There are five things that you can do and by the end of this video,
you're going to know exactly what they are.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung
and I am a narcissist negotiation expert
and a negotiation expert and a lawyer and an author
and on this channel
and in these videos,
I give you the tips, the tricks, the resources, everything that you need to know to become the most powerful
one to shed the fear to become the most strong person.
Everything you need to know to shed that narcissist in your brain and in your life.
So if that sounds good to you,
then there's one thing you need to do and that's stop
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Okay. So now the naricissist like to ignore you.
It's called ghosting sometimes.
Why do they do this?
Well, they come on.
They come on with those love-bombing.
They leave.
Oh my God, you're the most incredible person they've ever met.
They're amazing
and then Oh my God, where did they go?
Yeah. Well, you know, they're ignoring you,
they're ghosting you, it's all meant to manipulate you.
It's part of there's this game that they play.
They play this game and they do it during negotiations
especially because they're trying to play with your brain,
play with your mind.
They like to play games.
They're trying to manipulate you. They want you to beg for attention.
You're basically dealing with a two year old.
They’re two year olds in adult bodies.
That's what they are. They're toddlers.
They look like grown-ups but they're really toddlers inside.
Okay. It's a way to get what we call narcissistic supply.
They want you to pay attention to them.
They want you to beg.
You know, so that's what's going on
and so I'm going to give you some tips and tricks and things.
I know it's going to drive you insane when they ignore you.
So these are the things that you're going to do when they're trying to make you go crazy.
So here's what you're going to do instead and you know,
especially during the negotiations,
you know, they're going to do these things.
So number one. I'm going to tell you this as a lawyer.
Number one if there's a case going on if it's an active case.
Whether it's a divorce case
or some kind of civil case and what kind of other case
Just to let them know something
because you're trying to communicate
because you have to communicate because maybe you have children,
whatever, then you can send them something just to communicate.
They're not communicating.
You can say.
I know you're not communicating with me right now
but I'm letting you know that this is what's happening.
I'm keeping you updated on Johnny's progress,
Susie's progress.
Whatever it is.
You do your part because you have to sometimes
or maybe you're supposed to be updating on something that's happening with the business
or whatever it is.
You do your part.
Just, make sure you're preserving the record.
Just make sure it's in writing.
So, that's number one.
You do your thing. You do what you have to do.
If you have to just the facts,
you know, as I say all the time, just the facts.
Ma'am or sir, or whatever.
Don't add anything emotional.
Don't say, hey, you know, you're a piece of crap for not responding to me
because all that does is give them that supply that they want because
you know they're doing this to manipulate you, right?
So, you know, so that's number one.
Don't be clingy. Don't be desperate.
You know, even if they're your best friend,
their business partner, your soon-to-be ex.
Whatever it is. Do not be clingy. Keep your composure.
If it's your mom, your dad, your sibling.
I don't care who it is. Do not beg.
That is what they want. Do not give it to them.
Do not let that narcissist.
See that they've hurt you.
You know that old commercial.
Don't let them see you sweat, do not let them see you sweat.
That is exactly what they want.
Do not give that to them.
All right. So that's number two.
Do not obsess over them.
I'm going to give you a little mantra right now.
Don't obsess with the narcissist.
Plan your success. Don't obsess.
Plan your success.
Put that in the comments.
Don't obsess. Plan your success.
Success is the best revenge, right?
Don't obsess. Plan your success.
Remember the narcissist does not care about you.
They only care about themselves.
Talk to people that care about you
instead of spending all day worrying about
the narcissist and definitely don't go on social media.
Dont you know, obsess over them or their minions or little flying monkeys or whatever.
Don't do things that are going to make you crazy.
Do something creative.
Start writing that book you always wanted to write.
Take your mind off of yourself, you know,
maybe volunteer at a women's shelter
or children's function or do something
that's going to take your mind off of it.
Something that's going to make you look forward to you know,
so their heads, not going to explode, right?
Start a project, something for work,
something that's going to have you be creative.
You know, that was something that really was helpful
for me when I was dealing I'm with the narcissist in my life.
You know, when I realized that I was in creation mode.
It was so much better than being in victim mode.
Being in victim mode a nd being in victor mode,
Very different destinations
Much better path. Okay, take care of yourself.
You know, like that's victor mode is a place where you're taking care of yourself
and you know, I do have a whole video on self-care
to cope with narcissist and you can definitely check that out if you'd like.
You know, other than like
what I said at the beginning like if you have to send them some note
because you have to because you're supposed to be updating
them on what's going on with the children
or you know,
you have a business together and you need to update them on something like that.
Ignore them back.
You know they’re doing this for attention.
That's what they're doing.
They want you to go.
Oh, please, you know, don't do that.
Just ignore them back.
Don't give in to their demands or their threats.
It's only going to encourage them to do it again.
So just don't do that.
Okay, you know, like I said, don't obsess plan your success.
So much better
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I'm telling you what,
once you become fearless against narcissist
nothing can stop you after that.
I'll tell you, you feel stronger and more powerful than you ever ever have been
and I'm on a mission, I'm on a crusade and don't ever give in and don't ever give up.
Okay, because you guys can do this.
We can slay. That is my methodology.
Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate and Focus on you
and you can do this.
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