Being ignored by a man you care about is one of the most painful and frustrating
situations you can experience.
Unfortunately, it's also very common.
That's why in this video, I'm going to explain exactly what he's thinking when he
is ignoring you.
And I'll give you two new, powerful texts that you can copy and use right now to turn
things around and make him regret it immediately.
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If you've ever been ignored by someone you're in a relationship with, you know, how
frustrating and painful it can.
it's very much like experiencing physical pain, but without any visible bruising,
it's true being ignored, activates the anterior simulate cortex, the part of the
brain that detects and makes you feel physical pain.
So when you're being ignored,
you feel physical symptoms such as headaches and stomach pains and anxiety and fatigue.
And in addition to physical and emotional pain being ignored,
triggers, anxiety, and even the fight or flight response
so why would a man do that to you?
And what is he thinking?
Well, there are three possible reasons.
first.
He might just not be that into you.
This can be a difficult truth to accept.
We often choose to believe that someone is just busy or naturally bad at texting, and
that's why they're ignoring us.
But when a man cares about you and wants you, it's usually very obvious because he
makes it known beyond a shadow of a doubt .
He pursues you, he's constantly texting you and calling you and wanting to see you
ignoring you is the last thing he would ever do because he would be afraid of disappointing
you or losing you.
So if he's ignoring you, maybe he really isn't that concerned about your feelings or
he's just not that into you.
The second reason for ignoring you, Maybe he's trying to break up with you.. oftentimes
someone you're dating
becomes distant because they're afraid of the confrontation.
And they're afraid of having a difficult conversation with you.
They would rather fade out of a relationship than end it properly.
So if you feel him pulling away and making excuses not to see you, then he may be using
ignoring you as a breakup method.
He's hoping that you'll eventually get fed up of being ignored and end the relationship
yourself, or you'll just stop trying and the relationship will fizzle out without any kind
of confrontation.
And lastly, the worst reason for ignoring you,
He's trying to control or manipulate you in some way.
The silent treatment is often used as a form of punishment or manipulation.
When a person is upset, angry, or disappointed, and this is very damaging to the relationship
because it's motivated by revenge and control.
So he ignores you because he wants you to feel the pain that uncertainty provokes.
He wants you to plead with him, to communicate with you.
And so he ignores you to gain some power and control over you..
another form of manipulation.
He could be ignoring you because
He's playing games and pretending not to care.
This is often the case.
When you have no idea why he's ignoring you, you see at the beginning of a relationship,
a man may believe that he has to play hard to get, or pretend not to care in order to
sustain your interest and get you wanting him more..
So he purposefully ignores you or takes longer and longer to respond to you
because he wants you to experience that uncertain panic response that's associated
with rejection so that you'll be more receptive to him when he does reply.
now one way of knowing his true motivation is if he's doing this, he will not push it
too far because he doesn't wanna lose you.
He just wants more of your attention and is using this manipulation to get it.
And it often works because when you feel that anxiety and uncertainty, it's not easy
to restrain and hold back your feelings.
If you care about him, you'll probably have the urge to react exactly the way he
expects you to react.
And then he accomplishes his goal.
That's why, regardless of how hard and difficult it becomes, there are some things
that you absolutely must not do
first,
Do not keep calling and texting.
If there's a legitimate reason why he's not responding as much.
Over texting or over calling, just to get an answer will come off as possessive insecure
and a little crazy.
Certainly he's seeing your calls and texts.
And if he didn't see your attempts to reach out to him, shouldn't he be concerned about
you and reach out to you?
The second thing you should never do, regardless of how much it hurts,
You cannot beg or plead with a person to respond to you
when you do.
And when you get rejected, you will only hurt more and feel helpless and frustrated.
And begging and pleading will make him cringe and feel sorry for you.
And if he's ignoring you because he can't handle confrontation, he will move further
away from you when you're begging and pleading.
So don't do it.
And lastly,
Don't resort to hurtful, insults or name calling or picking a fight
because confrontations or saying something hurtful could be later used against you.
It will be something that you later regret.
okay now for the powerful texts that you can copy and send to him, these texts will
immediately get his attention and a response while keeping your status as a high value
woman.
So depending on your situation, you will copy the text that is appropriate for you.
first.
Let's talk about what to say and do.
If he's ignoring you to fade you out or break up with you in this case,
he's hoping that you'll eventually get fed up of being ignored and, and the relationship
yourself, or you'll just stop trying, and the relationship will fizzle out without any
type of confrontation.
So instead of being strung along, tell him this,
" If this isn't working out for you, I understand.
I just need to know so that I can move on without any doubt or hesitation."
then if he wants to break up, you've just given him the opportunity.
And if he doesn't wanna break up,
it gives you an opportunity to have a conversation and communicate your needs and
expectations for the relationship.
The goal here is to find out what his true intentions are.
This is also very similar to the texts that you would use.
If you think he's pretending not to care or playing hard to get in this case, he wants
more of your attention and focus on him.
So you can alter the previous text to say,
" I sensing some distance from you.
I understand if you need some space, but let me know if you'd like to talk about it."
Now, if he's pretending not to care or playing hard to get, he will immediately respond
to that.
And that brings us to the most important text.
The one to send.
If he's ignoring you as a form of manipulation or punishment.
now, if you've had an argument or fight, he might be ignoring you until the situation
calms down, especially if he's uncomfortable with conflict or feels that arguing is counterproductive
even so being ignored when you're angry is incredibly frustrating and not a healthy way
to solve a dispute.
So how do you turn this around?
well, first do your best to find out what is wrong and do not give him the silent treatment
back.
If one or both of you need space, establish that.
And since communication is often the issue, try to discuss and understand the situation.
But if your attempts to communicate, go unanswered, you need to take a different approach..
Remember, he's looking for a reaction from you and a sense of control.
And that's exactly what you're giving him when you continue to reach out or call or
text or beg him to talk to you.
Doing that just leads to continued disdain, contempt, silence, and further reinforces
his behavior.
Responding in that way almost guarantees that he will ignore you again.
Instead if he continues to ignore you after a day or so consider sending this final message
to him
" Hey, I see that you're not responding to me".
"I'm not sure why, but I want to understand why you are angry or upset or sad."
"If you're not ready to talk, or if you need space I understand".
"Maybe we can find a time to talk in the next few days."
"But the silence is hard for me -- please let me know."
"I will not continue with this relationship if you keep shutting me out!"
And that's it no more than that, often that's enough to get an immediate response
or it will provoke a communication within a few days.
Nevertheless, your job is done and you must let it go and stop trying to communicate.
Trust me if you've been trying and trying to get him to talk, he will notice when you've
stopped and that's when the tables get turned.
Look, temporary silence in the middle of a heated argument can be healthy, especially
when trying to avoid exacerbating a situation or to avoid saying something that is later
regretted.
However deliberately giving someone the silent treatment as a method of control or punishment
is abuse.
It's not problem solving when there is a problem between two people, the only healthy thing
to do is engage in dialogue to find solutions.
Silence, and distance only generate more problems and in the end solve absolutely nothing.
So if this is something that is happening in your relationship, you may be dealing with
a narcissist.
That's something that I go over in depth in this video.
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