- [Rain] Do you fuck?
Period, question mark.
- [Tall Person] Yes.
- Pronouns of that person?
- Um, which person?
- The person that you fuck?
- Which person?
(laughing) - Oh.
- [Tim] My name's Tim Rogar.
I'm a drag queen and a bartender.
- I'm Alyssa and I'm a stand up comedian.
- I'm Rain.
- I hope it's some queer shit.
I really want it to be some queer shit.
Like all my fingers, and toes, and shit are crossed.
- Wow.
(crowd laughing)
- Oh.
I think I have my work cut out for me.
(laughing)
- Are y'all gonna give me options,
of things that I can pick from?
Because, you're like, challenging a bitches smarts here.
Like, how many things do you know in your community?
Like, I don't wanna get, like, fact checked.
- Your ass ain't gonna help me for nothin'.
That's what that means.
- As always.
(laughing)
- I get to label people, what an exciting day.
I feel white.
(laughing)
- A little, yeah.
Yeah, it's intimidating.
- Cis, man or woman, someone who identifies
as non-binary, trans, male or female.
- Oh, gender non-conforming is a good one.
- You say A gender, okay I can
kind of keep em going in my head.
First person, please come out.
I don't know who the fuck's first, come on over here.
- [Raquis] Hello. - Hi.
- Hi, I'm Raquis. - Alyssa.
- Nice to meet you.
- What are your preferred pronouns?
(laughing)
- Can I not just ask?
- Who'd you fuck last?
- Oh. (laughing)
- We've arrived.
- We're here. - We're here.
Do you fuck?
- I do. - I'm assuming, okay.
- Yeah, uh...
- I was getting the vibe.
- Yeah, uh, he/him.
- He/him?
That didn't give me anything.
- Who would you say your hero is?
- He's an African-American gay author.
- Oh, cool. - Yeah.
- How's your love life?
- Oh, can I say I'm in a hoe phase?
Is that like bad? - Yeah, I love this.
- I like bounce around, you know?
- Yeah, I think you are gender fluid.
- Someone who has a male assignment at birth.
- I'm a say NB for you.
Non-binary.
I don't know if that's right or not,
cause your mouth got a lot of tension in it now.
(laughing)
- Yeah, I'm a cis-gendered male.
- No fucking way. - Yeah.
- Get the fuck out.
- You didn't even question, like...
- How did you get past security?
- Did it offend you that I guessed
your gender identity wrong?
- Oh, not at all. - Okay.
- Growing up, there's always been
that sort of idea, of femininity, and just,
like, gayness, like negates your manhood.
And so that's, kind of, like,
you know, what I've kind of grown up
and tried to combat against, especially
being in a black household, where it's sort
of that extra layer of masculinity,
but also, like black masculinity,
and you're trying to have to meet multiple,
sort of groups, and expectations.
Cis-gender and gay. - Okay.
- And black. Jambalaya.
(laughing)
- Hi. - [Soul] Hello, Soul.
- Soul? - Yeah.
- Nice to meet you.
- Oh, your name is actually, Soul.
(laughing)
- Do you fuck bitches?
- Um... (buzzing)
- Do you have sex with people,
that would identify with she and her pronouns?
- Yes.
(laughing)
- Well see, I can't say if you do the same-sex
thing because I can't say for sure.
You do all the things? You circular?
Okay.
- So, whenever you think about clothing
and things like that, do you think that's
a clear form of gender expression?
- I think it's a way to express,
but I don't think it's ever, like, cut and dry.
This dress means you're a lady, you know?
- Right.
- I'm gonna guess, non-binary.
- Okay.
- Can I say you're gender queer?
We're gonna stamp you as GSC.
- Okay, so I identify as a-gender.
For me, gender is like a coat.
- Real shit?
You can put that motherfucker off and on?
- Yeah, there are days when I decide
to be a little more, like, something,
and then other days, I'm just like,
I don't wanna wear a coat, gimme my sweatshirt.
So... (laughing)
- I haven't heard a-gender before today.
So, that's really cool.
Can we hug? - Sure.
- Thanks for helping me.
- Please come forth, yes.
I wanna just look at you.
You are really great to look at.
- Thank you.
- We do.
From the scene. - From the scene.
- But I don't know how you identify,
so, I don't know you that well.
Who are some of your musical inspirations?
- Okay, right now, Janelle Monáe's new album,
is ruining my whole, entire asshole.
(laughing)
- I love it.
- So, I already know you're not cis.
- Ya heard it here first.
- Throw the whole thing away.
(laughing)
- How's your love life?
- My love life is good.
No, I'm trying to, like, have some
deeper connections, cause, yeah.
- Queer for sure, but are you gender queer?
Or, are you non-binary? - Both?
- Oh, are you both?
So, when y'all first came here, was there
a card y'all had to, like, fill out,
so y'all can't change this shit on people?
But then you can change it, you can change it.
This is so expansive.
- I think, non-binary.
You see yourself all over the spectrum,
and you're neither male, nor female.
- Gender queer, and use them/they?
- I say gender queer?
- Okay. - Yeah.
I get you right or wrong?
- You got me right as hell. - Did I?
- Yeah, you did it all.
- How did that feel for me to guess right, or...
- You're the third one to guess right.
- So at this point, it means nothing?
- No, it's just affirming.
Getting a better understanding of my own gender,
but also just gender in general, has expanded
my taste in people, that I'm interested in.
- Cause once you see it, you can't go back.
- Yeah.
- If they don't see it too, you're like,
how the fuck don't you see this?
- Oh, absolutely.
- And here you come.
And outta everybody, you're gonna
be like, the person that's like trans,
or something, and you look like the most.
You are trans, you're trans.
Your face could go, like, so many different ways.
But, the whispies got me.
And, like, honestly, if you just took
the whispies away, and like...
- [Short Person] Then, I'd look like a middle-schooler.
- Do you identify as being queer?
- Like, by experience, I've only really been with women.
- Okay.
- Can I touch your whispies? - Sure.
- Trans-man.
And if you're like, a cis dude, then that's cool too.
Okay.
- I'm gonna guess, that you, are male.
- Do you identify as a trans-male?
- So, you guessed correctly.
- I did guess correctly, how did that feel?
- That doesn't really typically happen.
At this stage of my life.
- How's, like, your family about gender?
- We haven't really talked much, about gender.
- Would you say they know your gender?
- Yeah, but sometimes they forget.
- I like your whispies. - Oh, thank you.
It took me awhile, like two years.
- I was gonna say, it took you some effort, didn't it?
Do you shave, like, to promote stimulation?
- Does that help?
- I don't fucking know.
- I will shave all the time now.
- I don't grow hair.
Even my legs don't grow hair, I really don't know.
My pussy does, and my underarms.
I could braid that shit, but everything else is like, nope.
How did we get here?
It was nice meeting you. (laughing)
- Yeah, you too. - Thank you.
- [Short Hair Person] Hi, how's it going?
- Good, how are you? - Good.
- What's your favorite color?
- Green. - Green?
- I don't think it says anything,
I'm just hoping, it's like...
- Do you ever Cosplay as Ellen?
- As Ellen? (laughing)
No, but I love her.
- You could totally do that shit.
Either gender queer or non-binary.
Do you fuck bitches?
- I actually don't feel comfortable
talking about if I fuck bitches.
- Alright, gender queer. I think you eat pussy.
- I'm gonna guess female, she/her.
- Cis female, but like, fluid.
- Sure.
- What are you? - I'm female.
- You identify as cis?
- Cis female, yes.
- And that, so you don't fuck bitches?
That's why you didn't wanna tell me.
- It's a little gray area, because
I like girls, but I am not out.
- You are now. (laughing)
- I might be now, but...
- Welcome to the community. - Hi, Mom.
- So, I know, like labels in the queer community
are huge, what is your thought on labels,
and our want, to kind of, constantly label?
- [Dark Hair Person] I feel, like,
labels in my life, are more for other people.
Like, I don't care.
- Do you correct people when they mis-gender you?
- Yeah, I just use it as a chance to,
you know, just tell people that
everything is not as it seems.
- I'm just gonna go with gender queer.
Just gonna leave it at gender queer.
- I'm gonna say, gender queer.
- I think it might be NB and we're
gonna leave it there cause this is a lot.
- Okay.
- So, I got you, I think, wrong.
- You said gender queer, which like, isn't
my specific identity, but I feel
like that's an umbrella term.
I mostly just identify as gender non-conforming.
Gender non-conforming and gender non-binary
are like, umbrella terms, and then,
something like a-gender or
bi-gender, androgynous would be
like, like a specific identity.
- Okay, I'm with that.
- And I'm just saying I don't give a fuck.
I'm an experience baby.
- Yep. (laughing)
- What do you do?
- [Sophia] I'm a fashion designer.
- Are you dating anybody?
- I have a boyfriend, yes.
- You do have a boyfriend? - Mm hmm.
- Do you feel like you're mis-gendered?
- Sometimes because I do crossfit,
so they're like, ma'am/sir, and I'm like, yes...
Then I'm like, I will break you down, bitch.
- What is the difference between,
gender queer, gender fluid, and non-binary?
- I don't know, I wanna know the answer.
- Okay. - I'm old-school I guess.
- I think you're trans.
I'm gonna explain why, trans-woman.
The height first gave it to me,
but you got, like, mad trans vibes.
- Oh, this is hard. (laughing)
- Because I don't wanna mis-gender anybody.
It's rude.
- That's what we're here for.
- I know, I know.
- I'm gonna go with trans female.
- I'm offended. (laughing)
- I got it right? - Yes.
- Yay. - Trans female.
- How did that feel, me getting it right?
- No, I'm like, I have no problem with it.
I'm okay with being trans-female.
I'm proud of it, actually.
- What was that journey like for you?
- Like legally, I've been Sophia, like 18 years now.
I had my legal name and everything changed.
- [Alyssa] That's awesome.
- My passport, what what?
- You're beautiful. - Thank you.
- I'm so happy to have met you.
Are your boobs natural?
- I'm like all natural.
- They're beautiful, are you gonna go bigger?
- Yes.
- Last, but not least.
- [White Shirt Person] Last by not least.
- Tell me about yourself.
- I'm a freelance artist.
- I think your tattoos dope. - Thank you.
- Do you have anymore? Well, that one.
- Yeah, and I have a skull keys,
and then, just little bits around.
- Like your head? - You can kinda see.
- You in a relationship? - I am.
- How do they identify?
- Well, what does that have to do with my gender identity?
- Oh, damn it. (laughing)
It's a trap. That's a good point.
- So, in your mind, do you think clothing
is an indicator of gender identity?
- It's one aspect, for sure.
I fuck around with androgyny the most.
- Okay.
- You look, not look, you feel masculant.
And like I said, you don't just put
a tattoo back here, and on here,
without having to compliment that.
And I can definitely see, you just like butching out.
Like, super butching out.
I'm gonna say, that you are gender fluid.
- Gender fluid.
- Gender queer, but you she or they.
Was I correct?
- Yeah, I identify gender queer slash non-binary.
Use pronouns, she or they.
I use she when I feel like I'm not in a safe area.
- So, has that been a struggle for you at all?
- I think I've been queer, ever since, like,
had consciousness, but I've just had
a lot of people who invalidated my queerness
because they're like, you're not butch enough.
You're not dating any girls.
- Like queers policing other queers
queerness, is the most counterproductive
thing any queer could ever do. - Amen!
(clapping) - Just makes my blood boil.
- You are androgynous than a mother fucker.
- Thank you. - It is brilliant.
- The main problem I have is like,
when people have all these assumptions, based on,
what people have internalized about gender.
And, so don't expect me to be like this.
Don't say I'm not this because you're not that.
- You could be if you wanted to.
- It was nice to talk to you. - You too, yeah.
- Hugs.
- Thanks for letting me do that.
(laughing)
- Everybody was so kind to me and I appreciate that.
It was hard.
- It depends on who you talk to, I
t depends on how you're raised,
how old you are, there's so many
deciding factors in how you identify.
How the fuck, there's no real way to guess that.
It was really difficult and eye-opening.
- That was stressful.
- 'Cause I just don't wanna hurt anyone's feelings.
I have so many close friends that
struggle with this, on a daily basis.
It hurts them, when they do get mis-gendered.
And they're tired of having to correct people.
So yeah, it was tricky.
- Gender is bullshit, so it's kind of hard
to create a measurement, to measure bullshit.
(snapping) - True that.
(clapping)
- [Woman] Everybody, there's pizza
and salad in the kitchen.