delayed ejaculation porn and masturbation oh my i'm dr trish leigh in this video i want to
break down the relationship between those three things specifically how porn and masturbation
impact delayed ejaculation which i know so many men struggle with if they watch porn
so here's what we're gonna do first number one i'm gonna talk about how porn and masturbation impact
delayed ejaculation and why secondly what's going on in your brain that makes it so that
delayed ejaculation happens and of course number three your brain hack stay tuned to the end of the
video so i can give you an awesome brain hack so that you can repair your brain performance pattern
and never have to worry about delayed ejaculation again all right let's dig in
so what's going on let me tell you this is what's happening let me set the scenario first
the scenario is that let's say you consume pornography and you masturbate and you have
a good time doing those things and if you've seen me before i'm here to tell you when you
watch porn and masturbate you are in fact damaging your brain and what that means is you are knocking
out functioning in the frontal lobe and you're desensitizing the reward center which means that
your brain needs a bigger amount of stimulation to be able to get there if you know what i mean so
now it's time to be with your partner your partner is a normal stimulus no matter how fantastic she
or he is they are a real live human being opposed to pornography coupled with masturbation which is
high levels of mental and physical stimulation more than you can get by being with your honey
porn and masturbation are a super normal stimulus more than normal so what happens is now it's time
to be with your honey who is a normal stimulus a healthy level stimulus but your brain's used
to super normal levels of stimulation and you have fried out the reward center in your brain
so it needs more and more and more of the super normal stimulus to be able to get all the way to
orgasm so now you're with your honey and you are not able to get there because there's a normal
level of stimulation now normal doesn't have to mean boring normal can mean healthy it means
it can be fun it can be erotic it can be engaging it's just nowhere near the levels that you can get
from the hyperstimulation of porn and masturbation that's why ejaculation is delayed it doesn't
have to do with your special parts as sheamus calls it my son it has to do with your brain
it has to do with the fact that inside the midbrain is the reward center that has sensory
information sent to it that tells your brain when you are aroused enough to be able to get to orgasm
and if you're going back to porn and masturbation you will not be able to get there with your honey
okay so that was number one and two hopefully that makes sense to you so number three what's
the brain hack clearly the first part of the brain hack is you have to stay out of the screen
it's time to leave porn and masturbation behind let me tell you why when you go into the screen we
know it's a super normal stimulus for a whole host of reasons that i've outlined in other videos it
is going to stimulate your brain to the nth degree when you couple it with masturbation masturbation
is more physical stimulation and you've mastered the technique likely no pun intended you've
mastered that technique to be able to get that highest level of physical stimulation also so now
you have to leave that behind and retrain your brain to be able to be aroused at those healthy
levels again not at those super high levels porn's got to go masturbation's got to go and practice
being with your partner without any help from fantasy or masturbation now the reason i say that
is because i work with a lot of people who will be with their partner and they'll use masturbation to
be able to get to orgasm because of delayed ejaculation so they're with their partner
they're trying to be with their partner but they can't get there without fantasy or masturbation
but leaving them behind is the key to being able to get there without them and it's this total
catch 22 because your sex life might get worse before it gets better but it can't get better
unless you leave porn and masturbation behind so hopefully you understand that so the second part
leaving porn behind leaving masturbation behind but the second part is practicing sex at healthy
levels and communicating with your partner to be able to get the highest level of arousal
from a connected sexual experience now i also know from talking with so many people
and working with so many people in my program that communication about sex and your arousal template
and what turned you on and what your partner likes is generally very low between partners
so it's time to increase that communication and allow yourself to be vulnerable with your
partner and allow yourself to explore your own healthy sexuality with your partner so you don't
have to keep going back to unhealthy sexuality to fulfill what are right now your distorted needs
that can become your healthy needs through communication interaction and creating an awesome
sex life in your own life okay i hope that helps you out if you're looking for help on the journey
please reach out to me dr trish lee.com there's programs on my website of all different shapes and
sizes we have a blog post there with information i have a podcast that i put out weekly so please
tap in get more information so that you can keep moving forward on this journey because
it's a worthwhile one okay rock it out and as always control your brain or it'll control you
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