- Hey everybody. It's Tuesday here on Kati Morton's channel.
And you know what that means. That means I'm on Tumblr.
So, if you've asked your questions using the #katifaq,
or if you were like, "Hey, Kati, my question is..."
and I probably found it and there were a lot.
And I have four today for you as well as a journal topic,
so stay tuned and I hope you like'em.
And a lot of them, for any of you who are like,
"Kati, dammit, you never answer my question,"
I try to compile ones that I get asked a lot,
like today, for instance, there were four questions
that were all the same as number three.
And so I put all those into one.
So, it's kind of more bang for your buck.
So, I'm sorry if your question doesn't get answered,
but keep asking it. I will get to it. Okay?
Question number one, #katifaq,
"I asked on Facebook the other day,
"but I'm not sure you got it.
"My therapist said that I'm bulimic.
"Can you be bulimic if you do not binge, but only purge?
"I'm really scared now because I didn't think it was
"really a big deal. I only do it a few times a week
"and now I'm really scared. I would really like to know.
"Please answer. I'm sorry if you got this twice."
No big deal.
Bulimia, if any of you are wondering what bulimia is,
check out my video on it. I did it a long, long, long,
long, long, long, long time ago.
But I give you all of the diagnostic criteria.
And technically, if you don't binge, then I would
actually diagnose you as EDNOS, because if you're not
bingeing, but you're purging,
it would all come down to weight.
And if you're less than 85% of your ideal body weight,
which has to be determined by your doctor,
then you would fall into the anorexia nervosa category.
And if you're bingeing and purging,
I believe it's at least,
this is just off the top of my head,
it's at least three times a day, or something.
And you're eating more than a regular amount,
hence the bingeing.
But if you're not exactly, if you're kind of in between,
which many of us are, then it's EDNOS.
So that's how I would diagnose it.
And if you have any other further questions,
check out my videos on anorexia, bulimia and EDNOS.
I talk about them all. Okay?
And I'm sorry that it's confusing.
They should be talking to you about this.
Question number two, #katifaq,
"Can CBT cure borderline personality disorder?
"What if DBT is not available in your area?"
CBT is the next best thing.
Wow, say that five times fast.
Nothing cures anything.
Hard work cures any of our issues,
whether it's anxiety, borderline personality disorder,
we will feel much better if we're really working hard
and we're understanding the emotion regulation component.
So if DBT's not available, CBT is great.
I would also grab that workbook. I have it in the widget
at the bottom of my website.
And many of you got confused and thought it was my
eating disorder workbook that's free.
It's not that. If you scroll down on any page
on my website, there's a dark blue box,
it's a Amazon widget, and you can click.
I have my recommendations there, so then you'll, maybe,
find that workbook and that you can kind of work on it
on your own with combining your CBT therapy.
But it can definitely help.
If we work, it's like they say in AA or,
I think it's AA,
it works if you work it.
That's how I feel about things like CBT or DBT
where we're trying to overcome borderline personality
disorder because we can get ourselves to recognize
how we're feeling and what's causing us to feel that way,
and better manage it instead of just letting our feelings
kind of overwhelm us and feel like a wave just like
(claps, blows) slapped us down.
So yeah, I would give it a go and
it will really, really help. I promise.
Okay, question number three.
"What is the difference between disordered eating
"and an eating disorder? I don't know if you have a
"video on this yet, but I've searched and I couldn't
"find anything."
I got a lot of questions about this same exact thing.
And I don't have a video on it, so I will title
today's video as this so that you'll know that here it is.
Disordered eating is kind of what I would call a layover
into eating disorder town.
A lot of parents of my clients
have disordered eating.
And that would mean, it could be anything.
It really means that you do eat, like what a normal
amount is, but you're really, really bizarre about it.
Like, "I don't eat any of X type of food, or Z type of food,
"and I only eat this amount, and I don't eat after X time,
"and X amount of exercise has to take place before..."
You have a lot of rules.
But you maintain enough of a body weight
and you don't purge
or you don't binge and purge,
you just have this weird way of eating,
and what you will eat and what you won't eat,
and you have all these rules that you really aren't a
normal eater, you're not an intuitive eater.
And that's what disordered eating is.
And I have many parents who struggle with that,
I have tried to talk to them about what that means,
and how that feels to someone who is trying to recover
from an eating disorder and wants to eat intuitively.
'Cause if I want a cheeseburger,
I'm gonna have a cheeseburger.
I'm not gonna feel bad about it.
And I'm not not gonna eat the fries.
I don't have any rules going on.
And when we're trying to recover, we need to have that
freedom, and having parents or people around us
who have disordered eating can be hard 'cause it's
very triggering.
So that's just a little bit about that.
And if you have more questions about that
or if you want me to do a full Monday video on it,
give this video a like and
let me know in the comments. Okay?
Question number four, #katifaq.
"Hey Kati, I was wondering what your opinion was on
"when calling your therapist for more support
"when is a good reason to call her,
"and when is not?"
I've never thought about this before,
but if you need more support from your therapist,
first of all, please, please, please don't page us,
or call us in the middle of the night.
Wait until it's a normal business day,
and then we'll get to you, actually, more quickly,
because it's a regular working day.
And if it's not an emergency, we might be upset.
So I would give her a call and leave a message
on the voicemail and just say,
"Hey, I was wondering if I could
"get an extra session in this week, or if there's
"something that we can do, maybe just like,
"a thirty-minute phone call."
I think when you're feeling really, really down in between
your sessions, and it's not an attachment thing,
you don't feel like "oh, I just need to see you,"
it's actually, you're struggling with, maybe, suicide,
or you're really having a hard time.
Maybe you're just out of inpatient and you're
feeling like that big dip from treatment,
'cause we have all this care and all these people,
and then it's like out to outpatient.
That's a good time to ask.
And I always think it's always best to ask your therapist
will talk with you, she thinks it's appropriate,
and when she can get you in.
But I would set up another session or a phone session.
I do that a lot. I'll have a session during the week,
and then I'll do a phone session, and then another session,
and phone session, you know, so that we kind of
make the most of our time.
'Cause a lot of my clients also drive quite a distance,
so I don't like to make them keep doing that if
it's okay with them.
So I would talk them about it.
And it's okay to call. Just call tomorrow morning
and say, "Hey, I just feel like I might need a little
"to see yo more frequently. Can we set that up?" Okay?
Journal topic of the day.
Posted this on my Tumblr blog,
and since today is Tumblr day,
I decided this would be kind of fun.
Fat is not a feeling. I used to tell my clients that
all the time. You know, "How do you feel?"
"I feel fat." That's not a feeling.
So, since many of us feel all sorts of nasty things,
and we say "I feel...fat, stupid, ugly,"
whatever our eating disorder, self-harm or depression
voice is telling us, it's not a feeling.
So what do you feel? I want you to
journal about what you feel.
Try to come up with three, three things.
'Cause me, today, I feel a little frazzled 'cause I've been
running around running errands at the end of my day.
And feel very happy. And I feel well-rested.
I got a lot of sleep. So I feel energetic. Yeah.
So what are your three feelings?
Share'em below or let me know,
and maybe write about how you know you feel that way.
Let's start getting in touch with that. Okay?
Tomorrow is Wednesday and I will be on my website,
and I will also be on YouTube so you can leave your
questions below this video or my video from yesterday.
And I will answer them then. Have a good night.
Love ya. Bye.