- [Oscar] Hi, my name is Oscar,
this is Alexa
and we just went on a road trip all over America,
having conversations with people about life's big questions,
and we've covered a lot.
After all that, did we learn anything?
Let's get into that.
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So, this whole thing started,
because a few months ago, I was feeling weird
about a whole bunch of different things,
like love, God, identity,
and I figured that, if I went on this huge road trip,
I'd solve it all.
They say traveling solves everything.
♫ Traveling solves everything
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Anyway, I dropped everything, job, apartment, life,
and set myself on going.
I asked Alexa if she was down and she said, "Sure,"
so we put our heads together
and found a way to make it happen.
And then we left.
It was kind of crazy, kind of irrational
and one of the best decisions we ever made,
'cause we learned all kinds of great life stuff.
So with that, here's Lexa, "Go, Lexa, go, go.
"Go, Lexa, go Lexa, go!"
- [Alexa] I don't always dance, but when I do,
it's always that good.
So to be totally honest, I didn't go on this road trip
to try and answer any existential questions
or expecting to learn a bunch of life stuff, but I did,
most importantly, to get out of my comfort zone
and live in the moment.
Let me explain.
I'm the last person, who wold have dropped everything
to go on a huge, spontaneous road trip.
I like structure, routine
and to know what I'm doing and why,
so when Oscar asked me to go on this huge road trip
to answer life's big questions and just see what happens,
I think he's crazy,
but I went because there is this teeny, tiny part of me
that wanted to do something crazy
and at first, it wasn't easy, not having a plan
and figuring it out as we went,
but there is this moment around Idaho,
where I decided to let go and just really be there.
I realized I could either make the best
of every moment, or not and since we've been back,
that's just how I try and look at everything else.
Wow!
Also, just doing something this big was a great lesson,
like in the beginning, the road trip seemed impossible,
one of those things you hear about people doing,
but it's too crazy to actually do yourself,
but I learned all it takes is deciding to start something
and figuring it out as you go.
- Anything you wanna do, you can do it here,
just, just whatever you want.
- Sometimes that's like cliche, like,
"Oh, I have a dream, da-da-da-da-da,"
but seriously, like...
like if you don't hold yourself accountable to things,
you'll never get it done.
- There's a lot of people, who are gonna tell you
why you can't do what you're doing.
- Yeah, but there's always one reason to do it
and that's you.
- Follow your dreams and you may amaze yourself.
- [Alexa] But OK, here's Oscar on what he learned,
starting with love.
- [Oscar] The main question I was trying to answer
was how do I know for sure, that I'm in love
and is there such a thing as The One
and even though I was happy with Lexa,
this was in the back of my mind
and it quietly always made me doubt the relationship.
But what I learned is that living in that doubt
and discomfort is totally up to me.
Simply put, love is a choice
and choosing to let myself love fully was freeing.
Also, I think for a long time,
I was expecting the relationship to be perfect
and when it wasn't, I figured it wasn't right.
But talking to all these people made me realize the obvious,
that it's never gonna be perfect and that's OK.
There are always gonna be good times and bad times,
but if the good ones outweigh the bad,
it's worth it and for me it is.
- I think so many times, we want somebody else to tell us,
or something to tell us, "Oh, this is The One,"
because then it, it likes abdicates our responsibility
for choosing to love that person, when it's hard.
- We've really made it our priority to keep communicating
and sometimes we don't and sometimes we're terrible at it
and when we don't, you know it.
- I love you by showing you, by being present,
by being the best that I can be for you.
- I think there's been just a commitment inside,
that like, "No, no, no, like,
"I've chosen to love this person.
"I'm gonna continue to love this person."
- And you know, that was a gut feeling,
trust your gut, you know, trust your heart.
- [Oscar] Next step, identity
and I'll admit it, when I started,
I had this unrealistic expectation
to come back totally confident in myself,
knowing exactly who I am
and of course, that didn't happpen.
What did happen is that I got way out of my comfort zone.
Going out there and opening up to all these people,
and to you was a huge step towards that.
- [Neil Armstrong] That's one small step for man--
- [Oscar] And the big one I learned
is that happiness isn't something that's pursued,
but a moment-to-moment decision.
- I think personal growth has been
around accepting other people for who they are.
- If you look at the world, you look at people,
we all have faults.
- Just really treat everybody
like you wanna be treated, you know.
- I think we all lie, when we say
we don't care what people say, but man,
I sure used to care about that a lot more than I do today.
- Like looking back, it's when you like
don't let those distractions take you over,
you're like, "This is who I am."
- Your overall personality, whether introvert or extrovert,
I don't think really matters.
What matters is who you are as a person.
- And just be there, you know,
'cause you go nuts trying to be everything that you aren't,
(laughs) you know.
- [Oscar] Moving right along, God.
So there are believers and non-believers.
I was right in the middle and I didn't wanna be there.
I just wanted to be sure of something.
I guess at some point on the trip,
I was hoping to have some kind of spiritual epiphany
and while I do feel more sure of what I believe in
and what I don't, I can't say that ever came,
but after all this, I understood that a lot of that
has to do with the fact that I'm 20
and that living your whole life,
having a family and real responsibilities
are the things that shape our spirituality.
I mean, a huge road trip isn't gonna be able
to expedite the whole process,
which brings me to the best lesson I learned,
this stuff takes time
and don't get me wrong, I learned a lot of great things
and I'm a different person, because of it,
but the huge life questions can't be answered
in a couple of months, most of that stuff takes a lifetime.
Also, a lot of these kinds of thoughts and questions
are directly correlated to my age.
- Because you're still in a place of testing things
and learning about who you are and what you want.
- You got to let life evolve, also,
because sometimes you miss opportunity
by being too rigid in your expectations.
- I think in a lot of ways,
that's how like, your character is built, you know,
it's not built in a moment, it's kind of built over time.
- It's just life's journey.
- You gotta roll with life, it's gonna change.
Accept that change and then live that new life.
- 'Cause ultimately that perspective that you get
throughout life and throughout experiences that, you know,
makes life worth living and makes it what it is.
- I can't complain, not for nothing.
I'm cute as hell too, you know.
- [Oscar] I guess what I'm trying to say is I learned,
that life isn't about trying to solve everything,
it's about enjoying the process,
because just like the road trip,
it was never about the destination,
but about the adventure we have along the way.
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♫ I wanna go there someday
♫ I know I'm going somewhere
♫ Into the danger zone
♫ It all points right to that
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- And that's it, that's the show.
We just wanna give a quick thanks to all the people,
who spoke to us along the way
and were cool enough to share their stories
and experiences and lives with us.
So if that's you somewhere, thank you.
- And also thank you to all of our friends and family,
who gave us a place to stay
or helped us find a place to stay.
This wouldn't have been possible without you.
- And last, a big thanks to you for watching,
for sharing, for being a part of the conversation.
This was a very personal project for the both of us
and it was really great to share it
with such a cool audience.
So, bye. - Bye.
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