- Now, I'm from Boston, and if you know Bostonians,
you probably know that St. Patty's Day is pretty much
as big a deal as Christmas to us, and why wouldn't it?
You get to go to bars, you get to drink Guinness all day,
you get to hang out with all your friends.
It is awesome, but you would think with all the information
going on about coronavirus people would take a step back
and maybe not go out to the bars.
That was not the case.
Yesterday, bars in South Boston had
to shut down their restaurants because there were lines
running out the door of people trying to pack into the bar
for St. Patty's Day, and this made me realize
that perhaps people don't realize the severity
of what we're going into and it's because we
as humans are naturally very social beings
and loneliness can be incredibly painful.
So I want to create this quick video for all
of you out there who are single right now and still want
to date during the coronavirus pandemic.
Keep watching.
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- Hey there, Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com
where I help you create your love story,
and this video is for both men and women
because I really want to educate as best as possible
what it is you can do to get out there and be able
to find love and be able to keep your dating life alive
during this incredibly tumultuous time we find ourselves in,
and this is the first ever video that I have ever released
for Sexy Confidence that is for both men and women
because I think this topic is so important right now.
So here are five dating tips that I think you can use
during this pandemic.
Number one is practice social distancing.
Now like I said, this would seem pretty obvious based
on the science that is coming out right now
to basically just not go to crowded places.
However, based on what I've been seeing,
people are just not doing this and it's for whatever reason,
whether they are lonely or they just don't get it.
Right now, do not go to any place,
I don't care if it's a bar, club, restaurant that has
over 50 people in it, and really you should be going out
as little as humanly possible.
Tip number two is to use all the technology
we have available to avoid a loneliness pandemic.
We are going into a time right now
that is completely unprecedented, but the good news is
we have a lot of tools that we can use to stay connected
to people, and I don't believe that texting is really enough
because it's inevitable that we're all going to feel lonely
over the next few months, whether or not you live
with someone or you're married
or if you're completely single right now.
So be sure to use all the technology you have available
to you.
Use Skype, use FaceTime, call old friends,
and really put in that energy to stay connected as much
as possible where you can actually see
people's facial expressions and really be able to connect
with them on a more real level than just texting,
and if right now you're talking to someone or you're kind
of like dating someone, just tell them to FaceTime you.
Actually tell them to do that because without a pandemic,
it's not that socially normal to always be FaceTiming people
but I would say that right now it's perfectly normal
to tell people like, look, send me that FaceTime.
I'd love to see your face.
Tip number three is if the person you're dating
or talking to doesn't believe in the severity
of the coronavirus, then do not see that person right now.
The problem with this whole virus right now is
that the people who don't believe in this are the people
who are going around touching doorknobs,
not washing their hands, not using hand sanitizer,
touching their face, and then going around and touching you,
and exposing yourself to that type of person is really
the same thing as having unprotected sex with someone
who doesn't believe in condoms.
That person is definitely not the person you want
to sleep with without the condom.
Just the other day, I was out with one of my buddies
and he happened to run into one of his really old friends.
My buddy goes and gives him a fist bump and then I go
to give him a fist bump to introduce myself
and the guy goes, nah dude, I don't believe in that stuff
and he goes like this.
Now, at the time I really didn't know what to do
and I regrettably actually shook his hand,
and then two seconds later I went to the bathroom
and washed my hands, and that's not
because I'm super paranoid, it's because that dude
doesn't believe in the coronavirus and he's going
around shaking my hand.
So who knows what other (beep) that dude is touching?
Now dating tip number four, and this is gray area,
and this is as of March 16 when I'm shooting this video
if you are both healthy, then it is acceptable
to see someone that you're dating or talking to.
Now, I should say that I'm not a scientist.
I do not work for the CDC, but I've done my research
and it appears that people are not saying
that you can't come in contact with other people,
but that definitely could change over the next couple days.
So if you are dating someone or you're talking
to someone right now, don't go to public places
where there are going to be a lot of other people.
Maybe just go for a walk.
Like Jessica and I have been going for a ton of walks.
It's been amazing.
There are a lot of people outside.
Luckily, the weather here in Boston
has been absolutely incredible.
Try to do things where you can get outside,
can kind of enjoy life again, but not be surrounded
by other people, and finally dating tip number five
which is really a personal recommendation that I would do
if I were single and that is to not go on any new dates
for the next two weeks.
Personally, I think the smartest thing
to do is just practice social distancing.
Don't go out with people that you don't know already
because you have no idea how lackadaisical they are
about this whole coronavirus thing, but still,
you can still connect with people on apps,
you can connect with people on your online dating profiles,
you can still talk to them on the phone.
You can even FaceTime.
Really build those connections so that
when this finally does flatline and start to go down,
you'll have a lot of options of people to go out with,
and personally I'm finding that this is a great time
to just take a step back and work on yourself.
You can really learn new skills when it comes to dating
and socializing, and if you would like to work on this area
of your life, definitely head on over to sexyconfidence.com.
We have a ton of free information there as well as some
of my premium courses that can help you
through every single stage of finding love and keeping love,
and also finally before you go, I'd love to hear from you
in the comments right here below.
How is coronavirus affecting your dating life?
And be sure to share this video with other people,
both men and women, because really, we are all
in this together and I do believe that
if we can all band together and unite and just push
through this really hard time with social distancing,
we can push past this virus and finally go back
to life as we knew it.
Thank you so much for watching
and I'll speak to you very soon, buh-bye.