Hi, everyone. I'm Emma McAdam. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, and I make
mental-health education videos. If you were to ask someone, "What's causing your insomnia?"
they might say something like, "Oh, my stress, my anxiety, my brain won't shut off." Maybe
they think it's their cat waking them up or they drank too much coffee or watched a scary movie
before bed. And granted, all of these things can mess with your sleep for a night or two
or or more, but they aren't the thing that causes chronic insomnia. So in most cases,
chronic insomnia is caused by one bad habit where you accidentally trained your brain not to sleep.
The bad habit is staying in bed awake. This is the worst thing you can do for your insomnia,
and it's key to one of the most effective treatments for insomnia, CBTI, an evidence-based
treatment for insomnia that has shown up to 80% effectiveness at relieving insomnia. You see,
when you lie in bed awake - maybe you went to bed too early or you're trying to force yourself to
sleep - and you're worrying about all the things you know what you said that day and what's going
to happen with your job and whether that one guy likes you or any of any number of other things,
you're basically training your brain that the bed is the place for worrying and lying there awake.
This is a paired association. It's like Pavlov's dogs - they learned to salivate when the bell
rang, even when there wasn't any food around. When you lay in bed awake, your brain learns
that the bed is the place for worrying, for thinking, for watching shows, for doing homework,
whatever it is that you're doing. You lay down in bed, and and your brain thinks, "Oh, I know this
place. This is the thinking place." So without realizing it you trigger that worry reaction, and
then it takes hours to fall asleep. So one aspect of the most effective treatment for insomnia is
if you can't sleep, get out of bed. If you can't sleep and it's ben more than 15 minutes, get out
of bed. Do something that's not too stimulating, and then when you start to feel drowsy,
go lay back down. Now, I know this sounds miserable. You're probably thinking, "Oh,
I'm just gonna be so tired, and this will just make it worse." And yes, that's true. You may be
more tired in the short term. But within a week or so it's most likely going to improve your
sleep efficiency. So that's the percentage of time that you spend in bed actually sleeping. So just
remember this, right? Get up, hang out, try again. Right? Get up, go sit quietly in another room,
hang out, do nothing or, you know, read a soothing book. If you lay there for more than 15 minutes,
get back up, hang out, and then try again when you feel sleepy. Now, while this feels miserable,
it works really well. You may feel sleep-deprived for a couple of days, but in the long run it's
very effective at treating insomnia. Getting out of bed does two things, right? It retrains your
brain that the bed is for sleeping and not other stuff, and then it also builds up like this sleep
pressure basically, that tired feeling, so that when you do lay down you've got more internal
drive to sleep and you fall asleep faster. And again, that retrains your brain that the bed is
for sleeping. So as you retrain your brain, you'll fall asleep faster, you'll stay asleep longer,
and you'll spend less time lying awake getting angry that you're not sleeping. And again, this is
a core principle of CBTI: it literally rewires the brain to sleep better. They have imaging studies
showing that after CBTI, people have improved cognitive functioning, decreased stress, and
improved memory. And most importantly, you sleep better. Okay. Thanks for watching, and take care.