Hello ladies and gentlemen, I am Brad Browning AKA Breakup Brad…
as I’m sure you already know, I am YouTube’s #1 breakup coach from beautiful Vancouver Canada.
This video is specifically for anyone out there who wants to get back together with an
ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend who is currently in a “rebound relationship”. In other words,
your ex has started dating someone new… and you want to steal them back.
If you’re in this kind of situation, you might be feeling hopeless right now,
and I totally understand that. But in many cases, there’s actually reason to be optimistic.
A lot of the time, just because your ex is already dating someone new
doesn’t mean your chances of getting him or her back are gone forever.
In fact, believe it or not, this new person could actually help you get back together
with your ex. Watch this video to the end, and I’ll explain exactly how to make that happen.
First, let’s talk briefly about “rebound relationships”. Often, people who have
recently been through a breakup will try to jump into a new romance as quickly as possible. This,
of course, is what’s called a “rebound”. A rebound is typically a relationship that begins
out of convenience… its an easy way to push the post-breakup heartache aside and distract them
from the reality of the situation. Someone new to keep their mind off you and your breakup.
Is Your Ex In A Rebound Relationship, Or Something More Serious?
Now, how do you know if it’s a “rebound” or a real, long-term relationship? Well, basically,
rebounds are short-term flings. A rebound relationship will typically
be something that happens fairly quickly after a breakup… usually within 30-60 days or less.
If your ex starts dating someone new several months after you broke up…
for example, if you broke up on Jan 1st, and your ex begins dating someone on March 15th…
that’s probably NOT a rebound. But if they’re already with someone a couple of weeks after
your breakup, that’s far more likely to be a traditional “rebound” type of relationship.
Now, like I said, a rebound relationship serves a specific purpose: it helps keep your ex’s mind
off the breakup, and gives them someone new and exciting to hang out with and occupy their time.
If you jump straight from one relationship into another -- which is basically what happens with
rebound relationships -- you don’t have time to really dwell on the heartache and loneliness
that would normally accompany a difficult breakup. If you’ve ever been in a “rebound” yourself, you
know that this can actually be quite an effective way to numb the pain of a breakup… temporarily.
But, here’s the thing: most rebound relationships simply die off once they’ve “served their
purpose”. And that’s actually great news if you’re hoping to win back your ex… because, well, think
about it: how often do people find a compatible boyfriend or girlfriend in a matter of just a
few days? If it were that easy to just end one relationship and find someone new, there wouldn’t
be many single people out there. But as you know, it’s NOT that easy to find the right person… it
can take months or years before you land a date with someone you’re truly compatible with. Most of
us have to date numerous different people over the course of years before we find “the one”, right?
That means that your ex’s new “rebound” probably isn’t going to be a good fit in the long term.
Odds are good that your ex and this new person won’t be compatible, and won’t be
able to make it work for more than a few weeks. Most rebound relationships last around 3-5 weeks,
and the few that survive longer typically tend to slowly die away after a month or two.
Now, that doesn’t mean they may not have some physical chemistry,
but it’s highly unlikely they’re going to fall in love and live happily ever after.
On the contrary, in fact… they’ll probably be done with one another in no time.
So, you know that the chances of your ex staying with this new person are very low. Now let
me explain why this presents you with a great opportunity to step in and take your ex back…
How To Use Your Ex’s Rebound To Help You Win Them Back…
Remember what I said earlier: rebound relationships are great for
temporarily avoiding the heartache and sadness that come with any breakup. Instead of thinking
about how much they miss you, your ex has been focusing on this new “rebound” they’re dating.
But this DOESN’T mean your ex is never going to feel the pain and emotions that you’re going
through right now… all their rebound relationship has done is POSTPONE the onset of those emotions.
So, when this rebound does end up falling apart, your ex is going to find themselves
single again. And this time, they’re going to have to face the post-breakup heartbreak and
loneliness. They’re no longer going to have someone around to occupy their mind
and keep them from missing you. All of the painful emotions are going to really set in,
and they’ll be feeling depressed and lonely. They dumped you… their rebound is over… your ex is now
going to really hit rock bottom emotionally, and they’re going to miss you like crazy.
And on top of all that, they’ve now just seen first-hand how difficult it is to find the right
person… after all, they’ve just been through a superficial and meaningless relationship
with someone new, and it didn’t last. So, your ex is probably starting to have doubts
about whether they actually made a mistake breaking up with you in the first place.
Because your ex is having these second thoughts and doubting their decision to
end the relationship with you, you’re in a perfect position to present yourself as the best option.
Your goal at this point should be to slowly shift your ex’s perception of
you — the mental image they have of you in the back of his or her
mind — into something positive and desirable. You want them to forget
about the reasons they decided to break up in the first place, and reinforce positive memories.
How To Make Your Ex Wish They’d Never Left You...
So, as you know, at this point you have a great opportunity
to show your ex what they’re missing, and help them start to regret breaking up with you.
But a lot of people screw this part up by moving too quickly or showing too much interest,
so here’s a few tips to change your ex’s mind about breaking up and make them want you back:
TIP #1 - Play it cool.
I can’t stress this enough. No matter how excited you may be to hear that your ex’s rebound is over,
or how thrilled you might feel when you receive a text from your ex out of the blue…
you MUST play it cool and avoid trying to move too fast or show too much interest.
If you haven’t finished a period of No Contact yet… in other words,
your ex’s rebound has ended but you’re still within the 30 days of No Contact…
stick to it! It’s critical you set the stage and “re-set” your ex’s feelings about you
by employing the full No Contact period. The fact that you haven’t reached out to your ex
at all for several weeks is, by itself, an incredibly powerful message to send to your ex…
and nothing you can do or say is going to replace the power of a proper No Contact phase.
If you’ve already finished a period of No Contact, you still want to take it slow. Don’t send your
ex a text message immediately upon learning that they’ve broken up with their rebound…
wait at least 48 hours before reaching out at all, and when you do contact them, make sure
you have a real, legitimate-sounding reason to be messaging them. Keep it fun and upbeat…
share an inside joke or update them on something in your life that will be meaningful to them.
That’s it. Start slow and build from there.
TIP #2 - Pretend you’re moving on.
As you’ve probably heard me say in my past videos and in my Ex Factor program,
it’s critical that you start moving on with life immediately after the breakup. You should already
have been keeping busy with friends and family, picking up new hobbies or finding new projects
to tackle… and, ideally, even going out on a few dates with new people. All of this stuff
may sound like meaningless “self-improvement” nonsense that’s unrelated to your breakup, but
it’s actually CRITICAL to the way your ex thinks about you and your value as a long-term partner.
By living your best life and really thriving in the weeks after the breakup, you make yourself
much more desirable to the opposite sex… and you show to your ex that you’re going to kick ass in
life and move on to bigger and better things, whether your ex is part of that future or not.
In essence, you want your ex to know that you haven’t been sitting around since the breakup
waiting for them to call or text you. Instead, make it clear you’re thriving and starting
to move on without them… unless, of course, they decide to ask you for a second chance.
TIP #3 - Flirt & create sexual tension. Once you’ve slowly started opening the
lines of communication with your ex after their rebound ends -- say, over the course of a couple
of weeks -- you need to start planting the seeds of sexual intimacy in the back of their mind.
You want to make sure they see you as more than just a friend of the opposite sex…
you want them to want you, basically.
Obviously that’s not as easy as it sounds, but it’s absolutely doable by flirting and dropping
some well-timed sexual innuendos during your conversations. First, maybe you just exchange some
text messages and make your ex laugh… update them on all the interesting stuff that’s been going on
in your life recently… and then you can start to drop an innuendo or sexual reference now and then.
When you eventually end up seeing your ex in person, you can crank up the temperature
even further by flirting, touching them, teasing them, and so on. Be sure to look your best, and
focus on showing your ex a good time, while slowly ramping up your flirting to build sexual tension.
TIP #4 - Get my help to maximize your chances.
Look, I know your situation probably isn’t exactly like the one I’ve been describing in
this video so far. Maybe your breakup or your ex’s rebound were a bit different or unique,
and you don’t know exactly how to adapt my advice to your specific scenario. Or maybe you just feel
overwhelmed by the whole process, and need some 1-on-1 help to keep you on the right track.
Please visit BreakupBrad.com/Coaching to learn about my ongoing coaching program and sign up
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immediately after signing up, and start corresponding with me regularly as the situation
unfolds. I’ll help you build a plan to maximize your odds of success, and ensure that you don’t
make any costly mistakes. Again, see the details and sign up now at BreakupBrad.com/Coaching.
Alright, if you’ve made it this far,
congratulations! And thanks for watching all the way to the end,
I hope you learned a few things and leave feeling a bit more optimistic about your situation.
Don’t forget to leave your questions and spam in the comments section below,
and thanks as always for liking and subscribing. See you in my next video!