- Welcome to "Therapist Reacts Raw",
where my producer gives me something about relationships,
or mental health, or trauma that I've never seen before
and I react in the moment without any prep time.
So we've got, "Teens Read Texts From Their Crushes."
Aww, that's adorable.
I hope it stays adorable.
I don't know, I don't have a lot of
faith in humanity these days.
I actually have a ton of faith in humanity.
I don't have faith in humanity found online,
but we'll see what happens.
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- [Interviewer] Something you want to say to her?
- I definitely have liked you for a long time.
- [Interviewer] Is that something that you would be
willing to tell her?
Would you do it right now?
- Sleeps well with others.
(upbeat music) (text bubbles popping)
- We asked teens to read texts from their crushes.
- [Interviewer] Do you have any texts from any crushes?
- Of course.
- Yeah, I do.
- Yes, I do have one lately.
- I do.
- She is a shorter older woman.
- [Interviewer] How much older is she?
- She is 22
and she is the most attractive woman I've seen.
- How old are you?
- She puts a smile on my face
every time I get to talk to her.
My favorite text from her, this is from January 16th.
WTF, why are you so sweet?
Literally the nicest guy I've ever met.
This was the day I would stop by her work
to give her flowers.
So I just said, would it be cool if I dropped it off
at your front door?
And she mentions how, I've been quarantining.
Do you think you can give it to my sister?
I'd love to set it up in my room.
I love them so much.
Thank you Z.J.
This made my whole month.
Definitely felt, like euphoric.
Like dang, I made this girl's whole month.
- Well that's 'cause of quarantine though.
Not a lot's happening.
- Actually when I first moved to California from Chicago.
We've always just been close friends,
and everybody has known us as close friends.
So, it would be kind of weird if we were in a relationship.
And that's kind of like where we're stuck at right now.
I obviously know that he likes me,
but I would not want him to know that I like him
because like it'd just be weird.
He has no...
- Why would that be weird?
I mean, if you're not looking to get into a relationship,
okay, but otherwise if you are,
he likes me, I don't want him to know that I like him
'cause that would be weird?
Go for it!
You only live once!
Kiss his sweet little mouth.
- He has no game whatsoever, so he doesn't...
- Hey, don't knock guys with no game, okay?
Guys with no game
are often stalkers and predators, but sometimes,
they're just really decent and they'll be good to you.
You just gotta get past the hurdle of
they're awkward as hell.
- Game whatsoever.
So, he does not know how to talk to girls.
- You like that, clearly.
- He said, I've seen you on Spotify.
I said, what do you mean?
He goes, top 10 hottest singles.
And I left one open.
(record scratching)
That was like the worst pickup line
I've ever heard in my life,
- You loved it.
- and I just had to not listen.
- No, no.
Here's what's going on.
This guy has a brilliant dad joke future ahead of him.
He's just working on his game right now.
He's just working on his routine.
He's starting with pickup lines.
But they're cheesy, they're terrible puns.
This means he will be a great father, I promise you.
And by I promise you, I'm like 70% sure.
- Not listen to that.
- He has the patience to like listen to me
when I'm having, you know, hard times,
like mental health wise or just like a hard time at home,
like he's always been there for me
and I really appreciate that,
even though I like just met him.
I'm not gonna lie, like,
it gets awkward because sometimes I can feel like,
you know, I don't think he's as into me as I am into him.
He's made it clear
that he doesn't really want anything right now.
And I'm like not here to like push the envelope.
- Yeah.
- I just wanna say you're an amazing dude
- That's smart.
- and I'm glad you're one of my closest friends.
- Aw.
- And he said, thank you Coco.
You're just as amazing.
And then he said,
PS, you keep forgetting your earrings at my house.
I'm pissed.
That was it.
- [Interviewer] Do you think she knows that...
- I wonder if he's gonna be cool
with all that being up on YouTube,
but seems like they have a really sweet relationship.
And oftentimes,
the best relationships are friendships first.
So, always be open to that.
- That was it.
- [Interviewer] Do you think she knows
that you have a crush on her?
- I feel like she should get the message.
You know, me asking to hang out multiple times.
And I don't know if she feels the same way back.
The first time we hang out on campus,
she told me, yeah,
she was like, bring your skateboard so I can ride on it!
So, I let her ride my skateboarder around.
I actually took a video and I sent it to her.
When people, oh can I ride your skateboard?
It's just like a different feeling.
It's like, whoa, like you wanna ride my skateboard?
And it was her, and I was like, oh okay, sure.
You know?
So alright, here's the video, I sent it...
- I have no idea what he's talking about.
I've never owned a skateboard to know
what it feels like to let somebody ride it,
but it sounds pretty dope.
And he's got great fashion sense.
That's my favorite color blue.
So I like this guy.
- Right, here's the video.
I sent it to her.
And then I said, you're a natural LMAO,
with three laughing emojis.
In all cap she said, LMFAO.
And she said, MF, I was struggling.
- Little vulgar, vulgar there.
I like it.
- Yeah, that was it.
- So I actually met him in my drawing class.
He has really pretty eyes, so I instantly was like,
Oh, who's this guy?
We kind of just were like talking.
We kind of connected on my favorite,
one of my favorite anime shows at the time.
I asked for his Instagram when we were walking out
and then we just started chatting.
I asked him, Hey, what you doing today?
And he said, uh, I don't know,
probably hitting up the gym or some.
I said, damn, for real on a Friday?
- Come on bro.
(Jonathan laughing)
I mean, maybe you're just being honest,
but that feels a little Chris Farley in "Tommy Boy" to me.
It just does, like,
hey do you know where the weight room is?
I'll check it out.
But I don't know, I'm just gonna hit the gym.
No big deal.
Just gotta get swole, you know?
Gotta make sure my biceps are as nice as my eyes.
- For real on a Friday?
And he said, yeah, we're about to get lit.
What about you?
And I said, I was gonna see if you were available to hang.
He said, so down!
- Okay, I'm so old.
Dude, you and I have a very different definition
of what lit means.
Even by your definition of it's about to get crazy, like,
there's nothing crazy about going to the gym.
That's like a strong and steady lifestyle choice.
It's nothing nuts, okay.
Unless you're about to do a spin class
with some soccer moms or something,
and it's just you and a bunch of soccer moms
and you're like, wow, I can't believe I'm here.
You know, I don't know.
I don't even know what I'm saying.
I'm starting to talk like, like all these fine youngsters.
- So down!
What you trying to do?
I said, I could pick you up
and we could get some food or sump.
And he said, yeah sure.
It's so dope that you drive.
I'm def a better driver though.
I was like, yeah, yeah sure.
And then we hung out later that day.
I don't know, we just make jokes
and we make fun of each other.
And I just think, I don't know,
it's just like a fun interaction whenever.
- So I'm, I'm just, I was born in 1981, right?
I was born in 1981
and raised to speak with proper grammar, right?
And so the way people talk through texts today,
it's like I need a Rosetta Stone to understand
what people are saying.
That's not on them, that's on me.
You do you, good for you guys.
It's adorable from what I can understand.
- Interaction whenever it's with him.
- He's originally from my area,
but he moved near San Francisco,
I think about a year ago, to go to university.
It turns out we've known each other before,
but like knew of each other,
but we never physically like met before.
Like it's mostly been online.
- [Interviewer] Does he know that you have a crush on him?
- I mean there are times where we flirt with each other
but I think he only, like comes off more friendly in a way.
My favorite text exchange from him is,
he sent me selfies of himself,
and I put, oh my God, you're cute.
And he says, thanks you're so pretty.
I wanna save a bunch of photos of you and in the chats,
so send a bunch.
(calm music)
I'm not gonna show his school, but...
- That could be really sweet or really creepy.
- Just his smile...
- I just wanna save a bunch of pictures of you.
For personal use.
No reason.
- I was talking to this guy for...
- Taylor Swift?
Not Taylor Swift.
And we've just been on and off, you know, hanging out,
talking every day for like three years.
And he went to college last year in September,
and we were still talking,
but he was like setting boundaries or whatever
'cause he's going to college.
So you know, you don't wanna be tied down
when you're going to college, I guess.
Within like a month of going to college,
he got a girlfriend.
I thought I should tell you myself
- Bastard.
that I have a girlfriend.
I wanna set that boundary for the future
given our history together.
- What history?
The history is we've been texting,
and you're still texting.
So what boundary are you setting?
- The last time we talked.
- [Interviewer] Since then, he's no longer dating someone?
- Okay, so he swiped up on my story
and he was like, whoa.
It was about a TikTok that I made, that was like,
took me forever to make.
So I was like, that TikTok took me legit an hour to make.
And he said, I believe you.
And I said, so why are you allowed to text me
all of a sudden?
He said, I was never not allowed to text you.
Sorry for being MIA.
And I said, damn I for real got ghosted,
but I actually did miss talking to you.
What's new in your life?
He said, I know, me too, I'll text you.
And that was the end of that...
- She says that TikTok took me forever to make.
And then she says, it took me an hour.
What is your life like, that an hour is forever?
- But I actually did miss talking to you.
What's new in your life?
He said, I know, me too, I'll text you.
- That's all right, shake it off.
She legit looks like Taylor Swift.
- She had something that said,
like had a boy and a girl driving in a car.
And then I think the dude said,
oh my God, I love Steve Lacey.
And she's like, you too?
And then it cuts to them making out
in the back of the car
and like getting all steamy and stuff.
- They're in the front
- And I said up on her story, saying relatable.
And she said, favorite song?
I said, right now, "In Front Of Me."
- [Interviewer] Do you think you'll ever tell her
how you feel?
- I think I need to.
But every time I talk to her, like I said,
I get like, just like a jolt of energy.
- You better tell her before she sees this YouTube video
'cause she's gonna figure it out.
- I think I really realized it
just 'cause I have hyperhidrosis,
where my palms are really sweaty.
And that has really affected my, you know,
my love life, when you want to like hold hands with a girl.
One day, we were walking to the parking lot
- Straight up, I've been there.
- listening to music like we always do.
She said, give me your hand.
I was like, what?
She was like, I heard you talking about yours earlier,
like gimme your hands.
And then, she gave me my hand
and then like she held my hand
as we were listening to music,
and we're kind of just swaying back and forth
talking to each other.
And she's like,
- Dude, she's into you.
- this isn't bad, right?
And just like, the feeling that I got from that,
and I was like, man, like she really cares about me.
- Yes she does.
Sweaty palms or not.
- Like I was really interested in what she had to say
about her insecurities so I can understand her more.
- She's cool with you being moist, man.
Just keep moving forward.
- [Interviewer] Something you wanna say to her?
- I definitely have liked you for a long time.
- [Interviewer] Is that something
that you would be willing to tell her?
Would you do it right now?
- So I'm gonna tell you right now,
as someone who is older
and you know, did a lot of dating and stuff,
like you don't want tell someone that you care about them
'cause you don't wanna sabotage it.
You don't want it to blow up in your face.
And that's valid if it's really early on.
But if it's been going on for a while,
they know whether or not they're into you.
And if you are holding off on telling them,
like you're just wasting your time.
Come out and say it.
It's scary, but the worst they're gonna say is,
you know, I don't have the same feelings.
And something that I learned is
that feelings just are, right?
They're either there or they're not.
It has nothing to do
with you're not good enough or you're not attractive enough.
When I was single, there was a girl
that my parents and my siblings and my friends,
they all wanted me to date her.
They thought she was perfect.
And I kept going on dates with her
trying to make something happen.
And if I had a list of things I was looking for,
she was all the things, but it just wasn't there.
I just wasn't feeling it.
And it wasn't any fault of hers.
It just, feelings just are or they're not.
We're afraid of someone telling me the feeling's not there
because it's like, oh, well if the feeling's not there,
does that mean I'm not attractive enough?
Does that mean I'm not desirable enough?
Does that mean that I wouldn't make a good partner?
No, it just means that it's just not there.
And we need to not be afraid of that.
Because the sooner you learn that,
you can move on because it's gonna be there
with somebody and you're just wasting time.
If you're some time into this friendship
where you're flirting
and you're wondering what's going on,
like don't be afraid to make the move.
Cause within a month or two of this going on,
most people generally know
whether they're interested or not.
That's my advice.
- That sounds like it would take a lot of balls.
- I said, I think I have a crush on you.
Keep it a little high school reminiscent, you know?
- Yeah
- I told him, hi.
I would love to take you on a date once your back.
Let me know.
Fingers crossed it doesn't come out awkward.
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(upbeat music)
- Oh, he'd love that.
Oh, see!
- I just said, yo, I'm on Jubilee.
You should say hi.
It was a really bad response.
Chillin' like a villain.
(record scratching)
- [Interviewer] Wait, can we have you?
(person laughing)
- He is cheesy.
I like him.
- Right here is good?
Oh man, I can't believe I'm doing this.
- Do it.
- Hopefully she answers.
- [Ariana] Hello?
- How's your morning?
- [Ariana] Fine.
- It's fine?
- [Speaker] It's kinda hot.
- Whoa.
- Yeah, all right.
I'm gonna get to the point.
What's your schedule looking like
in the next weekend or two?
- [Ariana] Weekends?
- Yeah, what's your, like when are you free?
- [Ariana] Honestly, whenever.
- Whenever?
All right, you trying to hang out sometime?
- [Ariana] And do what?
- Just hang out, like we always do.
- [Ariana] Yeah, we can.
- All right, I think it's about time, you know,
we try new things.
Let go of the past and all that.
- [Ariana] That might be a good idea.
- I think that's a good idea.
All right, see you Ariana.
- [Ariana] Okay.
- All right.
- Yeah, way to play it cool, brother.
But she doesn't know that this is anything different.
- I was trying to reel in the love you back.
Oh, that was hard.
Like I think that's the most I've been, like upfront.
- That's really sweet.
- [Interviewer] That was great.
I mean, you were like really confident.
- Was it?
I was faking, boy.
I was faking.
- Yeah, I wouldn't go straight for the jugular
and tell someone how you feel over the phone,
but set up that date.
And make it clear that it's a date.
This whole hangout like we always do.
I don't know.
I mean, that's fine 'cause they'll still be together.
But if she's into you, she'll be excited that it's a date.
And if she's not into you,
then she'll say I'm not feeling it.
And then at least you know.
But this is freaking adorable.
Thanks Jubilee for putting this into my life.
Faith in online humanity restored.
If you enjoyed this one,
check out "Therapist Reacts Raw" to break up texts
because oh man, like this is really sweet.
That one's got some sweetness in it,
but it's also, man, people doing each other dirty.
It's really sad.
How have you told somebody that you have feelings for them?
And did that pay out for you?
Like either because they, they had feelings back
or because at least you knew
or did it blow up in your face?
What does that look like?
Let me know in the comments below.
And so next time folks,
keep shining because we need your light.
And here is the video I was telling you about.
Go ahead and click on it,
and let's get rolling on the next one.