hey guys welcome back to my channel Enneagram and coaching I'm Hilary you're certified enneagram
coach and today I'm gonna teach you guys what it's like to work with the type v in the workplace okay
so what's my wife why do I do this well like I said I'm a certified Enneagram coach and I
truly believe it's important to teach about personalities to get behind the why people
are the way they are and to learn to embrace each other accept each other and work more cohesively
together and so that's what I'm doing today I'm teaching you guys what it's like to work with a
type v even if you are a five a hundred percent believe this is gonna help you because one this
is gonna help you discover how people see you and two I have some stuff for you I have some tips on
growth and different areas like that and so I just feel like if you are five you work with a
five you work four or five or you just have a five in your life this video is for you it's gonna help
you understand the five and just accept who they are and not have that expectation that they're
gonna show up to life the way you show up to life because that is not okay it's not fair and what
makes this world so beautiful is that we are all different and so let's learn to accept and embrace
each other so I want to start with who are they who are the type fives the type fives they're
called the investigator the observer they're gonna be the most logical analytical people that you
meet type fives they are the deep thinkers problem solvers innovators they're in the thinking triad
you know those triads there's that the thinking triad the heart triad and the gut try it which
means they depend on their thoughts way more than they depend on their feelings or even their gut
instinct it's super rare for you to hear them say I feel statement you're more than likely gonna
hear them say I think statements type eyes are normally introverts not all of them because there
are there is a social type five that can be a little extroverted but usually they are introverts
they would much rather observe especially in the if they're in a large crowd than participate they
do better and smaller groups than larger ones they tend to be minimalist and don't need or want
many things that actually can feel overwhelming for them if they have so much surrounding them
and so they really like minimalist things and my example my son he's a tech five he's 17 he
does not like anything on his walls in his bedroom he's minimalist he does have one shelf but other
than that he likes his walls crisp and clean which was so hard for me to understand as he was growing
up but I learned to just respect that it's his bedroom and that's how he likes it because really
they prefer a much simpler life and and thinks can just overwhelm them the type five there in
the withdrawn stance which if you don't know what a stances I'll link that video down below because
I have a stances video that explains way better than I'm gonna do right now but the condensed
version is the four fives and nines there in that withdrawn stance which means it can make them seem
very distant and reserved at times they want to collect knowledge and uncover truth they want to
be capable and competent type fives they learn by searching figuring things out figuring out that
why behind the why things are the way they are asking questions they test truth and then they
challenge assumptions so they're not afraid of conflict they're not afraid of challenging now
they're not gonna get in your face and challenge you no no but they do like challenging things
they like challenging the Y they like hearing things out because Y the more they know the
more confidence and security they feel they have okay I want to move on next to the strengths of
the type 5 the first strength is a healthy fight they could be calm and focused in decision-making
so they're I mean they're great to have on your team right because they're the ones that even
if like things are chaotic and going crazy you're type 5 they remain calm and focused and configure
things out because they have this amazing ability to focus on the task at hand another strength is
they are constantly learning and picking up new things and so they're always gathering knowledge
they're always learning and they're always able to apply that a really good one is they are able
to think all the way through a complex problem right and so they're the ones that you want to
give those complex problems to because they can think all the way through start to finish
they will do all the research they don't mind that it'll take them hours and hours and hours they're
gonna think it all the way through and research it all the way through another great strength is
they give people the space to be themselves and to do what needs to be done and why because the
five actually needs space and so they are really giving what they need in that area they need a
lot of space and so do you want to give everyone else the space to figure themselves out and to do
what needs to be done they say that fives they're never gonna be the micro manager at the job they
will give you the space to figure it out another strength is they aren't going to necessarily put
their emotion into things that they are working on just lots of thinking and trying to figure
things out with their head not their heart when they're working on a project and the last one
fives are great at gathering the info necessary to get the job done okay so let's move on to areas
of development for the type 5 so in this one the type fives their greatest strengths can be
their greatest weakness and what I mean by that is while they are so good at gathering and evaluating
information they can get lost in the data right so like I said that strength of them being able to
work on it for hours and hours and hours at a time well they actually can get lost in that data and
that could become a weakness that will hinder them from taking action so they get so into what they
are learning that they do not take action and move quickly enough on what the data tells them another
one where your greatest strength is your greatest weaknesses because they can detach from their
emotions this can make it hard for them to relate to the emotions of others especially on their team
or the people they work with because they are able to detach so well they're not going to necessarily
know how to relate to everyone another area of development for the type fives they can resist
doing tasks that are outside their comfort zone if they don't feel like they're skilled enough to
try it they're not gonna probably try it the last one in the areas of development for the type 5 is
they have a difficulty sharing their personal information especially at work it actually can
feel kind of dangerous to a type 5 but this is actually an area that should be developed I
would say to the type 5 if you're especially if you're watching try and share a little bit more
of your personal info with those that you trust at work as a way of building deeper relationships
and this will lead to more effective teamwork so that would be an area of development for a
type 5 let's move on to you might be working with a type 5 if the first one is they go in
their office they shut their door and they do not come out very often and if you feel like it's not
okay to knock on the door and bother them yeah you might be working with a type 5 they're not
really into people stopping by and just chatting what's up another one they don't often attend
social gatherings especially if it's during the work day that's just not for them another
good one they're quiet in meetings but they're always listening they're always taking mental
notes they're assessing everything and they are gathering data but they're paying close attention
to what is said another one is they can go on and on about something like super intelligent right
something's so beyond like for me at least my knowledge I can listen to them and go oh my gosh
that is like super over my head they can go on and on about that but they rarely share personal info
right we've kind of already talked about that in their areas of development it's it's harder for
them to share something personal versus something that they're highly intelligent on another good
one they seem like they're procrastinating but really they just need more time to gather info
okay so this leads me right into a fight feels like it's hard working with others because first
one is if they have to work on a work project that they didn't personally pick out everyone to
be on the team it can be really hard for them to work on that team if everyone was just picked for
them and especially if the people that are picked to be on their team don't necessarily work really
hard this is gonna be hard for the type 5 that's one of the things were tart working on a team if
they feel like they're gonna end up doing all the work because why they hate depending on others to
get work done they most likely like to work alone and want to do their own thing another hard thing
for a 5 is when people bring their emotions and drama to work and this can make a type 5 very
uncomfortable they're like wait we're here to work and so while that is an area that need to
work on it does make them very uncomfortable what expectations aren't clear they want to know what
they're signing up for and getting into you right so if it's not plainly laid out this could be very
hard for them the last one is when people ask more of them than they are willing to give like
time personal info and energy that could be hard for them ok so let's move on to what's great about
working with the type 5 the first one is they have great boundaries and they respect other
people's boundaries too they agreed at respecting people's personal space and time limits because
why they want that and return to high fives they are dependable dedicated and accountable you can
count on a type 5 to bring a high level excellence to their work high quality to everything that they
do type fives they can maintain objectivity when everybody else is getting emotional they're the
ones that were like no I'm staying in the zone they like I think I said at the very beginning
they're calm cool and collected and they maintained their objectivity they don't get
lost in emotions another great thing about working with a5 is they love learning they love gathering
knowledge they love doing work that increases their knowledge okay so let's move on to ways
to communicate with the type 5 the first one is allow a lot of time and space for them to process
and understand information and their own feelings give them a heads up about important discussions
that need to happen and meetings that you put on their calendar so that they have time to start
processing they do not like surprise they need to know ahead of time what's going on keep the
conversation focused on facts and specific details if you're 5 leave a comment down below I think
people would enjoy knowing that that is a big one for you guys a really good way to communicate
with a type 5 is inform them how long you're gonna need it you're gonna need to communicate with them
right so for an example you're like hey so-and-so I need 10 minutes of your time give them that
give them a number don't just say hey can we just talk I need to talk with you they would appreciate
just knowing that you just need 5 minutes or 10 minutes one thing that people don't understand is
they are managing their internal resources right and so if you just give them a time limit like
hey five minutes is all I need stick to it that is a great way to communicate with them they're
gonna appreciate that last one respect their boundaries they're great at respecting yours
respect theirs - like I said already they don't like surprises they don't like intrusions or
obligations they like their boundaries to be respected ok so moving on to how I get along
with a tight side first one keep conversation straightforward and to the point we've kind of
already covered that I'm just saying in a little different way do not exhaust them what long
drawn-out stories that's just hard for a type 5 trust and confidentiality are extremely important
for the type 5 don't talk about what they shared with you with others that will break their trust
with you give them time space and privacy without interruption because why they have a battery right
we all have like I like to think of it as we all have batteries and they are aware of how
much those are being depleted during the day and they there's get depleted way faster than other
people's and so they actually need to recharge their battery more often than other people do and
how do they recharge with space and privacy and not being intruded on that is actually recharging
their battery so okay another way to get along with the type v they have a hard time asking for
help so if you see a need are you see away you can help them do it do it in a low-key way they don't
want attention they don't want people to be like oh hey so-and-so you need my help they're gonna
say no but a low-key way just you know quietly help them they will really really appreciate
that because they just they don't like unwanted attention last one is don't be overly clingy or
needy they need people to be more independent like I said they're never gonna be those micromanagers
they appreciate when people are more independent around them and don't need so much for them cuz
like I already said their battery gets depleted fast and so it's important for you to not be
overly needy to them okay so let's move on to what motivates a type 5 okay so the first one
is the type fives they tend to be motivated by learning a new skill or technique and discovering
something new about the world those kind of things that motivates them what's another good motivator
well they want to feel valued and appreciated and when they do it motivates them to want to do more
and the last one alone time a long time motivates a type 5 I know that at this point that's not
a shocker they need this time to think and to reconnect with themselves so it's an important
one because it does motivate them okay so the last one I want to share is growth practices for
the type 5 first one those guys learn to recognize when you are withdrawing I know you were in that
withdrawing stance that's okay but you need to learn the why why are you withdrawing to the time
where it's okay to withdrawal is it a healthy withdrawal you know one that you're just gonna
go and recharge or is it because you prefer to be alone the growth part is sometimes you do need to
engage with others that's why we want you to learn to recognize when you when you are withdrawing and
the why behind it another good one that's learned to connect with your emotions and work through
them the growth work is to get in touch with your emotions in the moment and eventually learning
to communicate more about your feelings while you're interacting with others in the last growth
practice I have today for the type 5 is the type sometimes has an excessive concern with conserving
energy while we've talked about it this whole time about it is important the part of the problem can
be if it's excessive if you constantly need to be alone you're constantly needing to pull away and
conserve your energy but when it becomes excessive it's because you feel like you will become
exhausted you know extremely depleted if you allow more connection with others but what can help with
this is exercise movement doing doing activity um it could be all types of exercise even yoga
I've heard that can helped you anything like that actually builds up a natural energy and you'll
have more inner resources and more energy than you think you do and so getting out doing physical
activity like I said it doesn't matter what it is anything that gets your body moving will actually
build up energy reserves and so that you won't always feel like oh my gosh I might be depleted
if I talk to so-and-so so hey I'm just trying to help you find ways to build up your energy reserve
so those were some growth practices for the type 5 ok guys well that's all I have for today those
were 10 tips on working with a type 5 or if you are type 5 I hope some of this helped you see
yourself the way the world sees you and helped you understand yourself better so whether you work for
a 5 you work with a 5 you are 5 or you just you know around a 5 in your life like me with my type
5 son I really believe that this video can help you and help you guys work better together more
cohesively have a better team atmosphere I know and the workplace looks different for everybody
right now I wanted to just give 10 tips on making things better for the type 5 and the workplace and
so I hope that did I hope you guys enjoyed this video if you did give it a thumbs up I appreciate
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