Hey YouTube, Brad Browning here.
I’m a relationship coach from western Canada and today I’m going to share with you some
helpful tips for rebuilding your relationship with your spouse.
Now before I get started I just want to quickly say that no marriage is perfect, so even if
it feels like your relationship is crumbling, you can still single-handedly save it.
To find out your chances of saving your marriage, pop on over to www.marriageguy.com/quiz and
take the free online test.
It’ll also let you know what you need to do to save your relationship based on your
quiz results.
Now, let’s get started.
The first and perhaps most important thing to note is that rebuilding your relationship
with your spouse starts with you.
I know this sounds cliche, but it’s true!
Since there are likely issues between you and your spouse, recognizing how you negatively
contribute to the relationship is crucial.
Once you do you can work on yourself and become the best version of you possible.
To do this, ask yourself where your problems lie, or what things you do that cause arguments
or push your spouse away.
For example, maybe you have a pessimistic streak that comes out far too often, or maybe
you nag him or her about little things all the time.
Whatever is it, pinpoint your problems and make an effort to work on them.
Once your spouse sees that you’re working on you, he or she will be much more inclined
to work on rebuilding your relationship, with you.
The next thing you’ll want to do is avoid setting high expectations.
Now I know this can be hard, especially when your imagination gets the best of you, but
if you want to work on saving your relationship then it’s important to not set unrealistic
expectations for your spouse.
In other words, don’t expect him or her to be someone they’re not.
Sure, you may love the idea of your spouse getting involved in the things you like to
do, or stepping up their romantic game, but again, you can’t expect your husband or
wife to change over night or become the someone they’re not.
Simply put, the key to rebuilding your relationship with your spouse is to avoid setting the bar
too high.
When you create unrealistic expectations you’ll only find yourself disappointed.
Which brings me to my next point...
Asking your spouse to change.
The problem with doing so is two-fold.
First, if your spouse does change it won’t be a genuine change because it wasn’t their
idea to do so.
When this happens the changes probably won’t be permanent and before you know it you’ll
be back where you started.
And second, asking your spouse to change may make them resent you for it.
Since people in general hate it when change is imposed on pressured on them, asking your
spouse to do so isn’t going to help your situation.
Even if on the surface things seem to improve, unless your spouse is changing for themselves
it won’t do any good for your marriage.
Instead of “asking for change” visit www.marriageguy.com/quiz and take the free online test.
As I mentioned, your quiz results will give you an insight as to where you currently stand
with your spouse, and will also offer some advice for what to do next.
Now last but certainly on least on my list, is to respect your spouse’s space.
At this time it may be hard not to smother your husband or wife, or to beg for their
attention.
This is especially true if you feel as though things are slipping between you.
However, as much as this may seem like a good way to “reconnect” with your spouse, this
is far from what you should be doing.
Instead, it’s crucial that you give him or her time and space to themselves; when
you do they’ll have the chance to reflect on your relationship.
What’s even better is if at this time you’re busy working on you, then your husband or
wife will start to see the person they fell in love with in the first place.
When this happens it may even entice him or her to work on rebuilding the relationship
with you, which in the long run could save your marriage.
Well, that’s all the time I have for this video, thanks so much for watching.
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And until next time take care and all the best!