(00:00): How can I be authentic
without hurting anyone? (00:10):
Okay. So it's hard to get into the details of this question because the person didn't gimme a lot of
details, but I'm kind of understanding where this question is coming from. So
usually someone will ask this question when they're either in a relationship or a family
situation, or even with friends that they've been behaving a certain way. That's not authentically
who they are. And then suddenly they start to have a spiritual awakening and now they wanna
be more authentic to their own truths. And they're afraid of how, what that's gonna do to the people
around them. That's usually when I get this type of question. Okay. So the first thing to remember
when answering a question like this is that at the end of the day, you being true to you, you
being within your authenticity, you being just the pure version of you on this planet as possible.
(00:56): And when, I mean the pure version,
I mean the original version, the you that is supposed to be here, the natural you, the you
that is has no masks. That's not pretending. That's not trying to be someone you're not.
That's what I mean by pure you it's the, you that has incarnated as a soul down here on planet earth
without any programming. Okay. That is one of the key issues for you to be able to walk in this
lifetime is to be able to connect with that part of you. So the point here is that regardless of,
if it causes issues to the people around you, if it makes people feel uncomfortable,
if it makes others just be completely not in tune with who you are, it doesn't matter.
Okay? And this is sometimes a hard aspect when it comes to coming into our authentic power.
(01:45): And our authentic selves is that if we've
been Mar wearing masks for a really long time, it could be jarring then to be our authentic selves,
because other people are expecting us to behave in a certain way that we're not behaving in anymore.
Okay. But the point here is in this question, it's, it's really, it's very difficult for you to
go from being inauthentic or pretending to be someone you're not to someone who's authentic
and it not impacting the people around you. It will impact the people around you,
but you cannot control how the people around you are going to perceive you or are going to interact
with your authentic self. And that's not even your responsibility. , this is so important
to remember. It's not your responsibility, how other people perceive you, even if they are very,
very close to you, even if it's your husband or wife or, or relationship or parents, it doesn't
matter how close that person is to you. (02:41):
The, your authenticity, the way it impacts them is none of your business. . This is a hard
one. I know that this is a hard one sometimes because when we're going through a spiritual
awakening and we're starting to come more into our authentic self, there's a part of our ego
that just wants things to go on being the way that they were before. . We wanna come
into our authentic cells, but without ruffling any feathers, and that's just not possible,
it's never gonna happen. Right? When we come into our authentic cells, when we
start behaving a little bit differently than we behaved when we were wearing masks and we were,
when we were pretending to be someone else, then, you know, if, if, if we change that behavior,
it's going to ruffle feathers, or it may in the least, at least surprise some people. Okay?
(03:24): But at the end of the day,
when you come into your authenticity, you're not doing that. Being yourself is in no way, hurtful
to anyone else. Okay? I'm gonna repeat this again, cuz this is an important thing to remember
being your authentic self is in no way, hurtful to other people. It, that, that just doesn't
jive. Well, right? Like that doesn't go hand in hand. Me being my authentic self
should not be painful at all to anyone else around me. And I'm not hurting them. I'm not,
I'm not doing anything to hurt anyone. I'm just being me. Now. The repercussions of me being me
and how other people perceive me, then that's on them. You don't have any responsibility. You,
you have absolutely no responsibility on how other people perceive you and how they see you.
Okay? Now, if you're in a relationship or in a family situation where now you're starting to
become your authentic self and it is starting to, uh, ruffle some feathers, it's starting to make
people feel uncomfortable. (04:18):
The best advice I have when it comes to that is to have open and honest conversations
with people have open and honest conversations with people where you let them know that yeah,
you're changing. You're becoming more of yourself. You're becoming more of your authentic self.
And this is your, this is gonna be your rules of engagement. Moving forward. You wanna be treated
this way. You expect to be treated in a certain way. And so you communicate very openly who you're
becoming that it's your authentic self and how you want to interact with other people. Now this is
you are absolutely free to do this. Okay? But open and honest communication is a really, really
important way for you to kind of be able to smooth things over with the people that are meant to stay
in your life. That's another little side note that I wanna leave here before I finish this video.
(05:06): When you're coming into your authentic self,
when you have a spiritual awakening and you start to, to throw down the masks and become more of
your authentic self, there are going to be people in your life that no longer resonate with that.
So there will be people in your life that as you communicate with them, what's happening to you.
They, they really, you smooth things out with them and you're able to, to weather the changes
and you continue to be in each other's lives, but there are other people where you, you stepping
into your authentic power, creates a, a big resistance in them. They're not willing to change
or accept you as you are. And those relationships may drop. All right? We don't know how who's,
who's gonna, what's gonna happen. Who's gonna stay in our life. Who's not gonna stay in our
life. The main point for the person watching this question and anyone who's having difficulty coming
into their authentic self right now being their authentic self is that you're doing it for you.
(05:59): You're doing it to be more in
alignment with your soul. However, the pieces may fall in your outer environment. Okay? So,
but the, the, the biggest piece of advice I would have transitioning into more of your authentic
self is just having open and honest communication with the people around you so that they can
understand a little bit better, where you're coming from, where you're going and that at the
end of the day, you're becoming a more authentic, truthful person, because now you're honoring who
you are on a soul level and that's, that's gotta be honored. That's really exciting.