What Makes Us Cheat The Ones We Love?
We have all heard infinite stories about infidelity from our neighbors and distant relatives who
we see only once a decade!
Ever had your ears poisoned against your other half by these “well-meaning” people who
happen to know at least 30 odd people who are cheating on their spouse?
We have all been there and have wondered what makes a person cheat on their spouse.
Is it the urge to be with someone younger and more attractive or is it unsaid satisfaction
from the marriage?
If these questions have ever popped in your mind, you are at the right place because we
are unveiling 8 reasons that make a person cheat their lover!
Number 1.
Absence of emotional intimacy So women are emotional beings and when they
don’t get to bare their heart to their significant other through conversations, she might look
f or emotional intimacy in another relationship.
Most of you would say that this reason is valid only for women because men would cheat
their wives only for physical action, right?
Well, research proves otherwise!
In his book The Truth about Cheating, marriage counselor Gary Neuman says that 47% of his
male clients who cheated talked about the absence of emotional intimacy.
You weren’t expecting this, were you?
That is the problem ladies; you are in the habit of ignoring your husband’s need for
emotional bonding and that’s where he decides to walk a different path!
Number 2.
Influence of experience and society If you were once cheated on in a relationship,
you know that your partner’s infidelity comes to haunt you long after you’ve ended
the relationship with them!
It’s a “hard to shake off” feeling!
But did you know this experience has increased your probability of acting the same way with
a new partner?
Our past experiences have a larger impact on our actions than we think!
But that’s not the only thing that influences you, how can we forget about the peers?
In one anonymous poll, more than 75% of men who committed adultery indicated that their
friends also cheat on their wives.
Take the hint women; drag your husband away from their friends who engage in adultery!
Number 3.
Boring intimate relationship There you go, you’ve been waiting for this
one, right?
Love making is not only a physical need but it also does the job of bonding two people
emotionally.
So when your partner is deprived of the bedroom action, they are also emotionally alienated
from you to some extent.
In a 2011 survey, it was found that 70% of men and 49% of women decided to cheat their
partners because they were not satisfied with their ways in bed.
But the most shocking thing is that the people who stated this reason for their infidelity
also said that their relationship was happy in general!
Which means that, a lull in physical intimacy can be the sole culprit of driving your loved,
one into the arms of another!
Leave your stresses outside the bedroom door and get down and dirty!
Number 4.
Excessive interest in social networks The ladies may be busy clicking selfies and
posting them on Instagram, but guys are no innocent souls either!
Be it an addiction to stalk random people on Facebook or forwarding every stupid joke
that is thrown your way through messaging apps, a lot of people are addicted to social
media.
Did you think that this addiction to your not-so-smart-phone to keep up with virtual
relationships will not hamper your real partners?
All the nights when you left your partner lying alone in bed to check that one message
or just scroll your feed on Facebook, you gave them a reason to step over the line!
We are not saying that their way of filling that void you left is justified but you are
also to be blamed.
That’s a hard hitting one but it’ll help you!
Number 5.
Quarter life crisis There comes a point in our life when we begin
contemplating about our life from a new point.
Nothing positive here dude, we mean the time when we start summing up the results of the
past years.
While some people are satisfied by why they have achieved or done, most of us enter a
self pitying or critiquing phase.
No prizes for guessing that it doesn’t end well!
This over thinking simply pushes us into the so-called quarter-life crisis and then they
might become vulnerable to temptation.
Another interesting thing found out by a research is that it usually happens at the age of 29,
39, or 49 — just before the new decade.
No we aren’t saying that right after your partner has turned 39, they are going on a
romantic hunt.
But all we mean is that when things are already unfavorable, age can worsen the circumstances!
Number 6.
Lack of oxytocin So now we are getting into the science of
relationships!
Oxytocin is a hormone in our bodies that rises when we hug or kiss a loved one.
Basically, it plays an important role in creating and maintaining trust in a relationship.
That’s so scientifically romantic!
Anyway, scientists believe that the lack of this hormone can become a trigger when it
comes to cheating.
We see eyebrows raising there but like we said, we are getting scientific here so there
is proof!
An experiment was conducted on several married men where they were injected with oxytocin
before getting acquainted with an attractive woman.
They were then told that they could get as close to her as they wanted.
Guess what the results were.
Participators that got a hormone dose insisted on a bigger distance between them and the
woman than those who got a placebo.
The take home lesson- Give him hugs and he isn’t going anywhere!
Number 7.
Work and business trips Yes ladies, all the time when your husband
was traveling overseas for a “business meeting”, he was actually with another woman.
That’s definitely not the business you expect your husband to be “doing”!
A poll disclosed that more than 1/3 of cheating men are serious businessmen who used to cheat
on their beloved women during business trips.
Maybe we’ve figured out why they never want to take their wives with them!
Wait, there’s no male bashing going on here, time to move on to the ladies.
As per the same poll, 13% women admitted to having an affair at their workplace even when
they were married or in a long term relationship with someone else.
You work is giving you an opportunity to build relations with new people but not like this!
Number 8.
Can’t help it There are certain people who have been caught
cheating on their significant other, were given another chance to mend their ways but
surprisingly, they ended up on the same route again!
In fact, they do it every time- cheat on their partners, get caught and repeat!
But why is that so?
It’s because cheating comes with an adrenaline buzz and these people have somehow become
addicted to it!
We aren’t joking; there are people who say that they can’t help but cheat on their
partners for no reason because they can’t behave in any other way, wow!
Reasons behind this could be hidden deep inside them but yes, it can be almost impossible
for some people to be monogamous!
What according to you are the reasons behind infidelity?
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