Hi I'm Nicholeen Peck, and I starred in an episode of The World's Strictest Parent's back in 2009.
Today, we're gonna watch a world strictest parent's reaction video.
To one moment in the show that got a lot of attention actually. This is
when a friend of mine named Cash was giving some teenage relationship advice to Hannah.
If you've seen some of my other reaction videos. You know, that Cash is a ranch hand
at a ranch that we used to go to. In fact, it's no longer in operation actually it's kind of sad.
But he was there working with Hannah and James one day on the farm.
Well, Hannah decided that Cash was a pretty interesting guy maybe even a little cute. And so,
the camera crew decided that it would be fun for the two of them to have a little lunch date and
for them to just talk about life. So that Hannah could see the differences between how teenagers
were raised where I live and how teenagers behave and are raised where she lives, and it was a pretty
eye-opening experience. So, let's go ahead and take a look at this, they're going to eat at a place
in the little town of Stockton, and so you see here like it says like, the special is the coal
miners daughter, you know. Because it was called the Stockton miners cafe, it's no longer there anymore.
But kind of a fun little iconic place that they went to go and eat. So let's see what happens.
The pecks have arranged for Hannah to meet with ranch hand Cash for a lunchtime date.
They want her to understand a different teenage perspective. -You're going to meet the boy in town
usually, you take your mate with you on the first time, and then you just get a better beat and like
his smokes. And then, if you're single and that then you'll go back to his house and probably have sex.
In Utah, the age of consent is 18. Okay, I have to stop right there because I always laugh
at that. So here's Cash, just eating and eating and she's like, "Okay, well where I live you know.
You might go and meet a guy for the first time and kind of see if maybe you like him and then
if you're single you're probably gonna go back to his place and you're gonna have sex".
And cash is just like, "Okay", you know like that is definitely not how we do it here, right.
And so, he's just kind of casually taking it in, he's eating his food. But you can see him just
processing like, "Holy cow, I would never even think of treating a girl like that of just assuming
that sex is going to be one of the first things that we're going to do together as we get to know
each other". I mean, he just was not raised that way at all. In fact, if anything he was raised to
respect women and to just put them on a pedestal almost, you know. His father incredibly respectful
to his mother, he's got multiple brothers and a sister. They all care for and serve their sister.
I mean, just a really amazing family that just knows how to raise really good respectful boys.
And this is kind of shocking him a little bit, but he's trying not to show his shock by like
stuffing his face with food. Okay, so let's see what he says then. Like all Mormons,
the Peck children will be expected to save sex for marriage. -Sixteen is when you should date.
Should be more learning about other people, what you like, what you don't like, you know in a person. They say,
passionate kissing is the word, you shouldn't do that. You shouldn't lie on top of each other
and you should always date in groups. -And that's like two teachers or not before you're 16. -You're not.
- I mean, before you get my knees, -No, supposedly not. You can hold hands, sit by each other, - That's it?
-Talk you know, and then... -Have you actually sleep in the same bed? -No
definitely not that's absolutely not allowed.
Okay so, they're going back and forth what Cash is allowed to do and what cash is not allowed to do.
And of course, she's recognizing, "Well, I'm not going to be doing anything with this guy because he has
all these rules". So number one, group dating that that's important and he's explaining, "The purpose
of dating for me in my culture is to get to know people, to see if I like somebody maybe, and if I
want to get to know them more. But it's all about relationship development and really knowing a
person and not just about physical things", and so he says, "You know, we're not gonna like lay on
top of each other. We're not gonna be touching each other in ways", and she says, "What? You can't
be touching each other before you get to know each other better?", and he's like, "No" and he says,
"We can hold hands maybe. Maybe sit next to each other when we're watching a movie or something".
And she's like, "You mean, you can't even sleep in the same bed together?", and he's like, "No". So, just
very interesting. So what he's explaining is standards. These standards are super important.
In fact, every family does have standards and if you have a lack of standards meaning you
don't have any standards that you've defined for your family, well then that's your standard.
Your standard is anything goes. But Cash's family has standards and my family has standards too. In fact,
he mentions that according to our faith that we choose to have these standards. Now, every
person who's part of our faith is not required to have these standards by any means. But they are
suggested to keep those physical appetites at bay and to focus on the more long-term. To focus on the
eternal perspective, to creating a forever family, not just gratifying the senses in the minute.
It's all about self-control really, and there's a great guide actually that came out years ago
when I was a young girl called, "For the strength of youth". And this guide actually has been published
and presented all over the world. In fact, leaders of many different faiths have said,
"Wow, what a great guide to give to young people". It talks about relationships, it talks about standards,
it talks about controlling yourself and becoming more honest, just becoming a better person.
So anyway, he's giving her an idea what some of these standards would be like for relationships
and sexual things and she is really surprised by these things. So let's see where they go from here
-Because I mean, if you're sleeping in the same bed you might as well be doing it too, you know what I mean.
In our church and in our culture, our relationship is more about emotional support and more
about getting to know people, and what you like and what you don't like, and to get to know what
you like what you don't like. You don't need to be sleeping with people. -Bye, -See yah.
The most important thing in the relationship for me is he needs to make me laugh.
He needs to be nice to me. He needs to call me and tell me (inaudible)...
(inaudible). So there's the difference. So we have Cash giving some advice about what really
relationships are about when you're in the teenage years. That they're about getting to know people
and respecting people and you know learning how to communicate with other people. He gives some
really good sound advice there and then we hear Hannah and her saying, "Listen you know,
a relationship with me you know for me is all about what I get out of it. Do I get sex, do I get
to feel good about myself. Is he gonna tell me that I'm good-looking, you know". That kind
of thing and what she gets out of it. So there's a difference there, Cash is focusing on what he
is giving to that person as far as friendship goes, and she's focusing on what she gets, big difference.
I think it's really telltale to get this type of advice from the teens themselves. I think
Cash did a great job at helping Hannah as well as many other people who contacted him afterward.
Know and understand why he behaves the way he does. Why his dating rules are what they are and just
standing up in general for his own principles and values, I was so proud of him. There is one
thing that I thought was kind of funny. After all of this thing happened this whole show.
Everyone in the community, all the kids had a nickname for Cash. They called him a ranch hand Cash.
It was so funny they're like, "Hey, ranch hand Cash", and he was like, "Oh boy, I'm never gonna live
that down". But I think inside, everyone was really proud of him. They felt like he had stayed true to
who he was and had really set a good example for what it meant to be a young person living in our
area of the world, and had maybe even made a good impression on some people. In fact, I know we did
there were multiple different people who ended up altering some of their lives and behaviors and who
ended up becoming his friend over time, interesting. Social media brought a lot of people into
Cash's world because of his little vignette, his little bits that he did on this program.
I'm going to be doing reaction videos on all the different parts of our episode of the world's
strictest parents and there are some funny things, some touching things, might even make you cry a
little bit. I mean, they did make us cry in the moment for sure. So, if you don't want to miss
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