and be sure to subscribe
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other videos I am devoted to helping women have better stronger deeper more spiritually connected
relationships with the men in their life so often we get caught up in the world of our head and lose
track of what's really going on with our hearts and that's where love happens not up in your head
I read everybody much love I will be talking to you soon again and have a wonderful weekend