hi ladies Jaki Sabourin here your executive love coach and CEO of engaged
at any age and today I want to talk to you about three questions you need to
ask before you go on a date okay let's jump right into three questions you want
to ask before you go on a date and so I typically make these trainings for for
dating over 50 but I think that this really applies to any of you out there
looking to meet the one this year looking to meet your soulmate so um so
temper this depending on your age but just know that I've geared this towards
women over 50 now it's really important to get crystal clear about what you want
to determine the questions that you need to ask which will make the determination
whether or not you go on a date I feel like time is of the essence and I don't
want you wasting your precious time so get gathering as much information before
the date is really important if you're dating over 50 so remember to like share
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okay let's dive right in with the first question that you need to ask before you
go on the date so that you can determine whether the date is worth your time and
effort so I'm a big believer in not wasting your precious time ladies
because time is your biggest asset it's not money it's time time is not promised
so you really want to use your time wisely and that's why I created this
video so that you can make the determination before you go on a date
after you speak with a man whether or not you actually want to put the time
and effort into that date so the first question that I want you to ask and this
is a really easy one if you're dating over 50 because men love to talk about
their work is you know what do you do for a living what do you do for work so
that's the first question what do you do for work now you can ask that in a in
many ways but basically it's an easy question because most men want to talk
about their work to kind of lead with that and so you're looking to see what
their lifestyle is by how we shared you know what he shares about its work
you're looking to see how dedicated he is how what his work
ethic is and you're looking for you know the like I said the lifestyle what what
lifestyle that you might anticipate sharing with him and so that's why it's
important I told you a lot about a man's character he has a great work ethic if
he's you know been in a company for 25 years then that would show he's very
consistent he's very dependable he's built up his career over time and that
is something that you could really find some some continuity with with a man
some consistency some so you could build something if he has a career that he's
flourished in and so don't shoot a man down if he says that he's you know he's
pouring wine I had one client share with me recently that that she was on the
phone talking to a potential date and he said I'll be right back after pour some
wine and she thought I'm being put on hold so you can pour a glass of wine
would it what is he you know and then he came back and he said he owned a winery
just like if a man tells you he's an electrician don't shoot him down I mean
what if he owns a company and there's nothing wrong with being electrician so
you just have to decide if that's gonna work for you so keep an open mind but
definitely ask that question okay question number two out of the three
questions that you want to ask is is the the family question and this is really
important because if you're dating over 50 you're more than likely you've
already had your children or maybe you don't have children but you don't want
any young children so this could be an important thing for you and so if you're
dating under 50 ladies then it'll be a different approach to this question but
for me it was really important for me to date a man and I was very clear on what
I wanted to create in my life I wasn't open to dating a man with children that
were in grade school or middle school I'd already had my children my daughter
was in high school when I was dating and I wanted a man that had children my
daughter's age or older I was really clear about this so there's nothing
wrong with wanting what you want you should want what you want and expect to
get it but you need to be clear on what that is because I didn't want to have
conversations about soccer and you know the sports activities and I
just I'd already had those conversations for many many years and I was ready to
move on to talking about college and talking about travel and those type of
conversations so check in with yourself make sure you're you know where you're
at do you want children what are the ages you're willing to go out with a man
that his children are really get clear on that and because the more clear you
are the easier it is to to pass on a date or accept a date so if you want to
ask him the family question you know about his children and he'll be happy to
open up about his children or maybe he doesn't have children he wants them
remember maybe he's clear he doesn't want them so it's a good question to ask
ladies okay and so make sure you stay to the very end because I have a special
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third and final question is really important I know this is so hard for
women but you need to ask what his relationship history and goals are and
so I'm not saying to ask him what is your relationship history and goals but
that's the question so it can come out sounding like so what is it that you
what is it that you're wanting to create you know with your online dating and
experience do you what are you looking for online and and how is it going for
you so you're kind of positioning the question more conversational so you're
not trying to pin him down with all a battery of question but you have a right
to know these things especially if you're dating over 50 men over 50 know
what they want they've already spent you know a couple decades living life to
have more experience so they need to have more clarity around what it is
they're wanting if they're wanting to date casually there's nothing wrong with
that but that's not going to work for you if you're looking to get into a
long-term committed relationship so I say you ask this question right up front
the men that I have asked this question to and that are ready for a committed
relationship have no problem answering this they completely are forthright and
they'll share right upfront that yeah they'd like to get remarried
someday or they definitely want a long-term committed relationship because
they do and they don't want to date anymore and so sharing that with you
allows them to get no you much faster because they can ask
you the same question so make sure that you ask this important question so what
is it what is what is it that you're looking for and and how is it going so
you're just trying to create some intimacy by asking I'm an intimate
question and you don't know if he's gonna be the one for you just because he
says he wants to get married or he's open to it or if you want to get
long-term committed relationship you have no idea you start to go out with
him but at least when you meet him for the first time you guys you know that
you're playing on the same team right you're on the same team you're playing
in the same game if you don't if you don't ask these questions how do you
know so you go on the data you have this awkward moments really like I didn't ask
him I don't really know what he's looking for and so you're you're kind of
you have this amazing online dating platform but if you have the courage to
ask the questions that are important to you you're wasting your time so um
ladies have the courage to ask questions I promise you when I asked my husband
this before we went out on the first conversation and we had this nice
conversation we talked about our work we talked about our children our family we
and we talked about our relationship cause of our relationship history it's
another thing I want to add is I asked him you know when to last time you you
were in a relationship and how was that for you so I'm not prying but I just
want to see where he's out in his healing process is he really upset is
the angry is he over it you know and so that's why they're asking you the same
question so make sure you you're prepared with your scripted first date
questions and I've got a whole nother training on that these are answers that
you've worked on how to answer it in a really empowered way so that comes out
really organic really natural and it's honest but it also has boundaries of
what you're willing to share based on the fact that you don't know this person
so I know that these three questions are gonna really help you navigate the first
date make sure you get clear on what you want first though that you know what
questions are applicable to you these questions are were applicable to me
dating over 50 I wanted to make sure that I knew that that the man that I was
with had established himself in a career and he was still ambitious because so am
I and I knew that that would be a fit for me
the next one was that I wanted to know about his children and their ages
because I didn't want to have those conversations about younger children I
love children don't get me wrong but I'd already raised mine so and then the last
one was about his relationship history wanted to see where he was and what he
was looking for and I asked Michael all these questions and he was happy to
answer them and he asked me you know the same question back he'd say what about
you so remember to always turn everything around and ask them the same
question and if you're experiencing any
insensitivity just know that there's probably some work in that area that you
need to do get real get real curious about why am I feeling triggered right
now well I'm a feeling so sensitive about questions that you deserve the
answers to and that he deserves the answers to if you're going out there
putting yourself out there you have to be willing to be open so that you can
get to know somebody quickly and and and more authentically and so my big
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be the woman that you know would attract the type of man
so you're becoming so you be that woman that you can attract the man that would
be attracted to that woman and then you do the action steps that you need to do
in order to make sure that you are becoming that woman and then you have
what you want so it's really about setting up your beliefs about what's
possible for you shifting if you need to grow emotionally shift into a more
emotionally mature space and then become that by living it by and then using
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forget to Like share and subscribe to my channel so you never miss an episode and
I hope this was helpful for you and just know gosh I wish I can give you a hug
right through the screen I just want you to know that I'm always sending you so
much love I know how hard it is it can be on the journey to your soulmate but
it is worth the it is worth the journey the journey is so worthwhile because
there's love at the end of it and I've been with Michael for six years that we
just had our fourth year fourth anniversary and I am the happiest that
I've ever been in my whole life and you know we have a really healthy
relationship and I really want that for you so I hope this video helped and I'll
see you in my next video bye