Hey there, YouTube!
You guys asked for it, and I delivered… in this video, I’m going to talk about 4
text messages you can send to your spouse right now that will re-spark some of the passion
and romance that’s been missing for so long.
Yes, rekindling some of the desire and attraction CAN be that easy if you know what you’re
doing…
It’s Brad Browning here, by the way.
I’m a marriage coach and best-selling author.
Now, before I get started with this video, I first have to tell you how to NOT text your
husband or wife.
These are text messages that don’t build attraction, romance, or passion.
And in some cases, these common text messages can actually make your spouse feel less attracted
to you.
So let’s jump into some examples of what NOT to text your spouse before we get into
what TO text your spouse.
Bad Text #1 – The Demanding Text Message
It’s obviously okay to ask your spouse to do something for you.
After all, you and your spouse are married and you are a team.
However, if you start demanding too much of your spouse, you could turn yourself into
what I like to call a “Texting Terrorist”.
If you want to improve your texting relationship with your spouse, then you’re going to have
give him or her enough space and not constantly send a barrage of texts.
It’s extremely attractive to be highly independent in a relationship, so instead of constantly
asking your spouse to be your servant, try and take responsibility for things…
even the little ones.
Bad Text #2 – The Overcritical Text Message
Texts like, “You’re always late…
You don’t show me enough affection…
You’re always watching TV,” are texts that are just asking for disaster.
You always want to improve your spouse and support them, but sometimes we can show the
support the wrong way.
When you criticize or belittle your spouse, you aren’t encouraging them to be better.
Studies have shown that telling someone how little value they have will force the person
to actually believe that they’re worthless.
Here’s a quick tip if you’re guilty of sending the “Overcritical Text Message”.
If you want your spouse to improve on some aspect of their life, try using the word “I”
instead of “you”.
For example, instead of saying, “You’re so messy and you’re the reason why our place
is always messy,” say something along the lines of, “I’d like it if this room wasn’t
so messy, hun.”
Small changes in the way you communicate with your spouse can make a massive difference
in your relationship, so keep this in mind the next time you feel like criticizing your
partner.
Bad Text #3 - The Argumentative Text
Another way you can turn yourself into what I call a “Texting Terrorist” is by constantly
picking fights with your spouse through text message.
Sometimes arguing through text can be easier than arguing in real life, but I would highly
recommend against it.
Why?
Because while texting allows you time to come up with appropriate rebuttals, what you say
can often times be misinterpreted, which could lead to an even bigger argument.
You also don’t have the luxury of showing calming body language, which helps you keep
arguments from getting out of hand.
So the next time you have an urge to bring up a sticky issue through text, don’t.
Wait until you’re in the appropriate environment to have a serious discussion.
Of course, this is only a handful of what I call “Attraction Destroying Text Messages.”
If you want to learn more about these marriage murdering mistakes, then head over to my website,
www.MarriageGuy.com and watch the free video presentation on that website.
Again, the URL is www.MarriageGuy.com.
And by the way, if you can think of any other kinds of text messages you should NOT text
your husband or wife, please use the comments section below and let me know.
You never know, I might mention your example in my next YouTube video!
Now onto text messages you should send your spouse.
These are text messages that are designed to spice things up and make things interesting
again between you and your spouse… but I have to warn you that these text messages
aren’t for all situations.
If you and your spouse are on the rocks or are currently not on speaking terms, then
you probably shouldn’t be sending these text messages right now.
But if used correctly, these text messages can work wonders on your marriage.
Here are 4 text messages that you can use to spice things up…
1.)
Text Number 1 – The Imagine Text
Texting is a great way to force the person you’re texting to use their imagination.
You can make your spouse feel a myriad of emotions just be sending a few short text
messages… and the “Imagine Text” is perfect for this.
Let me jump right into an example…
you can say something like…
“I can’t wait to see you.
Can you imagine how amazing it will feel once I wrap my arms around you tonight?”
Now, it sounds really cheesy and awful when I say it in this video, but trust me when
I say that it won’t sound cheesy to your spouse.
Of course you can tailor this text message to any sort of situation…
so feel free to use your imagination with The Imagine Text!
2.)
Text Number 2 – The Gratitude Text
It’s so easy to take your husband or wife for granted.
If you’ve been married for a long time, you can lose sight of why you married your
husband or wife to begin with.
The Gratitude Text is designed to make sure your spouse knows that you appreciate him
or her in a way that nobody else in the world can.
Let’s jump right into another example.
You can say something like…
“I may not say this as much as I should, but I need to tell you how much I appreciate
you being there for me whenever I need you.
It’s one of the reasons why I married you.”
Once again, you can tailor this text message to your situation.
Try and really think of something you honestly do appreciate about your spouse…and then
say it.
3.)
Text Number 3 – The Deep Memory Text
This is a text message that is designed to force your ex to think about an extremely
memorable time in the past…and relive it.
Forcing your ex to focus on these nostalgic memories will cause them to feel not only
more attracted to you, but will encourage them to continue making great memories with
you.
Let’s jump into an example:
“Do you remember when we were in Paris, and we went on that cruise along the Seine?
I always remembered how amazing you looked in that blue dress!”
And obviously, you need to tailor this text message to your current situation.
But this is one of my most favorite kinds of texts because it’s so much fun to talk
about fond memories with your spouse.
4.)
Text Number 4 – The Private Text
This is one is really fun.
The goal of these kinds of text messages is to have a private conversation with your spouse
while you’re at a party or social gathering.
Do you remember how fun it was to send your friends notes in high school?
Think of it like that… but with your spouse!
Let’s jump right into an example…
Say you’re at a party and you and your spouse are both having separate conversations with
other people… you could say something like…
“That guy/girl is totally hitting on you and I don’t blame him/her.”
Or here’s another one…
“I wish we were alone right now.
=)”
Tiny text messages like this can do wonders… and they can make your marriage feel much
more alive.
I would definitely recommend sending these text messages when it looks like you’re
spouse isn’t having much fun at the party…
this can really cheer your spouse up.
Anyways, these text messages are just scratching the surface.
If your marriage is on the rocks and you need help reviving it, then head over to my website,
MarriageGuy.com and watch the free video presentation on that website.
In that video, I tell you the 3 psychological strategies that you can employ right now to
make sure your spouse will forever see you as their one and only.
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