- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers.
Welcome back to our channel.
Okay, so you're on a romantic first date,
and you can't help but wonder
if your date thinks you're attractive
as much as you think they are.
What attractive behaviors do you have
that you can display to your date?
Well, here are six behaviors that attract people the most.
Do you do any of them?
Number one, casually touch them.
A casual and friendly touch here and there
may just improve your attractiveness
if the other person is comfortable with it.
A flirty quick nudge of the elbow or a tap on the shoulder
may just make them feel closer to you.
In an experiment from the University of Mississippi
and Rhodes College,
researchers had waitresses briefly touch customers
on the hand or shoulders
in a controlled yet natural setting.
The waitresses who casually touched their customers
when returning the change
received a significantly larger tip than those who did not.
In another study published in Psychology Press,
Taylor & Francis Group had men stand
on the corner of the street
and attempt to talk to women who would walk by.
The men were more successful in starting a conversation
with a woman when they lightly touched the woman
on the forearm for one second.
As the researchers state,
our results showed that a man's courtship solicitations
are more favorably accepted by a woman
when the request is accompanied by a light, tactile contact.
This isn't to say that everyone would like to be touched
on there and by a stranger.
But a flirty brush of the arm during a romantic date
might not hurt your chances of them finding you attractive.
Number two, show you're available
and have open body language.
How can you gain someone's romantic interest?
Show you're open to dating them.
Dr. Monica Moore, a psychologist
at Weber University in St. Louis
has conducted research on the flirting techniques
used in singles bars, shopping malls,
and places young people go to meet each other.
Author Nicholas Boothman writes in his book,
"How to make someone fall in love with you
in 90 minutes or less"
notes that psychologist Dr. Monica Moore
found that it's not always the good looking
who get approached the most,
but the ones who signaled their availability
and confidence through basic flirting techniques
like eye-contact and smile.
Just signaling your interest in someone
gets you halfway there, regardless of gender.
One way you can appear more confident and available
is to display open body language.
Try to keep your chest and torso more open
and refrain from crossing your arms too much.
Closed body language can give off the impression
you aren't available or simply don't want to talk.
And availability will signify to others
that you're willing to talk and meet new people.
Number three, be a leader.
Want others to notice you?
When you can, be a leader.
In a 2014 study, researchers explored
whether feelings towards other people
influence the perceptions of others attractiveness.
Having their subjects in groups,
they found subordinates rated their group leader
as significantly more attractive
than leaders outside their group.
So even if there is no role of group leader
in your next project,
be more vocal about your ideas, teach others.
There are many ways you can prove you're capable
and apparently attractive group leader.
On your next date, suggest a place you know all about
and take the lead on a romantic adventure.
It could be fun.
Number four, smile when you can.
Feel like laughing at a funny joke,
smiling at a sweet comment, then do so.
And don't be afraid to,
because smiling is quite attractive according to research.
A study published in the bulletin of Psychonomic Society
found smiling might just make you more attractive.
According to the study, women in the experiment
who smiled 70% of the time were seen
as more interpersonally attractive
than a woman who seldom smiled.
It looks like a comedy club date might be a good idea.
Number five, maintain good eye contact.
(narrator sighs)
Your date's dreamy eyes!
Why not look at them?
Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin conducted a study
where he recorded how much time lovers would spend
looking into each other's eyes?
He found that individuals who were not in love
looked at each other 30 to 60% of the time,
while those couples deeply in love,
they stared into each other's eyes
75% of the time when talking,
and when someone else entered the room or interrupted them,
they were much slower to turn away
from their partner's gaze.
A little tip to really get someone
to consider these feelings of love for you,
look into their eyes 75% of the time.
The brain remembers the last time someone they loved
started them in the same way.
They'll associate this stare
with feelings of love and attraction.
Why?
This lovely memory causes a release
of Phenylethylamine, which is known as "Love Drug".
Phenylethylamine is released in the brain
when someone falls in love.
This chemical too mimics the brain chemistry of someone
who is deeply in love.
Chocolates contain phenylethylamine,
which is probably why it's historically been considered
an aphrodisiac.
So if you want your date to see you as attractive,
maybe romantically gaze into their eyes a bit
when you're talking to them, and maybe some hot chocolate.
Mhm, chocolate.
And number six, crack a joke or two.
Who doesn't love a good joke?
Researchers from Illinois State University
and DePaul University found in their study
that when you use humor when getting to know
an acquaintance at first,
that individual has a better chance of liking you more.
They even found that engaging in funny tasks
may raise romantic attraction.
See, I told you that comedy club
was the next perfect day choice.
Take the lead on picking your next date
and snuggle up for some good old comedy and hot chocolate.
Not only attractive, but delicious!
So which of these behaviors will you use on your next date?
Where will you take them?
Hot chocolate, comedy night,
or romantic stroll hand-in-hand?
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