a practitioners practical practical
psychology here today i'm going to be
teaching you with the help of
improvement pill how to have a sexy
confident dominant voice when telling
stories were talking to people
the first part will be addressing how to
say it and the second part will be what
you say why hello there improvement bill
here
do you ever have a hard time getting
people to listen to you or gaining the
respect
well it's probably because you sound
like a little bitch at any given moment
while you're speaking you are speaking
in one of three different tonalities and
depending on which tonality you choose
people will treat you differently for
this video we're going to use a commonly
used the line at awkward parties him so
how was your day
yeah you've probably heard that one
before so the first tonality sounds
something like this
so how was your day as you can see it
rises it curves up this is what's called
trying for report tonality because when
you speak like this you sound like
someone who wants to become your friend
who wants your attention was looking for
validation of course this isn't good
because it sounds like you're needy and
it shows a lack of confidence
this actually is not a normal way of
speaking it's something that comes out
when we're feeling nervous it's when our
body is tight and our vocal cords are
not relaxed think about how you speak to
people that are already your close
friends people that you're comfortable
around you don't say hey guys how's your
day
you probably sounds something more like
the second tonality the second tonality
sounds something like this
hey how was your day it's flat doesn't
fluctuate up or down and this is the
tonality that you use around your
friends people that you're comfortable
with this is what's called holding
report tonality it's not asking for
anything it's how someone sounds when
report has already been established for
a long time the final tonality sounds
something like this at home
hey I was your day it curves down the
tone drops towards the end and this is
what's called breaking report because it
comes off as someone who's in a position
of authority someone like your boss a
teacher a police officer a celebrity
when you speak like this it indicates
that your person of higher value
that you're confident that you actually
need to be impressed as opposed to the
first tonality which is someone who's
trying to impress for the most part if
you want people to listen to you or if
you want to gain their respect you need
to keep your voice tonality between the
second and the dirt tonalities because
although it's a very subtle change
it's a body language habit that speaks
volumes about who you are as a person
and it's pretty fairly simple to
practice now that you've watched this
video you're conscious of this concept
all you gotta do is practice saying
sentences
hey how's your day hey how's your day
hey what's your name
hey what's your name so the content the
words and the story that you say
actually matter to some people say that
using large words can make you sound
more intelligent and for some sex here
but I want to get into the science of
this first of all telling a story will
automatically make you the center of
attention but when telling a story how
can you make the content super
interesting one way is the slightly
lighter the audience and Surprise them
for example an improvement pills newest
video he mentions that there are three
ways to be happy in the beginning when
in fact there is a fourth so you're
expecting the third way to be the
anticipated resolve one that follows the
flow of the past two but it's not your
expectations are shattered and now
you're super engaged left wondering how
in the world to be happy
our brains love patterns but when we
break them it goes haywire and we
remember better we are intrigued you
have to drive to work every day but if
you saw an accident and had to slow down
almost to a stop
I bet you remember it better than any
other day of the month in fact you might
have thousands of cars pass you and
never remember what color they were but
in three hours you will still remember
that bright green lamborghini because it
breaks pattern the second part of the
science of what you say to sound sexier
and more engaging is the actual words
you use when telling a story or talking
to someone let me say two words and you
can comment down below what you thought
of what kind of shape they might
represent i'll make them up and you've
probably never heard them before global
singles as you might think global
represents a super round shape maybe
like a cloud singles as though might be
a seven-year-olds version of a hexagon
with sharp points and no curves at all
this is actually called the boob aqui
effect in form of ideas Eva when you
connect sounds or words to ideas more
specifically idea phones are words that
evoke an idea in the mind just from a
sound
they are found in all languages but they
depend on the culture one example is
blowing another is tick-tock tick-tock
you actually imagine a ball bouncing or
a clock ticking when i use these words
the more of these types of words you can
use the better your story will be in the
more engaged your audience will be also
the more influential you seem the more
attractive you will be perceived
something else that helps is listening
to your own voice I used to think my
voice sounds so weird but after hours
and hours of messing up on scripts
editing scripts and listening to my own
videos it's become normal and I gained a
whole lot of confidence in my own voice
and how I speak now narrating things
just for practice helps me articulate
things better and in turn has greatly
increased my speaking skills after I
tell a story a couple of times you get
more confident in telling it
anticipating how people will receive it
and what parts to emphasize and what
parts not to talking telling stories and
just having a conversation is just like
any other skill practice and proper
knowledge on the subject will help you
immensely i hope you guys enjoyed this
video and learn something thanks for
your attention
check out improvement pills channel for
some more awesome videos