It's okay, I'll buy you something - No that's fine I will pay
No no no, I'm totally okay to pay -
really it is fine
let me pay, you idiot
Some tend to just say "cute" but I want to know WHAT exactly you think is cute
Hey guys and girls on ask Japanese it's your flashy fashion reporter CathyCat
From the streets of Tokyo and today we are gonna go hit the streets of Tokyo and ask
how Japanese boys can annoy Japanese girls even without noticing
Let's find out what annoys Japanese girls that Japanese boys do and ask Japanese
What do boys not understand around here? - they are looking out for us but
they walk on the road side, but let me walk on the blocks
- I get that
You mean the yellow blocks for visually impaired people? - yes
Especially when you're wearing heels
That's quite troublesome - Boys are walking on the side of the road for you
but you are actually in more trouble due to that
Exactly
For example, we go out to eat together and pay for the meal
When boys try to buy me something, it becomes awkward instead
There are times when I want them to stop
At that time, you want to split the bill? - that it's okay to split the bill
I don't mind paying the whole bill either
Sometimes girls want to do that too
This bill dance is a pain
Ok you had tapioca and a meal and I am the boy saying
I'll treat you, so it's okay
I will pay
No, no, I'll pay
It's okay No, please let me pay - I am cool and I will pay for you
When I come this far, I might think about it for a while.
This felt like a bill battle
It is
I could tell how desperate you were to pay
But I didnt want to loose
No, no, no, no, I thought you were probably being considerate. But actually you wanted me to stop.
that is it
Is there a way that no one can hurt at times like that?
say " next time I'll treat you instead "
It's like "I'm buying next time"
everyone is happy
everyone might be happy
On the contrary, in some emotional situations, men sometimes don't understand women's feelings
Is there anything like that? - after gaining or loosing weight
I don't want them to say that I've lost weight or anything like that.
I don't want boys to talk about appearance like that
But it's OK to day "you look cute today"
That's ok - But not "you gained or lost weight"? - Yeah
I am Naturally Against Lookism
Men often say direct things about girls looks, that hurt a little
The moment I was told that I had lost weight,
I think "was I fat before then?"
I don't want boys to say anything like that
Also, " your hair was good before."
If I cut my hair, I want to just say that that looks ok now
Don't say '"it looked better before" because I can't go back to how my hair looked before right!?
When people told me my hair before looked nice
they might mean to flatter me, but I can't return to that so please don't stick to the past.
I get that
It's actually painful
'What before was better!??!" - Right!
Well then, isn't this a Harajuku Fashion team here?
Yay
So what I'm asking you today is
things that men don't understand about women
I'm sure there are many, but the first thing that comes to mind is? - boys about girls?
i don't know
Haven't you ever been told that you should wear a little more normal fashion?
Some boys told me "I like another fashion style, so you should wear that other fashion style."
Like "wear punk fashion instead"
Actually I always wear punk
Even if there is something, I like old clothes, so it's a little, but I wear pants in old clothes.
I've been told "I like vintage so you should wear vintage clothes"
But wouldn't it deviate from your favorite fashion?
That's why I refuse
If you don't like it, then we are over
Please accept her the way she is
Yes
Also boys never say what is cute
They just say "You look cute" and end it there
I just asked you boy WHAT looks cute about my outfit!
We want boys to tell us what they think is cute
If they tell you what they like about your style, you can wear that more often
But please don't just end it with "You are cute" with no pointers
Ok let's play pretend that I am a guy
- You are cute today - What exactly do you think is cute today?
Uh well everything
Not EVERYTHING
I asked what specifically. There must be something
So what is cute?
Uh ah... uh
Why do you not have an answer to that? And then we start fighting
That's where it starts
You want them to pay attention to something like one specific point
For example, ah, you worked hard on your hair,
or you re-dyed your hair or, this decoration is cute
So boys these are some hints for you
And if boys can do that, we feel like they really got us.
Take notes guys
Sometimes you can do all the right things but if you don't really listen out
and watch out for the girl right next to you
you might get it wrong and frustrate her more
than you thought was even possible
my gosh we are all complicated but how about we add a little bit more communication
a little bit looking out for each other can go a long way
Have you been nice to someone today? You better be
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