- The moment you start it, you are it.
This is the secret to creating your dream reality.
This is your secret to creating the love life
that you want, attracting the person
into your life that you might want,
attracting the depth of relationship you might want,
the abundance you want.
It's understanding that the moment you start it, you are it.
This is what I use to create that of a reflection
in my life, of over a million YouTube subscribers.
This is what I've learned and helped me
to really just open up,
to be the most authentic version of me,
and I'm gonna share with you exactly,
step-by-step, how to apply this in your life so that,
in three to six months from now,
you look back and you can see this is the video
that changed it all for you.
Now, for this, a lotta times what happens is people focus
on the surface level.
This was me for a long time.
They believe that you must first have something,
and then, once you do something with what you have,
then you can finally be something,
and this is going about reality,
creation, in the backwards way,
and this is where, also, I think,
a lotta times, people are like,
"Ooh, I'm gonna think better thoughts.
"I'm thinking better thoughts,"
and they're thinking of the better thoughts,
but things aren't changing in reality.
And that's because things go deeper than just thinking.
Things go deeper than just, even, feeling,
or even taking action.
It goes down to, who are you being?
Because we get in life a reflection of who we are being.
Now, the thing that changed everything in my life,
back in 2017, was when I committed
to making the daily YouTube videos.
Now, it wasn't that I was gonna,
the action of making YouTube videos, that wasn't it.
It was, I saw myself as a full-time YouTuber
and I was being the full-time YouTuber version of me.
I made a choice that that is who I am.
Now, what normally would happen is I would kind
of tiptoe myself into starting to make a video
or putting myself out there.
But instead, what I did is I just started being it.
I started it.
The moment I started it, I was it.
So the key is understanding, also,
this one concept that will completely transform your life
if you really absorb it in,
and that is that every moment is a new moment.
Every moment's a new moment,
and every moment, you are a new version of you.
This is what quantum physics is showing is,
is this isn't just
some hippy-dippy Pleiadian star seed information here.
Quantum physics shows us that every moment is a new moment
and every moment, the cells in our body are dying
and being reborn, recreated.
Now, the only reason we feel stuck in our old reality is
because of the story that we tell ourselves.
It's that we recreate ourselves using the same story
over and over again.
So that story might be like, I work a 9:00 to 5:00 job
that I hate.
I work a 9:00 to 5:00 job that I hate.
And it's like, well, I'm stuck in this reality
where I'm working a 9:00 to 5:00 job that I hate,
but that's not stuck in an old reality.
That's recreating a new reality over and over
and over again because there's an energy there
of an attachment.
There may be a familiarity that comes
with that 9:00 to 5:00 job that you don't like,
but you made-believe that you need to work it.
So the key to this is really,
is actually a really simple three-step process.
It's awareness, becoming aware of the story
that you're telling yourself.
Become aware of the attachments you might have,
the identity, the labels,
the people that you surround yourself with,
the environment that you're in, aware of that.
Second step is making the choice to let it go.
Letting go is just a choice.
We believe it's hard, therefore it's hard.
Letting go is a choice that you make.
It's the story of familiarity that makes it hard to let go.
It's like, I've done this analogy before,
but if I have this marker right here and I'm like,
oh, it's so hard to let go of this marker,
it's so hard to let go of this marker,
you'd be like, "That's silly, Aaron.
"You just let go, like this,"
and then it falls, and the cap falls off, too.
Interesting.
Now, what happens, though, is,
what's actually hard is the story that we tell ourselves
about the marker.
Oh, my god.
My mom gave me this marker.
My grandma had this marker.
This was my first love.
This was something that makes.
I love this marker.
This marker's amazing.
That story is what's hard to let go of
because there's an identity with it.
So the power is in realizing that,
once you become aware of it
and you become more of the story,
you can make the choice to let it go,
and trusting you're gonna find other markers.
You're gonna be able.
You are still worthy, whole, and complete
without the marker, itself.
So the letting go is the second step.
And the third step is being,
making the choice to be this new version of you.
So back in the day, when I was working that 9:00
to 5:00 job selling women's shoes,
that was, my reality was a complete reflection
of that identity.
Complete reflection.
And I would go to work and I would complain
about how slow it was and I would talk to other coworkers.
I'd deal with corporate politics.
I'd have to suck up to get the schedule I wanted.
I was playing that game even though I didn't like it.
Isn't that interesting?
I was playing the game.
Many of us, we know we don't like something,
but we do it anyways.
Why?
Because a part of it feels familiar.
Familiar.
And the key is, we become aware of it,
and then we could choose something new.
Now here's the thing.
At a certain point, worked the 9:00 to 5:00 job
that I didn't like, and then I just simply made a choice.
I am a full-time YouTuber now.
I'm going to be it.
Then, taking action and making videos every day
on YouTube was actually easy for me.
Believe it or not.
People would ask me and say, "Aaron,
"how are you able to make videos
"every single day on YouTube?"
And the truth is, it was easy,
because it was a part of my identity.
If you ask somebody, if you were somebody that goes
to the gym three times a week and I said, "Hey.
"How are you able to go to the gym three times a week?
"That's crazy.
"You go to the gym three times a week?
"That's insane."
And if you go to the gym three or four or five times a week,
then you'd be like, "Wow.
"No, it's not, Aaron.
"It's freaking easy.
"It's a part of my identity."
If I was making a big deal, I'm like, "Oh, my god.
"You're able to eat food every day.
"Oh, my god, that's so cool."
You're like, "What do you mean?
"It's like a part of my..."
I mean it's not really necessarily a part of your,
I mean I guess food is a part
of the collective conditioning,
but you know, that's just an analogy, all right?
In general, there's probably something you do.
If you're a yoga person and you go to yoga classes,
I'm like, "How are you able to go to yoga every week?"
You're like, "It's easy.
"I love it.
"It's a part of my identity."
The things we love and the things we do
that are a part of our identity tend to be easy.
So when I was making daily videos,
it became a part of my identity,
and then it was easy for me to do.
There's only an initial part that's a little bit hard.
It's that little buffer zone,
when you're getting your tiptoe into the water
and you need to just get in.
And with being it, what I'm encouraging you
to do is to just get in the water.
Jump in the water.
Stop putting your toesies in and going,
"Oh, my god, it's kinda cold.
"I don't know about this."
And you put your ankles in and you're like,
"Oh, my god, it's cold," and then you get involved
in the story.
Instead, just jump in, and then you can enjoy it easier.
And when it comes to this process
of creating permanent identity-level change,
it's about making a choice
and committing to this new reality.
I had John Assaraf on my channel once.
We have a video and I was talking to him,
and he said one question really changed his life,
was when his mentor asked him:
"When it comes to your goals,
"are you interested in your goals
"or are you committed to your goals?"
'Cause it's very different energy.
For six months to a year, I was interested in YouTube.
I made a video once every couple months.
It was a cool idea.
I always knew, one day, I'm gonna be on YouTube,
so I was just kinda doing it here or there.
And then, in February of 2017, I committed.
I committed.
I started being it.
I jumped in the water.
And when that happened, my reality began to change
as a reflection.
Now an important part to remember about this, though,
is you can't keep checking the reflection
to make sure it's changed.
You're like, come on, universe.
I've made two videos on YouTube.
Why isn't my reality completely shifted yet?
And it's because that mentality is trying
to manipulate the universe.
I'm gonna be.
This can't be a manipulation tactic.
I'm gonna be this YouTuber, or whatever,
to get that reality,
or whatever analogy you wanna use for that.
If you want to attract a emotionally available person,
okay, I'm gonna be emotionally available
and vulnerable until I get the relationship.
Oh, my god, universe.
It's been three days and the guy's not here.
The girl's not there.
The woman's not here.
It's like, well, you're not doing this to get a result.
That's the do mentality.
You're being it because it's who you are.
This level is an end of itself.
It's, you choose to be it because it's who you prefer to be.
That's why identity-level change is
about changing your sense of beingness,
your energy from the inside, out.
Instead of, you know how some people, they're,
they have a wedding coming up
or they have like an event coming up,
or summer's coming up.
They're like, okay, I'm gonna lose a couple pounds
so I look good in a bikini, or I look good in a swimsuit,
and they do it.
What happens?
They normally gain it back.
Why?
They didn't change and make it their lifestyle.
And that's why there's a, you know,
there's the book called "Atomic Habits",
called "Atomic Habits".
It's a very well-known book,
and basically what it talks about is little,
minute changes that you make that
then changes your whole, entire life,
and this has been the key and the game-changer
for my own life.
I meditated every, I meditate every single day
for five or 10 minutes right when I wake up,
right before I go to bed at night.
I've been doing that since 2012.
I've skipped maybe a handful of days
because of flights and stuff like that.
But other than that, I've been doing it for a long time.
That has completely transformed my life
more than anything else.
Then I looked to daily YouTube videos.
The daily videos, it changed my sense of identity,
not only with making YouTube videos,
and if I was, by the way, making those YouTube videos
to get out of my 9:00 to 5:00 job,
I don't think it would've worked.
I was making the videos.
That was a side effect.
It was a beneficial side effect
and there was a part of me that wanted that,
but mainly, it was like, this is who I prefer to be.
This feels like who I came here to be.
And the moment you start, there will be blocks.
You can't see one block, 'cause that's the difference
between committed and interested.
If you're interested and you come up to a block,
the first negative comment I ever got,
I coulda said, "You know what?
"Maybe I should stop."
When I first started on YouTube,
my sisters and my ex-stepmom were making fun
of me on YouTube.
They were like, "Oh, who you making videos for, Aaron?
"Your 11 subscribers?"
I had 11 subscribers at one point,
and they were like, "Who you making videos for?
"Your 11 subscribers?
"Why you doing all that?"
And I was like, ah.
I started to, I thought about it,
and I'm like, well, I'm not just interested in this.
I'm committed.
If anything, that fueled me to continue to make videos,
and the key to this is understanding
that the blocks will come up.
There was times when I got a negative comment
or I was worried about what a friend thought,
people watching my videos.
They come up as you start.
If you think all the blocks are gonna go away
before you start and you're waiting
to clear the blocks before you start,
you're gonna be waiting forever.
The key is to go through it, to start being it.
The blocks will come up.
It's just your old identity.
That's it.
Underneath "be" I have comfort zone, what's familiar.
When you start being a new version of you,
then what happens is you start shifting
what is familiar for you.
I have this one little thing I wanna show you.
Look at this.
This is your identity, right here.
How you think, feel, and act, that's what's on autopilot.
Your values.
This is another important part
to that that I really recommend you look at, your values.
What is important in your life?
What values or virtues do you live by?
When I created identity-level change
and let go of being that, of a people-pleaser or a nice guy,
I had to change my values.
I had to become aware of the old patterns.
I had to become aware that, oh,
I'm wanting people's validation or approval.
That's inauthentic.
I'm trying to manipulate other people into liking me.
That's manipulative.
And then I said I'd start making a new choice.
I choose to live by the values
of vulnerability and authenticity.
It was literally a choice.
I started being that version of me.
And then that was the new version
of me that I preferred to be,
and reality has, since then,
reflected a much more authentic
and vulnerable reality for me
and I attract people that are more authentic
and vulnerable because of that.
But think of your identity as your comfort zone.
Your identity is your comfort zone.
You will think, act, and feel equal
to that which you see yourself
and that which values you live by.
If you want to, if you want the money
or the love in your life that you desire or crave,
understand that you must expand your identity,
step out into the unknown,
and as you step out into the unknown,
you become more comfortable with it.
As you start opening up your heart more,
if you wanna attract love,
you start becoming more emotionally available,
you start becoming more vulnerable
and you put yourself out there.
You go to the person that you have a crush on
and you talk to them and you start pushing
out of that comfort zone
and you start to redefine yourself,
and then that becomes your new comfort zone.
The key to this is understanding
that your identity is not permanent.
It's flexible.
At any moment, you can make a new choice about who you are.
At one moment, I made a choice that I am
now a full-time YouTuber.
I literally started to be a full-time YouTuber,
making videos every single day on YouTube.
And guess what happened.
Within six months, I was full-time on YouTube.
I quit my 9:00 to 5:00 job
because I made the choice to be it.
I expanded my comfort zone.
It was weird, at first, for me to be on camera.
I felt like I'm not credible enough,
I'm not good enough, I'm not interesting enough.
Those came up and I took action anyways,
and the more videos I made, the more comfortable I got,
and the more that things began to grow.
So your identity is flexible.
Your identity can change like that when you make the choice
and understand that the more you step into the unknown,
the more magic ends up actually happening.
This is the key to complete and utter transformation.
If you haven't, by the way, I have a meditation on YouTube.
It's the raising your dominant vibration meditation
that I did on new year's, like two, three years ago.
It's one of my most particular meditations.
So many people's lives have transformed from it.
If you haven't checked it out yet, check it out right here.
This meditation will change
your dominant vibration permanently.
Your vibration is a combination
of how you think, feel, and act,
and it has been on autopilot.
This meditate--