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So yada yada yada to sum things up. He totally just left me hanging. Like what am I supposed to do at that point?
I hate it when people don't take my problem seriously
Dude, yeah for sure. You honestly deserve better. Ha ain't that the king
It's nice to know that at least there's someone out there that cares
Yeah, I totally feel you like earlier today. I was in class and this guy just totally whips out his hmm. Yeah, sure. Sure
ha ha ha
I'm sorry, you still there?
Hello. Sorry, I actually have to go right now. Talk later. Bestie. Thanks for the red sash
what I
Toxic relationships can be hard to spot sometimes when you make a friend. You don't see the red flags right off the bat
It's just nice to have someone to spend your time with I'm all for giving people the benefit of the doubt
However, there are some relationships you need to take initiative and leave. I've been in abusive relationships
Before but today I'll focus on my first toxic friend when I was in fourth grade. I made two friends
They were the kindest people out of the whole class. The first girl was more like me
She was shy loved to draw and loved to joke around
The other one was more extroverted
Participated in school councils and photography me and Splenda had never had interest in those things
But somehow we were all part of the same group
I couldn't see the signs back then but my second friend was
toxic as long as Splenda was with me our group was able to have a great time when me and
2nd friend were together it was
Completely different we had to do what she wanted. I had to like whatever she wanted to talk about
I basically had to agree with her word-for-word. I was used to being the second wheel
I'm an empath it's what we do she would try to get me to watch inappropriate videos and actually describe them
I had no idea what she was even saying because I was super innocent
Hey, man, I just want to play on the jungle gym. I'm not quite sure what you're even showing me in sixth grade
We were doing a charity for those less fortunate to get a better education
There were multiple debates about what to name the charity they were going back and forth between pennies for peace and dollars for dreams
I thought both the names needed work and came up with a name dollars for scholars. Second friend was in the class council
So I told her to give them the name, but make sure to credit me
She agreed to the terms, but when it came to giving the name
She took the credit
and that was the last time I told anyone my ideas I
Decided to just move on because it's just a name and we're still friends
It's not a big deal. We stayed friends
throughout middle school
Splenda had to take major time off during that time because she needed hip surgeries that were
Life-threatening if she didn't get them she would have walking problems for the rest of her life
One day second friend comes to me and starts saying things like isn't Splenda stupid. What? Yeah
She's a terrible friend. She hasn't been here in a while
She's legit in a freaking hospital. Yeah, but when she comes back we don't have to be friends with her
I'm sorry
I'm the only friend you need let's just ditch her. Yeah, okay
Splenda never came back to school her recovery would take a really long time
I didn't own a phone back then and the internet wasn't that prevalent
So I had no way of keeping in touch with her and eventually we just kind of lost ties with each other
second friends started to become more and more toxic each day anything I like she would make fun of any belittling comment she made
She would any political ideology I had was invalid basically
My existence was below her at that point
I became her dumping ground for all of her emotional issues
However, when it came to what I was feeling, yeah
So I think I'm sad because I honestly just get over it. Your problems aren't as important as mine
Why don't you just move on? Why don't I just shove my shoe up here?
I got really good at giving robotic responses when she ranted about her issues
I used to ride my bike to school and since second friend's house was on the way home
I would ride my bike next to her until she got home over time. She decided to walk home with cooler friends
She would talk to instead of me. Don't get me wrong
I try to get into the conversation, but they just ignored me. I would get really bored and start trying to pedal away
However, where do you think you're going we won't be friends anymore unless you stay with me. I felt trapped
I could leave the relationship
But then I'd be all alone over time though the thought of that seemed to be more appealing
If you live in California, you can count on a yearly school trip to Disneyland
The eighth grade trip was coming up and I knew that if I went with her
She would have us do whatever she wanted and it would be a miserable time luckily
I was able to meet some cool people in my PE class two weeks before the trip
The day of the trip. I sat next to second friend on the bus. She already had a group of people
She was gonna hang out with so did she even need me? I'm just her dumping ground after once we got off the bus
Where do you think you're going?
With them sad to say I don't remember any of their faces
But for the first time ever I stood up for myself and I had a great Disneyland experience with them for the first time
I felt like I was part of a friend group and even though we moved on to different high schools
Whoever you guys were thank you. Why don't we tell his story this applies to kids and adults alike
No matter what stage of life. You're in at this moment
Listen, even if you make a friend you don't have to state with them. You can leave anytime
Friendship needs to go both ways. This is a give and take situation for both parties
You don't need to say friends. If you feel like the other person keeps taking and giving nothing in return
Sometimes spending time alone is better than spending time with someone that doesn't give you the time of day
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