"...it's like who are you what kind of dope are you!?"... they see the blimp going up so
even a big dopey Barron "how many pizza places are there?!?! ...they want
to get on that blip. What's the first thing you always want to do in a
challenging social situation, always?! Are you Pro amateur intermediate socially
what would you say I'm gonna tell a story that I told on my Instagram story
that got a big response and it's gonna help you gauge where you are and if you
are stuck in intermediate it's gonna be able to help you point that out cuz a
lot of people just don't see their blindsides
they don't see where they're making mistakes and they wonder why they don't
improve socially so the situation was I was out here in Austin Texas I migrated
back down from Dallas a few months ago and I was not with the buddy and a group
of girls I think it was maybe six people one of the girls I knew and she had
three of her friends that I had never met before and neither had my friend so
we started a conversation and I was talking about how there's a pizza place
here in Austin that I think is the best pizza in the world everywhere I've ever
been I know it seems like grand praise but it really is true
and so I casually threw this out and one of the girls I hadn't met said I said
it's the best pizza in the world she said oh no she said that's not that's
not even good at all this one so much better okay so what would an amateur a
true amateur do an amateur would just go along with it and the wind would be
taken out of their sails they'd be like oh you know she said that my pizza place
isn't as good she doesn't like me I'm gonna let her go oh you'll kind of butt
hurt then sitting there for a few minutes that's amateur that's the lowest
level what would intermediate do and some people that think they're pretty
good would do this and it's a big mistake I got a hold the frame I can't
let her be right I gotta show her who's boss I gotta show her who's the leader
who's the Alpha in this conversation and they was come over the time oh no you're
crazy you know this one is so much better because the crust is this what
are you talking about you're out of control I see so many guys do that and
they think they're doing the right thing and they're missing the finesse in the
advanced level that the key of this interaction is it is it proving what
pizza is better does anyone even care do you make a commission every time a pizza
sold that you got to convince everyone in Austin to buy no what's the goal of
any social interaction especially when I was just meeting these
girls for the first time I didn't know him good mood you want them to associate
you with fun and good feelings and positive energy yeah you don't want to
be pushed around that amateur response isn't right but what you want to do
first of all what's the first thing you always want to do in a challenging
social situation always no emotional reactivity so the wins not taken out of
your sails like an amateur you're not butthurt no problem at all you can even
smile a little bit ride that wave oh really she likes this other pizza what's
something that could get her feeling good
ask her about really better than this that's incredible what do you like about
it check oh you know it's thin crust it's this and this I said that sounds
really good I think I'm gonna put my order in now anything you want to do
that's kind of cheesy maybe you don't say that but ride that wave so you're
gonna ask clarifying questions to let her feel good about her favorite pizza
place and then once that conversation is going and people see the good energy
coming from me and her what happens to everyone else in the group well they
want to be involved so they may say oh no you guys are crazy this one's better
or oh I've had that it's great because they're seeing this good mood
blimp starting to get filled up that me and her on and they wanted ride that
blip everyone wants to rise in their good emotions and it's so hard for
people to get that nowadays soon they see two people doing it they want to
join in so when they join in once again it doesn't matter what they say whether
they say you're crazy it's this and this all they're trying to do is grab the
blimp so monitor and tailor your response to that
don't logically think oh now this person said Papa John's oh they're crazy did
they hear about what happened no just think they're trying to grab the blimp
and ride it so you laugh with them you're like what are we got three how
many different people how many opinions we got how much pizza is in Austin tell
me about this it doesn't matter the words that come out of your mouth those
words I just said they're pretty stupid right but people feel that energy behind
it that's actually a good example so in this in this little video the two
examples I've given you pretty dumb right the we're all how many different
pizza places are there in Austin but it works because the energy is going up
there riding the blip they don't care what's painted on the side of it they
don't care if it's red or blue they see the blimp going up so even if
big dopey bears like I want a pizza place are there they want to get on that
blip lower the bar for what you're saying for the words you're saying
realize logically it doesn't matter even if she's disagreeing with you the goal
is to get the mood up rock create that avalanche the avalanche maybe isn't a
good example of Technol urges are going down
I like the blimp let's stick with that crate that Goodyear blimp that other
people can ride and then immediately that first impression of you when when
that girl that you just met who's friends with the other one has a party
does she want you there you're the good mood blimp man yeah but bear in the
blimp I want him to be there people are gonna love him I can't wait for my
friends to meet him why because you didn't feel the need to hold that frame
you're wrong my pizza places but really gee that sounds amazing what do you get
there what kind of pizzas do they have well the blimp is taken off and everyone
is gonna jump on now one of the things I'll say is what if you're in a
conversation and let's say it's a guy this time just to kind of spin it up a
little bit and you're talking about pizza and he says oh man you're just a
fish you're a dope what kind of person would say something like that that dudes
not trying to get on the blimp that guy's trying to make you look bad a very
different thing now you need to know how to handle that when somebody puts you
down because if you're out there you know like dudes can tear people that
shouldn't say just dudes it usually is but people can make you look bad pretty
quickly and other guys who are jockeying for status or quick to do that so they
see this blimp is taking off and they want to pull you down because maybe
maybe this guy comes into the group he's not your buddy someone else and he has a
crush on that girl and he sees you taking her away on the blimp he's like
who are you what kind of dope are you you know that pizzas lease is terrible
right you said I could idiot over here why don't you quit talking
I can't just ride the blimp I have to address that otherwise the blimp is
coming back down or it's gonna burst into flames
being able to come up with a quick comeback when someone puts you down not
only stopped you from being pulled down it makes you look
even higher because now you're taking off with the blip this guy's trying to
pull it down because he has a crush on this girl or forever reason and you just
handle him like nobody's business that speeds the blimp up it boosts your
status up massively I've got another video on YouTube where I'll walk you
through the best ways to always have a quick comeback so you can actually check
someone or put them in place and they try to talk down to you or make fun of
you I'll put the video right here that I'll talk to you there now