what determines the life you live keep watching hey there this is life
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that you can get these videos on a regular basis defining what self-concept
is is super important to understanding who you are so that you can create the
life that you want to live now for a lot of people they find this very confusing
there's things like self image self concept ego self esteem and the tendency
is is that a lot of it will just lump all of these things together what is
your understanding of self concept do you have a very clear definition and
understanding of self concept if so let me know in the comments below
I'd like to know what your interpretation of it is because sure we
can all look it up and read a definition but most of us don't have a very clear
understanding of what self concept is we're more specifically what your
self-concept is apart from all of those other words that I just threw at you and
I will do a video where I go into what is self esteem because a lot of people
confuse self-concept with self esteem so when I make that video I will link it to
this video so let's dive right into this your self-concept and why is it so
important for you to understand what it is your self-concept is basically the
many many concepts or generalizations or you can call them beliefs in this sense
they're all pretty much the same thing your self-concept is all of the beliefs
you have about yourself and more importantly it's mote these beliefs are
mostly unconscious meaning you don't know that there are your beliefs about
yourself these are beliefs that have been created from the time that you I
want to say right when you were born because I don't think we quite have that
capacity to develop beliefs that early on but what we are doing during that
period is we're collecting experiences you're having experiences and the mind
goes into action the mine is always selecting and collecting basically
grabbing experiences and categorizing them so that you can make sense of the
world and that starts pretty much at Birth your beliefs don't really develop
until you have these very solid categories of experiences so you start
having these experiences your mind starts saying oh I like that experience
I don't like that experience and then right away there's this idea of good and
bad but those categories are very loose until we have a lot of experience to
back up those categories and then what happens is we started making these
beliefs in these generalizations self reflective we start saying okay well my
teacher told me I made a good grade and I just had this good grade and I didn't
really know much about it but now that my teacher tells me that it's a good
grade okay that's a good grade and when I got home my parents told me that this
means I'm smart okay so that's an experience it felt good there was
positive attention and the meaning of it is that I'm smart I'm intelligent and
then I started looking out for these experiences because that felt good I
want more of that attention I want more of that positive attention so I start
sorting for those experiences where I'm intelligent so when that happens I tend
to act that way I tend to act in a way where that of that category and that
belief that I'm intelligent so I try to do more intelligent things and then
maybe sometimes I do something that's stupid and I go kind of stay away from
that experience I don't want any more of that that wasn't very good and it
doesn't fall in line with this other category that I've that have created
about myself that I'm intelligent so I'm intelligent but I know that
sometimes I do make mistakes so I need to watch out for that this is how a
self-concept formulates most people unfortunately have a very HAP has
self-concept or it was created in a very haphazard sort of way I don't think I've
met anyone who has you know just as a default a great highly tuned up highly
optimized self-concept we could all use a little tuning up and
in most cases we need a lot of work I know I needed a lot of work and so when
you get this understanding that how you create a sense of your experiences and
then how do those experiences become generalized into beliefs about yourself
then you go up to this higher generalization you say well this is who
I am this is and we can call that ego but
though a lot of people don't like that word self-concept is a nice sort of
sterile word that we can use it doesn't have any negative or none not even
necessarily positive connotations it's pretty neutral so we have this idea
about ourselves and that idea is a really big idea because like I said it's
really built on many ideas about ourself now when you get into self-esteem the
question is really do I like myself do I like this concept of who I am that's
basically in a nutshell a very basic but very simple explanation of what your
self-concept is it's a bundle of beliefs that you have about yourself that comes
together into one big belief about who you are one concept of who you are now
why is it so important to know it to know this why is it so important to
understand your self-concept because this creates your reality and more
importantly it really do it really dictates what you would do with your
life do you take chances do you go for the things that you want or do you
believe you're not good enough therefore you don't take chances and despite so
much positive feedback of people saying no you are very confident you are very
good at what you do and it doesn't matter if you fail we're still going to
support you we're still going to love you you're still a great person a lot of
us have a very weak and shaky sense of self so
we have the competence but we don't have the confidence to go out there and try
new things and achieve more and and do the things that really stretch us or do
the things that we really enjoy in life we tend to stick with what with what
we're used to what's familiar what's comfortable and with what is safe
because we don't want to risk and and we don't want to risk hurting or damaging
an already shaky sense of self now the opposite to this is to have a very
strong solid sense of self myself that we know that no matter what happens no
matter how many times unfill no matter how many times I fell I'm still a
worthwhile human being and I still have a very strong sense of self a self a
sense of self that can't be shaken by someone else's words a sense of self
that can't be shaken by situations where things don't work out to my advantage
and I don't I'm not gonna beat myself up about that because I know it's you know
some things are just really not about me and what it is about me I just make the
correction it's not a big deal a strong sense of self is a sense of self that
doesn't have that inner monologue that is constantly criticizing you because
you've resolved whatever that is and you've put that into a healthy you've
integrated that critical voice into a healthy way of watching out for that
feedback that tells you when you're going off-track when you're not living
your life according to your values when you're not living your not your
self-concept is not aligning to who you want to be in the life that you want to
live so in understanding your self-concept and defining what your
self-concept is you can then decide on what would you like it to be who would
you like to be a lot of us focus on what it is we want to have and that's fine
there's nothing wrong with that but it really depends on who you are who you
are is going to dictate what you have and most importantly it dictates the
life you're going to have the life you're going to live so if you can get
clear about what your self-concept is then you
can get clear about what you want it to be and then when you know what you want
how what you want your self-concept to be like meaning who you want to be like
that's when you can truly create the life that you want to live a fulfilling
satisfying life that aligns with your values and that's the importance of
understanding all of this so now that you know a bit more about how we create
our self-concept and really what is the self-concept and you now know why it's
so important because it helps you create the life you want to live by becoming
the person you want to be but what you don't know are the elements of a healthy
self concept which is why I created this PDF checklist that you can download
immediately get immediate access to it now all you have to do is go to the link
right down here in the description or the I'll put the link also in the
comments I'll pin it to the top so what you do is click on that link you get
immediate access to a checklist that gives you the elements of a healthy self
concept which is super important if you want to live that amazing life that you
know is possible that you know you have the potential to live so what are you
gonna do now now that you have a better understanding of this what are you going
to do now what's your first step in creating the life that you want to live
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