- I love being a mom, obviously.
But sometimes it's really hard.
So, today's episode is all about
making your life a little bit easier
and helping you save money in the process.
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All right, moms, we know that you are CEO of your household,
and you make so many decisions.
And some of you, I would consider,
you're the banker of the household, right?
Like, you do all the money stuff.
So, in this episode, we're going to talk about
creative ways to save money in your everyday life.
Paula Faris is stopping by
to talk things all working mom.
And for all you women watching,
I partnered with Women's Day
to talk about some really great beauty products
that you can buy at drug stores for
really inexpensively. It's great.
Now, whether you're a stay-at-home
or you work outside the home,
we are all working moms.
Yes.
So, if you are a stay-at-home mom,
this is so interesting to me,
if you were put on a salary based on everything you do,
do you know you would make close to $162,000 a year?
It's insane, all the work that we do!
So, there's so much that we have juggling,
and things going on, and let's just say that mom life
can be a little cray-cray.
And can we just talk about some of the things
they don't tell you before you become a mom?
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Listen, being a mom is the best job I have. Seriously, I do.
I'm so thankful that I get to be one, and I love it.
I love the girls. I love having a baby.
Like, it's great. I'm happy about it all.
But just because I love it
doesn't mean that things are not hard sometimes.
Yes. And there are just things that people don't talk about.
Let's just start out with pregnancy, shall we?
We have a lot we could cover here,
and we won't get into a lot of it,
except, let's just talk about your hair.
I mean, my hair in pregnancy, I love.
I do. My hair's amazing. I don't know if it's the prenatals,
the hormones . . . Who knows what's happening.
But I love my hair.
But then, after you deliver the baby,
it all starts falling out.
No one really tells you that.
You think something's wrong with you,
and you start just, like, shedding, is what it feels like.
Then, after you shed, (laughs) a few months later
you start getting all this weird hair growth
in places around your hairline
that you normally didn't have hair.
Like, all these little wispy hairs start showing up.
Like, it's crazy.
And then, by the time you get those tamed down,
your baby starts eating solid foods.
And then you start to learn how to cut food,
and that you will be cutting food for your children
for years and years to come.
This is, like, one of the quirky parts about me being a mom,
is, like, I freak out about choking.
Like, choking's not my thing.
I don't do food and all that, so like,
I would puree my kids' food until they were 12 if I could.
But I'm always obsessed with cutting their food.
And I just remember thinking the other day,
I'm going to be cutting their food
for a really, really long time.
Yeah, it's true.
But listen, it's great work that we get to do as moms,
and I love it.
But there is one thing that I have learned
when it comes to being a mom,
is to work on yourself.
Yes, it's so important to stop and take time for yourself.
And I know, for me, one place that I've had to work on a lot
is contentment.
And that's one of the reasons I wrote
The Contentment Journal.
It's to spend time every single day
walking toward contentment in my life.
And the importance of journaling, you guys, is so huge.
Writing things down, so not that you just remember things
when you go back and read it,
but also, it's amazing, subconsciously,
what comes out when you write things down.
So, if you've not checked out The Contentment Journal,
make sure you do that.
You can click the link in the show notes to get your copy
or to start reading for free.
All right, another area that I'm trying to improve
is finding new ways to save money.
Yes, this is so important.
And you guys are so amazing,
so I went into my Facebook community
and asked you all the ways that you are saving money
in your life right now.
And we got some really great responses.
Emily says, "Shopping at Aldi saves us a lot of money.
We even buy our diapers and wipes there."
Alyson said, "Online grocery order, for sure.
I double up on paper coupons and e-coupons,
and I downloaded the Ibotta rebate app.
I like to see how much my total is
before I place the order.
It helps me stay within budget."
Ellen says, "Ebates.
I order baby formula, cat food,
and a handful of other essentials from Walmart
through the Ebates app, which is a 5% cash back
on all purchases, and free shipping for the bulk orders."
I love it.
So many fun, little ways to save money, you guys.
Take advantage of that.
Find those ways because, again,
it's money back in your pockets.
All right, another thing that I need you to think about
when it comes to your family is life insurance.
That's right, I've said it before,
but you are usually the CEO of your household,
so getting term life insurance is a priority.
You and your spouse need to be covered,
even if you're the one that stays at home.
So, for those of you working,
you need to get 10 to 12 times equal your annual income,
and for those stay-at-home moms or dads,
we recommend getting a $500,000 policy on you.
Now, life can be really busy with work,
taking kids to school, making dinner,
household chores, like, all the things,
so the last thing you want to do
is put something else on your to-do list.
But I personally recommend using Zander Insurance.
And I can tell you that they help make things super easy.
They walk with you through every step of the process,
shop all the top carriers to find the best rates,
and to make sure you're getting exactly what you need
for your family.
So, go to zander.com today
and make sure to get this taken care of
and checked off your list.
All right, coming up next is Paula Faris,
and she stopped by, and we talked all things working mom.
So, check it out.
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Paula, thanks for being here.
- Thank you for having me. - This is so fun.
- We have been talking about this happening
for at least the last four weeks.
- Yeah, I mean, it's been a super long time.
- No, we, you and I met,
you were in New York City, we connected,
I feel like we're soul sisters.
- It was like,
we're sisters from another mister or something.
Like, I mean, it just, yeah.
- Basically, we're sisters. - [Rachel] It's true, I know.
Those people that you just sit down with,
and you're like, oh yeah, we can just,
we can start talking everything.
- Everything, but I'm the older.
- The wiser, we'll say that. - I don't know about that.
But definitely older. - The elder. (laughs)
- Yes, I am your elder.
- Okay, so Paula, people that don't,
are not familiar with you,
you're a GMA anchor.
- I am. I anchored weekends for four years
with my co-anchor, Dan Harris.
And then I was doing The View for three years as well.
And now, after last year,
last year I stepped away from weekends
because I just wanted to work Monday through Friday,
my schedule was so crazy.
- So were you working seven days a week at that point?
- There would be some moments
between anchoring weekends, and doing The View,
and other projects.
I would go stretches of 21 days straight,
and it came to a point where I was like,
I can't do this anymore.
And you know, I've really felt like,
Okay, God. You wanted me to, I feel like you wanted me
to do this, but why is everybody getting my leftovers?
So, it kind of came to a point where I went to management,
they have been so, they worked with me beautifully.
They said, you can work Monday through Friday.
- Yes. Okay, so I'm curious, just as an ABC consumer,
between weekends, The View, and GMA,
like, what's your sweet spot?
Like, which one do you enjoy the most?
- I loved GMA weekends because we truly were a family,
and it's really hard to replicate that,
where you feel like your teammates have your back,
and they champion you, and they advocate for you,
and that you can trust them. It's very rare.
And so, that was one of the difficulties
walking away from the weekends.
I was walking away from a family,
my second family,
and I knew that I would probably never
replicate that sort of work environment again,
but, you know, my real family is most important to me,
so that was the reasoning behind that.
- Which is husband and kids.
So, how long have you been married?
- Thank you for clarifying. (Rachel laughs)
Yes, my real family - That is the family
she's talking about. - Husband and three kids.
Yes, we are college sweethearts.
But we've been married almost 19 years.
- And then, you guys had— - The rest is history.
We have three children. We have a daughter and two sons.
They're 11, nine and five.
- Oh, my gosh. - Yep.
- Okay, so tell me like, though, now,
because your schedule, is it pretty consistent?
- No.
But it is a little nuts. My kids are super understanding,
and I am very present with them.
- Yes, that's what I want I want to talk about,
is, like, so how do you do it?
Because I hear that.
People think I'm busy, and I travel some,
but I'm like, that's nothing compared to your job,
and having to be there early mornings, and all of that.
So, if you're talking to a working mom
and they ask, so, how do you do it?
- Well, I think you just,
first you have to give yourself a lot of grace.
You can't be everywhere, and you can't do it all.
I say, you can't lean in, you just hang on.
You literally hang on, and you enjoy the ride,
and you love your kids through it.
But I try to be very present with my kids when I'm with them.
And I put the phone away,
and I try to carve out something special
with each individual child.
And, for me, it's just letting them know that
they're always going to be my priority.
I'm not always physically there,
but they're always in my heart,
and they're always my priority.
- Yes. - [Paula] I think,
so you just have to pick and choose.
You can't be at everything,
so just pick and choose and create a conversation with them.
Say, okay, if I can only go to a couple of these,
where would you like,
which ones would you like me to go to?
And don't project the guilt.
Don't tell them how guilty you feel.
My kids, I've talked to them on many occasions,
I'm like, oh, I just wish I could quit and stay home.
And they're like, no, we like that you work,
and you kind of have a cool job, and you do fun things.
And I think they're proud of me in some respects.
But yeah, just keep an open conversation,
be honest with your kids, and have fun,
and carve out special time.
- I think that that's a good point, though,
don't project your guilt on them.
Because I feel like sometimes,
as a working mom, you think, like,
oh, my gosh they're struggling, and all this.
And yeah, there might be seasons where it's harder,
but I remember, specifically, I don't know why.
God's, like, given me this memory
that's just stayed with me.
Like, I remember before the first book tour my dad went on.
I was in, like, late middle school.
We had a big family meeting,
because back then, they went like six weeks at a time.
It was just like this huge chunk of time
he was going to be away, and it was like this big reveal.
They're talking about all the logistics and all this.
And I genuinely love my dad. Like, we have a great relationship
with my family. I'm so thankful. I love them.
But I remember thinking late middle school,
I was like, okay. I'm fine. You're okay, Dad.
- Yeah. - Do you know what I mean?
I could almost see, like, the guilt on him, you know?
And so, I always think about that memory where I'm like,
you're going to be okay. It's okay.
- I think just, in this climate, the messages that we get
as working moms is, you know, it's perfection,
and it's striving, and you feel like you have to do
everything and accomplish every little thing.
- Yes. - [Paula] And I'm like,
it's just, sorry, it's not a really great message.
At least for me, it doesn't apply for my life.
I just think it's not about leaning,
it's about just hanging on and enjoying the ride
and giving yourself the same amount of grace
that you give other people.
You have to give yourself plenty of grace
for the mistakes that you're going to make.
I tell, one of the greatest gifts
that I have given my children,
someone encouraged me to do this,
is the gift of admitting when you're wrong
and saying, I'm sorry.
My kids know I'm not perfect, and so when something, well,
I'm sorry. I'm not perfect.
And just creating that conversation—
- That's so good.
- [Paula] —that we're human.
We're flawed, and it's okay to make mistakes.
Mommy's going to make mistakes,
and you're going to make mistakes,
and guess what, we're going to love each other
despite those mistakes.
We'll love each other more.
And you learn from the mistakes.
- Yeah, that's so good and so true.
Just gives you permission, just to take a deep breath, moms.
You're good, even if you're a stay-at-home mom,
you're working just as much, if not more.
I sometimes think with those stay-at-home moms.
Okay, so you launched a new podcast,
which is so great, Paula.
- I'm excited. I have to have you on the podcast.
- [Rachel] I will. I'll come on.
- Please do.
- Yes, because it really is,
it's fascinating. So talk about that,
I want to hear.
- Yeah. We just launched it.
We're on season two,
and it just came out of my own personal faith.
I'm a believer, but I know that we don't give people,
at least from a mainstream platform, mainstream media,
we don't give them an opportunity to talk about faith
in the capacity of what they believe
and why they believe it.
We'll cut that sound bite out
because, you know, it's too spiritual. It's too religious.
But faith is so important, whatever faith you may be,
it's so important. It's the bedrock and foundation
of so many of our lives.
So I wanted to give people an opportunity
to talk about what they believe and why,
and how it gets them through the bumpy times,
and the highs and the lows.
I just want to have really respectful,
engaging conversations with people.
- I think it's so good.
That's powerful, and when it changes your life completely,
and the way you view,
that's the lens you see everything through,
so I think that that's awesome,
that you're digging into peoples' lives in that way
- Thank you. - and having
that conversation, it's so good.
- Thank you, my sister from another mister,
or another mother.
- It's so true. Oh my gosh.
Paula, thanks for coming on. - Thank you.
Guys, check out her podcast.
Make sure to go and subscribe to it.
And thanks for being here. - Thank you.
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- Wasn't Paula fun?
I mean, seriously, one of my favorite things in life
is connecting with other moms
because we can learn so much from each other.
So, this week, I want you to reach out
to another mom in your life and give her some encouragement.
All right, it's time to share some beauty products
that will save you money on your morning routine.
So, check out this fun segment I did with Woman's Day.
Hey guys, I'm here in New York
at Woman's Day's headquarters
with the beautiful Pia Velasco.
And she is going to walk us through some great beauty finds
because she is actually the Associate Beauty Editor
here at Woman's Day.
So, thanks for being here.
- Thanks for having us.
- Yeah, it's so great.
So, great value awards. You can find
all these beauty products at a drug store,
which I love,
which means they're super inexpensive, you guys.
And, actually, each product is under—
- It's $17 or less.
- Yes, which is so fantastic.
Okay, so walk us through some of these
because this is so fun.
- Well, what's amazing about all the products
is that they either have multiple benefits
or you can use them in different ways.
So you're really getting a bang for your buck
whenever you purchase one of these products.
- All right, first one.
I'm spotting the foundation. - Right.
- I love foundation.
- [Pia] So this is great.
So this is the Neutrogena Hydrating Foundation,
and what's wonderful about it is that,
since it is in a stick, you can take it
anywhere you want to.
It's no fuss, no mess.
It glides on perfectly for seamless application.
- And I love it because it's on the go.
- It's on the go. - Right?
Like, the one I use, it's like, liquid,
and I have stuff, like, all over my hands
and it's, like, all the mess.
But this is so portable, and it's great.
- [Pia] It's portable. It's great.
And what you can also do,
it's a little trick,
that if you want to go a little,
a shade a little bit darker,
you can actually use it to slightly contour.
- Oh, very nice. - [Pia] And then just
blend it in very seamlessly. - Yes, so beautiful.
Okay, so Neutrogena Hydrating Foundation Stick, you guys.
Great value. I love it.
All right, I'm spotting,
what is this, a lotion?
- [Pia] So that is a moisturizer.
- [Rachel] Moisturizer. - [Pia] And what's really
wonderful about this is that
it's also an SPF, which is wonderful.
And it's also moisturizing your skin.
But what I really love the most about this
is that is also has a treatment serum
inside its formula.
So, what that means is that it's formulated with Vitamin B3,
which is basically a powerhouse ingredient
for brightening dark spots.
- [Rachel] Okay, beautiful.
- It's a wonderful anti-ager.
- I love it, so nice.
All right, Dove Shower Foam.
- [Pia] So, what I love about this,
and what everybody really, really goes to this one for,
is that it's a three-in-one.
It's your go-to product.
So, it's your body wash,
but it comes out as a foam, so it's really fun.
- And I'm assuming it's probably lotion, too,
considering it's Dove.
- Yes, it is. - [Rachel] Moisturizer.
- So it has an ingredient called glycerine,
which is extremely moisturizing.
So you can just wash your body,
you don't have to put body lotion on when you're done,
and you can just walk out.
And you can use it as a shaving cream as well.
- Oh, nice!
- [Pia] Yeah, so it really is your three-in-one,
everything you need in one bottle.
- [Rachel] All right there.
All right, mascara.
We love our eyelashes, ladies.
- Who doesn't? - Yes.
So, CoverGirl.
- [Pia] CoverGirl. - [Rachel] Yes.
- [Pia] So what's great about this product
is that it's lengthening, it's defining,
and it's volumizing,
which is wonderful.
But apart from all of that,
it also doesn't flake, and it doesn't smudge.
- So good.
- So you really get these beautiful lashes all day long.
- The fact that is doesn't flake is the best.
- You will love this one.
- Okay, I can't wait.
- And a fun trick, too,
that is a little expert tip,
is that you can use the wand
and you can kind of wiggle it under your eyelashes
to create a very subtle eyeliner look.
- [Rachel] Oh, very nice.
- So that's a fun trick.
- That's why you're the beauty editor.
Okay, Vaseline Lip Therapy.
- [Pia] So what's great about this Vaseline product
is that it's obviously very hydrating,
so it's good as a lip balm.
It has a little bit of a rosy tint,
so you get a little bit more of an oomph.
It gives a little bit more of a natural
rosiness to your lips. - Totally, yeah!
- And then you can dab that on your cheeks too,
and because it is a little bit of a balm,
it does reflect light a little bit,
and so it gives you this really beautiful radiance
that just makes you look younger, more awake, healthier.
And it's just a really, really nice look
for your day to day.
- [Rachel] So, I've learned
that the dewy look is what's in, right?
So, it's like a little bit of that,
and so that's probably what that does,
is it just kind of gives that look above the cheekbones,
and it's in.
So ladies, you're welcome.
You're welcome.
All right, lipsticks.
- [Pia] And then the lipstick.
So this is the other product.
This is a line by Maybelline
made to flatter every skin tone.
So you know how sometimes you'll buy a red,
and it'll suit you, but it won't suit your best friend?
- Totally, totally, yes.
- [Pia] This one will fit every single shade.
- So nice. - [Pia] Which is wonderful.
- And it's just so smooth.
Like, I just tested it on my hand, even.
- Yeah, they're smooth, they're moisturizing,
and they really just wear so beautifully on the skin.
- [Rachel] So good.
- And so, what we like to do
is that we'll grab this color,
and we can put it on our lips,
but we can also put it on our cheeks.
Kind of match and give this really beautiful look.
And these shades that are a little bit more nude,
you can even use on your eyelids.
- Okay, so great.
- So that's a fun little trick for whenever you
don't have space in your makeup bag,
or you're kind of on the go
and you need a makeup look all over,
all you really need is lipstick.
- And it's amazing. Lipstick is one of those things,
especially if you get inexpensive ones,
it can change up your look so fast.
So you can buy, like, a bunch and have different options,
and it's there, and it doesn't break the bank,
and yet, it's still great quality, which is awesome.
Okay, I'm seeing this back here.
I'm fascinated.
- Okay. - Talk to me all about this.
- Yes, micellar waters are amazing.
So, what a lot of people don't know
is that you have to use a makeup remover and a cleanser.
Micellar waters are fantastic because they do it two-in-one.
You just get a little bit on a cotton pad,
put it on over your face, and you're done.
That's it. That's all you have to do.
- All the products in one.
Oh, I love it.
See, this is so great.
And we said it earlier, you guys, but it's true.
I'm like, you get one of the products,
but you get so many different uses out of it.
And each one is under $17, so it's fantastic.
Pia, you changed our lives.
(laughs)
Changing lives, making us beautiful.
So, thanks so much. Thanks for coming on
and sharing all this great stuff.
- No, thanks so much for visiting us.
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- All right, this was such a fun episode.
Thanks so much to Paula for coming on,
and for Woman's Day with all their great money-saving tips,
and thank you guys for watching.
All right, make sure to check out my podcast
for an extended conversation with Paula.
It's a great one.
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or my podcast, make sure you do that
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And as always, make sure you take control of your money
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