Dan here and in this video you are going to learn the two possible paths an
ENFP can take to become successful and the one route you should never ever go
down unless you love misery and heartbreak. Now if you're new to the
channel I am Dan Johnston the author of way too many books including some around
personality psychology, the creator of the Free Freelancer and ENFP Unleashed
and here my mission is to help you become the best version of yourself and
create the most awesome life possible for you and those you love so as you may
or may not know I am an ENFP myself and I have been working with enfps for many
years now and I've noticed two potential paths that what I would consider
successful enfps tend to go down no of course successful has many definitions
it's all about our own values and that's actually something we talk a lot about
on the channel is not letting other people to find you or what success is
for you but in this case I'm using success in terms of basically have their
shit together they tend to do what they say they'll do they tend to be
relatively happy with life not overly stressed not overly stressed about money
and generally have a relatively happy life so the first path is going against
your own grain but doing so in a very conscious way so sometimes I'll hear
from enfps who will say hey I am an accountant or an investor or I do some
kind of sales and I know it's not perfect for me as a creative as an ENFP
but I'm smart enough and I work hard enough that I get it done and I can make
a really good income so I've decided to go down this route and find ways to make
it more acceptable for me so that might be how they approach the job or finding
things outside of the job to give them that life satisfaction fulfillment that
they don't necessarily have within their jobs personally as you probably know
this isn't my ideal route to go down but I also know we all have different
circumstances and different obligations with their lives and
there's also the case where you might have an opportunity to make an insane
amount of money and so maybe what some enfps decide to do is from age 25 to 35
to go work an extremely draining high-paying job put in ten years and
then retire and chill on the beach or something like that
now overall though with this path the key is to acknowledge your superpowers
acknowledge your strengths and acknowledge that it's not going to be
perfect for you you're gonna have some extreme levels of stress maybe if you're
dealing with confrontation or other personality types that really conflict
with yours but that doesn't mean you can't go down this path and you can't
succeed so that's one thing that I have noticed with my clients and just other
enfps I meet the other path to success is just to totally embrace the whole
ENFP thing embrace who you are and go full-out with it so what that means is
maybe taking a high risk opportunity creating your own business doing
something a little outrageous in the creative fields these sorts of roots
generally take three to five years to succeed I look at my own business if I
look at a lot of other people I know who have successful businesses sometimes it
happens quicker sometimes it takes longer but generally you're looking at
three to five years to build a really unique life based on your passions or
your natural talents or something like that that's just how the math works out
so that's another route you can go down where you say alright the next three to
five years I'm gonna maybe struggle I might be a bit stressed I'll be taking
big risks but I'm going to be building my baby I'm gonna be doing the thing
that I've always wanted to do and I have so much passion for and it will all be
worth it that's a pretty cool route to go down as well that's essentially what
I have done after a very brief stint trying option number one now choosing
between these two if I had to say to do one or the other I think it's worth it
to take the risk sacrifice for some time and build that
thing that you're really going to love doing because we have long lives at
least most of us and there is a lot of time ahead of you so
why not invest three four five years now to create an incredible life for the
rest of your life I promise I would mention what you should absolutely not
do and that's attempt to do both of these this is the road of death for an
ENFP here's what it looks like okay I really want to be a cartoonist I love
creating cartoons I love drawing I love making people laugh but that's not very
realistic so I'm gonna get into consulting and get a job at a big firm
because you know I can I'm smart whatever it is a year into that job it's
oh man I really hate this this is such a waste of my time I hate coming in I'm
not expressing my own creativity I quit I'm gonna go do my own thing
six months later oh my god I don't have any money people are disappointed in me
I gotta get a job again go back to the job eight months in I can't stand going
into this work all the time I can't stand this job okay I'm gonna quit and
I'm gonna do my own thing a year later I'm so stressed I need money I can't do
this there's no structure I can't handle this on my own I'm gonna get a job and
you see where this goes basically any financial savings are down the drain
because every time you quit your job to do your own thing you burn through your
savings really quick and any chance at serious career progress is flushed away
because you're quitting every six months every year like no really good company
is gonna look at you and say wow you're completely unstable and have no
determination come work for us on the other side your creative journey in
terms of being an awesome cartoonist you could actually have built a great legacy
doing that built a great income after five years but you're not because you
keep quitting every six months every year and going back and forth back and
forth this is the one thing you should never ever ever ever do so what I'm
thrown out here is to be more conscious of the choice
you're making to really look at your life and if you want to say hey I'm
going to turn my back on that creative part of me that wants to start a
business or wants to do something with my artistic ability I'm going to decide
to be a bit of a realist and I hate that word just I know I'm gonna be a bit of a
realist and I'm going to suck it up and get a job and save up a bunch of money
and buy a house or provide for my family or whatever that's what you're gonna do
be honest with yourself and go that route and go all-in and commit for the
next time to 20 years of your life again would not be my path I would not really
recommend it but if you're gonna do it don't be ask yourself own it go down
that route or if you're gonna do your own thing
which is as you know what I'm all about and what dreams around the world is all
about if you're going to do your own thing then give yourself the time to
succeed give yourself two to five years acknowledge that it will be tough at the
beginning now people perhaps even me have some programs have some coaching
available that can help it go a little smoother and help you feel
like you're supported and you're not alone when you're doing it but no matter
what it's going to take time there's going to be moments or maybe weeks of
self-doubt and of struggle and of stress and overwhelm and I know that doesn't
sound very fun but the reality is if you stick with it you'll become an
incredible person you'll become tougher stronger more determined than you ever
thought possible and after a couple years you're going to have this amazing
creation whether it's an artistic business and entrepreneurial business
some hybrid of them all it will be very much worth it so I would encourage you
to make a decision one way or the other take your route and then go all in with
it speaking of all in go all in and
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route have you been going down and looking at this what route are you
going to choose for yourself in the future thanks for watching catch you
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