like i did nothing about it
that was the time where i was just
really naive and i didn't know what to
do and i was just in shock and i was
scared
hey guys welcome back to my channel this
is a long time coming this video
i get a lot of messages about being a
woman
in japan and how safe it is
to walk alone go places by yourself
get on the trains and all of that stuff
i've gotten a lot of
comments from people who have not lived
in japan
and are saying things like isn't it like
the safest country in the world
i don't know how to explain it but
there's not a lot of pda
there's not a lot of people who are
making out or
doing anything very sexual in public
it's just very
discreet when it comes to that but then
you'll go to a convenience store and
you'll see porn laid out everywhere or
you'll walk down the street and there's
love hotels and sex shops it's just kind
of like
there's two different sides to japan in
my opinion
the lack of affection between
couples has given japan
this issue with groping
and stalking and all that stuff and i
feel like because of the work culture
and there's not a lot of spending time
with
loved ones because of that i feel like
there's a lack of
a sex life with men and
women in japan there's a lot of cafes
for men to go to talk to women
and to flirt with women and it's just a
really
odd slightly dark side of japan that
people don't really
discuss or talk about i feel like
sometimes
even nowadays japan is so behind on this
but women don't really have a voice
as much as they do in the states for
example or in western countries i think
that's a big
problem still in japan and because of
that
women tend to not go to police
when they've been touched they tend to
not do anything about it
when it does happen i think that needs
to really change
because if it doesn't it's just gonna
keep happening
it just infuriates me sometimes because
a lot of people that
haven't lived here or have only traveled
for a short time don't realize
that this does happen maybe it doesn't
happen to everybody
but as a foreigner i'm just telling you
that these do
these things do happen to foreigners
it's not just japanese people i've been
approached i've been touched i've been
groped it's reality i'm gonna just put
it out there i'm not afraid to say it
it has happened getting on a packed
train
is like ptsd central for me it's scary
it's given me this trigger in my head
when
i'm near or close to somebody that i
don't know on a train i've had old men
or
just men in general just stare and they
don't look away
and it's very uncomfortable i've had men
stare at me and say under their breath
oh she's so cute oh she's so beautiful
you would think like oh that's so
flattering you should be happy about
those compliments but it's not
it's creepy it's weird i don't know that
person and the fact that that person is
saying those things out loud
where i can hear them is very creepy and
i don't like it and i don't think that
it
should be a thing it's very rude and
very triggering in my mind i can vouch
for other girls who have
had similar experiences even when
they're with guys
these things happen with their
boyfriends it's really insane like it's
really insane
this honestly has to be addressed
there's a lot of videos on youtube about
is japan safe my experiences blah blah
blah i have gotten messages there was
one girl who messaged me and said i just
got hired
at a school i'm not sure if i'm gonna go
through at the job because
i have to close the school at 10 p.m by
myself
and go home alone in the dark by myself
and lock up by myself
and she asked is this normal and
will i be okay my answer was like
i i don't know i don't i wouldn't do it
personally i would
never be the last one out the door
at night japan i'm gonna say yes japan
is a very safe country compared to
the states or you know anywhere else
that i've ever been i feel
very comfortable i even walk home at
night in the dark by myself but i walk
you know on well-lit paths and i'm well
aware of my surroundings and i walk
where there's people
you're gonna have situations where you
do have to walk by yourself at night or
going home in the dark
that's completely normal everybody does
it if you're walking around at like 3
a.m in the morning by yourself then
that's a little
more dangerous but just because you're
in japan doesn't mean
that you can't be harmed you need to
protect yourself you're in a foreign
country you're a woman i honestly want
to give you some tips and
share my experiences living here as a
woman when it first happened to me
i was very naive and i was
terrified and i didn't know what to do
and now i do i have been on dates with
japanese guys where has gotten to the
point where it has become obsessive
and it scary it's very scary there's a
lot of men here who
really genuinely look for foreign women
to go on dates with
or genuinely look for women
who are foreign that could be their
girlfriend as kind of like
arm candy i guess you could say i'm not
saying that
everybody is dangerous and you shouldn't
go out i'm not saying all japanese men
are like this
my boyfriend is japanese i'm just simply
warning you
about the things that do go on and just
to
be on your guard and be smart so where
do i begin the first experience that
i've had
was in a district in shinjuku when i was
21 i think i came here for an internship
this actually wasn't my very very first
experience my first experience was in
high school when there was a man that
was following me and my
host sister around universal studios and
he was taking pictures of me and she was
trying to hide me and i didn't
understand why
there's a whole culture of men here that
have hidden cameras
which you also have to be careful and
they have them in such a way where they
can look up your skirt
so if you're wearing skirts be careful
going on escalators or things like that
because there are men who do
do that and it's very sick there are men
that sit on the train that i've noticed
that put up their phone like this
and they try to take pictures now on
japanese phones
if you take a picture you can hear a
click so watch
so you can hear that sound and they made
it that way
where you can't turn it off because it
has become such a problem in japan
that they needed to do that we were in a
sort of red light district when i was 21
and we stayed at a really
sketchy hotel it was kind of
it was an onsen it was a hot spring my
friend took me here with another friend
so
i i was just following her and i assumed
she knew what she was doing but
she's like at one point this is the
worst street in shinjuku and i was like
why are we here it was super early in
the morning i think it was like
5am or something i think we were we were
going to another hotel
and we were going to disney on that day
we were walking down the street i was
lagging behind my friends were way up
ahead of me
and these two men were walking down the
streets and they grabbed me and they
said let's go let's go and i said
no and i the adrenaline in my body
just i pushed this guy
and i ran and i ran after my friends
because i was terrified and
then they started running and like the
most scariest thing in my
life when i was in nagoya i was living
with my ex-boyfriend
and i wanted to get out of the house so
i took the time to go out
shopping by myself and i went to
the mall and by myself i was going home
and i got on the train it was
super empty there's nobody there it's
about 6 p.m i sat
down on the very end of the train seats
so there was nobody sitting next to me
and there was a woman that was sitting
across from me and she was like the only
other person on the train when the train
stopped a man got on the train
and he was an older man like in his 40s
or 50s
and he sat next to me like directly next
to me
like he sat he sat there i was like okay
there's like tons of seats why
but in my head i knew what was
what was going on and i was in so much
shock that i didn't move
and i didn't want to get up i just i
don't know what happened
my body just shut down and he put his
arm
his arms like this like he was kind of
like leaning back
like this he kept looking at me out of
the corner of his eye
and then in a second he took his hand
and he grabbed my breast and
i freaked out i did nothing
about it that was the time where i was
just really naive and i didn't know what
to do and i was just in shock and i was
scared
and i remember i got up
and i took my backpack and i hit him in
the face really hard
i think that was like just a reflex of
mine after that moment and after i
got up i just got off at that next stop
it wasn't even my stop i just got off
that stop because i was terrified
having that happen to you and then you
have to carry that
through the rest of your experience of
living in japan is just the worst thing
ever
so ever since then it kind of caused a
little bit of a trigger in my head when
i get on trains
that this could happen again now i just
know
i just know when someone is trying to
get next to me there was a time where i
got drunk
after a work party and i went home by
myself
it was 11 p.m and it was a packed train
i had a skirt on
and some guy lifted up my skirt and
touched me and
i was drunk so i didn't have
fast enough a fast enough reaction
eventually it did move
but i did i knew it was happening but i
was
just i wasn't i wasn't coherent enough
to
do anything about it there was one time
i was staying with a friend until i
moved into my new apartment when i first
moved to nagoya
and this was terrifying because i was
going to work
every day on the same train same station
some guy literally jumped out of the
bushes
like he was in the bushes it was like
from a movie or like an
anime or something he just jumped out of
the bushes handed me a piece of paper
and he's like
you're so beautiful i've been watching
you please
call me in japanese and i was like and i
understood what he said and but i
couldn't process it i was like
what what at first i thought i'd drop
something and he was giving it back
but it wasn't it was a phone number and
he was like please call me and he like
bowed his head
and i was like no and i all i said was
no
and then i bolted to my friend's
apartment and i was
terrified because some guy was watching
me
go to work sounds really insane this
story but it happened
and it's the creepiest thing
ever do not go with a stranger
who offers to take you somewhere don't
do it like
remember everything that your mother has
taught you about strangers
okay i've been approached by a man who
kept saying
oh i work in the modeling industry
you're very beautiful and he showed me
pictures of models on his phone
and i said do you have a business card
some women come here
and they want to be models and they
they'll be approached or scouted
i asked him for his business card and he
said nope
and then he walked away he like ran away
he's like oh crap i'm found out
be smart as a woman in japan so things
that you can do
to be a little more safe in japan when i
get on trains i usually try to find
women that are standing in line together
mostly women because i feel more
comfortable especially on days where the
train is packed i try to stand next to
women
there are women only cars but they're
very congested and very difficult
to get on to there's so many women that
try to get on that
car it's pretty sad actually but i try
to stand next to women if there's a rush
hour
as a youtuber i'm always filming myself
so having a camera does help
it kind of keeps people away if
somebody's following me and i whip out a
camera then they will probably leave
when you're walking by yourself even at
night and you have nobody to talk to
you're nervous pick up the phone pretend
like you're talking to somebody
sometimes i do that when i feel like you
know i don't feel safe
another tip pay attention do not wear
headphones at night and walk by yourself
you have to be aware of your
surroundings you have to look around
can't just be oblivious to everything
that's happening around you
a lot of people do walk or bike home so
there's a lot of people that are outside
so
it's not really too scary when you're
going home from work
i'm never really afraid of going
home by myself at night because
everybody is going home from work at
this point if you do feel unsafe go into
a convenience store
or go into a cafe or something do not
get super wasted and go home by yourself
like i did because
that's like a disaster waiting to happen
i mean i still go home
tipsy and i do go out to karaoke with my
friends and go home
don't go home super super late last
train drunk
it is dangerous i try to either stay out
all night with your friends
and go home in the morning or get a
hotel know where the police boxes are
know where to go if you need help and if
you can
take that path home at night if you're
walking by yourself
know what to do if you feel
uncomfortable know where to go that's
the most important thing it's like that
anywhere in the world
so don't think japan is any different
than any other country
i did buy mace when i was in goya they
did sell it
and i think it's illegal it seems to be
legal it's being sold in
shops so i'm assuming you can still get
it they do
have these fake cameras that you can get
on
amazon.com and if you do feel completely
safe
living by yourself or you're just
nervous you can buy these fake cameras
and set them up
outside your apartment to make it look
like there's a security system
if you're getting an apartment try to
find an apartment that has like a
a sort of lock like you need to type in
a code to get into the apartment try to
find
places that are safe that have security
systems already
that's just some tips for you women who
are moving to japan
and are nervous about it don't be afraid
of japan
these things can happen anywhere it's
just it's inevitable you just have to be
aware and you have to be careful and
just do your best to keep yourself safe
and that's the most important thing if
you have any questions please comment
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