You are not buying me for this date I can pay for myself I'm
here because I want to be and not because you are promising lunch to me let him just
pay because he want to feel like a man you know let him be the man let him pay
hi my name is Daniela Sasha and I am from Macedonia hi my name is Zeljka
and I am from Serbia hi my name is Linda and I'm from Slovakia my name is Marina
and I'm from Kyiv Ukraine hi my name is Antoinetta and I'm from Bulgaria
In my country, the man is expected to pay for the woman throughout the dating process
no exception in Ukraine traditionally it's expected that the guy's the provider so like a
woman has to be you know fought for they expect guys to you know go out of their way to provide
some like flowers and like pay the bills and stuff but I personally disagree my personal preference
is that we usually like split the bill okay me you have to pay or else I'm walking out I'll
tell my dad no definitely for the first like date or two especially if you're the one that asked me
yeah you have to pay for it I don't care if we go get McDonald's I don't care if we get an ice
cream you're paying for it it's not even the fact that like you're paying for it it's the
fact that you're taking the initiative to be that provider if you can get on a date and be
like hey we're gonna go and do this and do this as opposed to like oh so where do you want to go
definitely the guy should be paying for at least the first like two to three dates until it gets
like a little serious and you guys start talking about finances and whatever else up to three dates
three four dates yeah you guys are paying for three four days I'm old so if we're not getting we're
not having kids and getting married on the first date you need to go because my dad is not happy
In Bulgaria you expect it it shows kind of form of respect for the woman and it shows
that you're a guy that a woman can trust so you kind of it's almost demasculating if you say
oh let me pay the bill so I make the feel guy like I feel feel small yeah and you don't want
to do that so sure I agree with you so in a way it's like that but of course like nowadays it's
more often that you would see like we would split the bills or like if I invite my boyfriend I'll
be like okay let's go to the movies I'm gonna get the tickets that's fine but then he would
get the food maybe so yeah as a woman it feels nice to be taken care of right yeah because it
unleashes your womanly kind of the yeah the feminine side now you want to be like a caregiver
but also I feel like women like in Ukraine start to feel like they are
like you know when a guy pays for everything it feels like a guy kind of like buys you yeah or
they don't have their freedom to decide anything exactly so when you're offering to pay for your
part it kind of means like you are not buying me for this date like I can pay for myself I'm here
because I want to be and not because you are like promising lunch in Slovakia we're speaking of my
country right there's no McDonald's so you're going to real restaurants and it's like fancy
dinner maybe some jazz music in the background and candles and so on right it's not stereotypically
romantic but it's just the standard that we have in our country so that's a nice standard yeah I told
you I love Slovakia I want to move there now I'm I'll give it to old-fashioned on this question
so for me it's not questionable like who should pay like uh and it's not that he's buying you
on the spot when the waiter come and you know you look each other and who has to pay you know like
it's a little bit you know and if he's not saying nothing you know and he's just look at you like
who will first take the wallet then just leave go to the washroom he's like oh so I'm just
gonna go to the washroom yeah I don't know like yeah uh so what is difference than between us you
know like he has I have to feel some like kind of testosterone you know like that he will be
there for me and this is just simple like thing and one more thing I would say that even like
the escorting right like if I get out of the car and he hands me his hand to to help me out right
it's it's maybe like oh no of course I can do it myself like right but it's not that it's like
a very positive aspect societal kind of you know conditioning maybe makes it into something I'm a
feminist but it's not true I think it's actually bullsh*t like he recognizes you as someone that is
very important to him like I don't have pants yeah I'm not him right right so it the treatment is
very different let him just pay because he wanna feel like a man you know yeah let him be the man let's
be the man yeah and actually we should receive presents because we are girls we like flowers
we just like this attention you know don't you think men like attention too
is what you do when you let him do things for you this is how you give him the respect
that he's seen and heatd so don't teach them to pay a bill I side with her in my
country it's okay to date multiple people at once until you decide to be exclusive
um I don't think people do that definitely not the older generation but it's possible
and I've seen it and and it's like undercover yeah it's it's being done yeah in Ukraine
basically if you have like a first date then you're already you know engaged yeah
with someone you firstly complete the date and see if you want to continue with that person and
if you do then like you have to see what works out with that person and not just focus on one person
exactly yes it's not common to be spread out and like consider your options you know it's there's
no such thing I think that was the cultural shock too like coming to Canada from Bulgaria was
like you come here and you go on a date and you think okay we just gotta kind of stick together
now right we're not officially together but I'm interested in him he's interested in me so I put
my attention on that one person but here we are oh no that person went on a date with somebody else
and somebody else and they're like why don't you date other people I'm like why would I and then
I realized it's so different in the like Slavic culture like Balkans it's so different because
we fully commit to one person because we're interested in that person genuinely you want to
spend time with them get to know them right yeah first date is a big deal it is a big deal it's
not just a friend like if somebody sees you with somebody else afterwards not to mention Bulgaria
is so small people talk everybody like literally everybody has eyes everywhere so they'll be oh
so you and that person together but but I saw him with that girl so so it's not gonna work it's just
it's never gonna work see like in in Macedonia I think it's like so frowned upon especially for
women to date multiple men at a time like if you're going on a date with somebody like she
said you're have to weigh out your options is this for you are you going to continue or no it's not
okay for you to go on a date with Marco and then go on a date with Paul tomorrow and then be like
well maybe I like Paul more it speaks bad for you it's bad for me like you know we're going to
talk bad about me that I'm you know loose or I'm whatever I'm not committing you know I'm not committing
I don't care I don't value my family I don't value like being a family I don't value having
a family type of thing so it's not Marco and Paul don't want you anymore yeah a few years back when
I went you know my cousin was dating this guy and I was like she's gonna get over him it's a
summer fling because that's how I'm thinking no two kids later full-blown married everything and
I'm thinking this is a fling because I'm from Canada and that looks to me like a fling
I don't agree with most of them because okay like maybe you wanna monogamy like anything
that he's your boyfriend but like you find out that he's like texting with multiple girls on
Instagram so it's not just like that you have to go outside in the bar to realize that he has
someone else and people talking around you know so oh yeah it's not like it's not happening it's not
accepted woman should always dress and present herself in a feminine manner to attract a man
it's my country's perspective I totally disagree but yeah that's what we're taught that's what my
parents taught me like oh put a little more makeup you want to be pretty you want like
people to like you more because you in makeup and in a pretty dress are more like attractive
and more suitable candidate to potential mating and stuff but I personally step back and disagree
because personality is what matters and like no dresses or but let's be honest guys guys love
first with their eyes always okay guys so if you do want to get somebody you have to like just to
impress do you want to get somebody who just sees you in a dress the first one simply see
me without everything too so I mean you know it doesn't matter but it's just based on my
mood if I feel for it I'm gonna put makeup on if I don't so he has to understand a moody too
it's about the energy too like yes absolutely confidence I think confidence is everything
if you're confident you're gonna be more attractive to people no like of course
it's about personality once you go to the restaurant or you have a date like that he
will know you more and uh but guys are visual uh types they are well I I wouldn't generalize
guys no I would generalize like yeah this is not just simple like you have to have fake boobs or lips
or have to attract someone take care of yourself I think it's more about that
right exactly right yeah you do that for you're just telling me Oh don't listen yes
the thing is like in Ukraine we're taught that all of these guys are very nice but trust me
at the end of the day they want to touch you they don't want to read the essay or wherever with you so yeah
yeah like in Ukraine we're exactly presented with that my grandmother teaches me guys are simple guys are
simple my grandmother teaches me that which I find disturbing I personally think that
our society switched in like a lot of ways and of course but we're talking about the deep you know
cultural the cultural culture sorry we are just here when it was talking about money and we was
talking about now this attraction yeah so we are not going so deep like when he knows you
after 30 years of course yeah that you like you want to know you as a personality or something
you're just now talking about the first visual you know we don't even talk about dating somebody for
like yeah like they just like to see something of course that way and same with paying like it's not
that he has to pay all the time but just like this first moment you know he has to show it's
like what's your job yeah you don't want to go dress with your pajamas yeah it's the same
thing for women in my country having a family and children is more important than having a career
nice
they have to handle both they're super women Slovak women are super women and yours
too just just you know admit it yeah we are but it's because the women decided they want
to be like that it's not because the men pushed them too yeah the women you're so strong step
back because the women from the Western Society brought that in our culture yeah because you're
looking at these American movies you're watching this you're following Hollywood and it's all of a
sudden it's like no women power women empowerment oh I'm gonna be this like strong independent woman
so now because we follow fashion of course whatever the states do Bulgaria does follow
right away yeah right now everybody in Bulgaria is trying to be this like oh I can do it myself
but before obviously in the culture is not like that so we follow Turkish um fashion non-american
there is a split many women are career a wired and many women are family wired but because of
the prejudice they have to handle both I have friends were studying the medicine and they got
pregnant during studies so they managed like one my friend she has four kids and she's a doctor so
why you have to choose to be mothers you don't like how exactly yes but they're overwhelmed
yeah so like we are getting period in order to be mothers yeah but the society doesn't cater to us
as women so that's why they are and I've seen it and a lot of women regret having kids or they're
overwhelmed they're so you know freaking out on their kids their husbands or themselves it is the
Western Society my friends back home they have like three kids two kids they're fine they're
living their best life yeah and they have career going too on the background yeah but here like
you would most of my friends would be like single like most of you girls and it's like oh I'm driven
by my career now I gotta do this I gotta I don't have time to date I don't have time to do this and
the guys are the same thing so it's much harder now to actually find somebody somebody yeah yeah
when I say something just uh to teach these guys you know like no let me just tell you guys no I
didn't have a drink we sleep with guys we are them in relation for five years for 10 years
we cook for them we are visiting their families so what is difference and they never marry us
because they're getting everything already I agree with you completely because a lot of girls I feel
like in this Society in our generation are so in a way desperate to get married they're being
a wife when they should be a girlfriend you know they're fulfilling all those wifely things that
you're should be doing when you have a ring on your finger as opposed to when you don't have
a ring on your finger and you're being a wife to a guy who's telling everybody that you're not his
wife you're his girlfriend so why are you gonna do wife stuff for a man who's not going to make you a
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