you may be watching this right now and
you have these incredible ideas and what
you think is missing is motivation some
point everything's gonna go south on you
everything's gonna go south and you're
gonna say this is it this is how I end
now you can either accept that or you
can get to work that's all it is you
just begin you do the math you solve one
problem and you solve the next 400
trillion to one I just want everybody to
hear this this is the reason I'm happy
24/7 365 for the rest of my life four
hundred trillion to one the odds of
becoming a human being if you want to be
a grocer or a general or a politician or
a judge you will invariably become it
that is your punishment they've crunched
the numbers on you being born and do you
realize that the odds the odds of you at
the moment in time he was born to the
parents you were born to with the DNA
structure that you have won and 400
trillion if you never know what you want
to be if you live what some might call
the dynamic life but I will call the
artistic life if each day you are unsure
of who you are and what you know you
will never become anything and that is
your reward if you can keep your head
when all about you are losing theirs and
blaming it on you
if you can trust yourself when all men
doubt you but make allowances for their
doubting too if you can wait and not be
tired by waiting or being lied about
don't deal in lies or being hated don't
give way to hating one and four hundred
trillion all day long you have ideas
that could change your life that could
change the world that could change the
way that you feel and what do you do
with them things we've worked the
hardest for we value the most
so I think you know the purpose of the
goal is not getting it anyway the
purpose of goal you know is what who you
become well you becomes gonna make you
happier it's gonna make you sad so I'm
not looking for an effortless approach
it's too late to be scanned
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not had an encouraging bloody word a
real encouraging word in their entire
life it just takes a little bit of of
encouragement and carer so that they're
willing to accept themselves straight to
some degree and start trying it's just a
catastrophe that that's that's so rare
in their lives that if you're doing
something that you're not totally
committed to if you're doing something
that you're not totally passionate about
you're compromising yourself every day
some people do ultra racist they're
starting to PR during training some
people won't be a lawyer or a medical
student so taking these practice tips
guess what happens once you get to the
active in your mind isn't ready your
minds not prepared you've been studying
you've been training you've been working
out but your minds not prepared
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transforming the walls into doors
changing obstacles into opportunities by
the time that they closed the second
restaurant it was an $800,000 loss I
don't I mean that meant our entire home
equity line gone run it meant kids come
I get just choked up just thinking about
how terrifying it was and so I found
myself at the age of 41 like just
feeling like a complete failure
because the way that our minds are wired
and the fact about human beings is that
we are not designed to do things that
are uncomfortable or scary or difficult
our brains are designed to protect us
from those things because our brains are
trying to keep us alive and in order to
change in order to build a business in
order to be the best parent of a spouse
to do all those things that you know you
want to do with your life with your work
with your dreams you're gonna have to do
things that are difficult uncertain or
scary which sets up this problem for all
of us you're never gonna feel like it
motivations garbage
you only feel motivated to do the things
that are easy right and at some point I
think we all hit that moment in life
where things just are not going how you
thought they would go and and what's
amazing about those moments is we all
respond very differently
I believe desire and will to win is
everything I don't know why I'm like I
am but my butt's always burning there's
always something say aren't dadgummit
you're supposed to go for it
heart dadgummit you're supposed to be
somebody you're supposed to make a
difference with your life what does the
$500,000 your person do the $50,000 your
person doesn't do you look at outside
and study those two individuals
everything seems to be the same they
both are the same sex they both are the
same age have the same train the same
positions the same contract the same
fringe benefits
they both are successful they work hard
they're good family P
we'll make tough commitments but what's
the difference what does the $500,000
your person do the $50,000 your person
doesn't do he pays the price and a
little bit more he works Harding a
little bit more he's loyal to the
cutting a little bit more he believes in
a little bit more he makes Maine a
little bit more he saves money a little
bit more if you want to win in these
United States you got to be tough and
you can't quit I wore one branch manager
down to the point that he says to me
Gardner based on persistence alone we go
give you a shot cause at some point we
all bought into this lie that you got a
feel ready in order to change you know
what you said I couldn't do it but guess
what I started two weeks we bought into
this this complete falsehood that at
some point you're gonna have the courage
at some point you're gonna have the
confidence and it's total [ __ ] maybe
watching this right now and you have
these incredible ideas and what you
think is missing is motivation
failure is part of life the difference
for me though is I'm a failure as a
stepping stone to success it's a speed
bump every time you learn something you
learn because something you did didn't
work and that exposes you to the part of
the world that you don't understand
every time you're exposed to a part of
the world that you don't understand you
have the possibility of rebuilding the
structures that you use to interpret the
world I know I'm gonna fail but it's not
failure if you learn something and so
every time I do it just becomes it
becomes a way for me to explain to
someone else what it takes that's often
why it's more important to notice that
you're wrong than it is to prove that
you're right people don't value what
they don't fight for baby steps count to
as long as you go on forward and one day
you had all those baby steps up in you
might be surprised at what you can get
to people have an unbelievable capacity
to face and overcome things they don't
understand and not only that that's
essentially what gives life its meaning
the Buddhists say life is suffering and
you think well if that's the case why
bother with it well now that we can see
how short life really can be what are
you going to do with the rest of your
life that's a trigger
that's the biggest trigger that I have
ever experienced what are you gonna do
the rest of your cavalry ain't coming
you got to do this yourself ain't no
backup okay
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as our minds are designed to stop you at
all costs from doing anything that might
hurt you and the way that that that that
this all happens is it all starts with
something super subtle that none of us
ever catch and that is with this habit
that all of us have that nobody's
talking about we all have a habit of
hesitating hmm we have an idea you're
sitting in a meeting you have this
incredible idea and instead of just you
know saying it you stop and you hesitate
now what none of us realize is that when
you hesitate just that moment that micro
moment that small hesitation it sends a
stress signal to your brain it wakes
your brain up and your brain all of a
sudden goes oh wait a minute wait wait
why is he hesitating he didn't hesitate
when he put on his killer spiky sneakers
he didn't hesitate with the really cool
track pants he didn't hesitate with the
NASA t-shirt now he's hesitating to talk
something must be up so then your brain
goes to work to protect you it has a
million different ways to protect you
one of them is called the spotlight
effect it's a known phenomenon where
your brain magnifies risk Y to pull you
away from something that it perceives to
be a problem and so you can truly trace
every single problem or complaint in
your life to silence and has
those are decisions and what I do and
what's changed my life is waking up and
realizing that motivations garbage I'm
never gonna feel like doing the things
that are tough for difficult or
uncertain or scary or no so I need to
stop waiting until I you feel like it
and number two I am one decision away
from a totally different marriages my
kids your life comes down to your
decisions if you change your decisions
you will change everything