Heya playa, have you ever wanted to send a DM to someone you've never met in real life
and you weren't really sure how to go about getting their attention?
Don't worry, in this video, I'm gonna share a few tips on what you can do to catch their
eye and get them to talk to you.
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Now let's just first keep it real.
DMing someone that you don't know, that you've never talked to before, that you've never
met in person is gonna be hard.
It's not the easiest thing to do because you have to ask yourself what do you know about
this person?
What do you have in common with them?
What do you guys connect over?
You also have to take into account the relationship between you and them.
Do you guys go to the same school?
Do you have the same friend group?
Is it someone you highly admire and think is gorgeous and you just want to talk to them?
If that's the case the higher you reach the harder it's going to be to get a response
from them.
People ask me all the time "Josh, how do I get the attention of a celebrity and that's
a lot harder to do because they're probably so preoccupied and have so many messages that
they just won't see you in the mix of things.
And the lower level of that is dating someone that you randomly found online.
You thought they were cute and you want to talk to them but you have nothing in common
with them so where do you begin?
I think the first thing you need to know is don't send them tons of messages.
It just comes off as spam and is only going to deter them from wanting to talk to you.
Plus when you DM a person on something like Instagram, that message goes into the request
folder.
So if they go into their request folder and see a ton of messages from you that's only
going to make them not accept it and click decline.
Instead what I would recommend is sending them a really short question, something that
doesn't take up multiple lines but that they can easily skim over and they may feel inclined
to give you a short response.
A few examples you may want to use are "What state are you from?" or "What grade are you
currently in?" or "Do you do this professionally, whether it's YouTube or Instagram?" or whatever
it is they're known for.
Short questions like that might prompt a response from them and if they do respond you move
out of the request folder and into the main folder where you have a much easier time in
actually getting their attention and getting them to respond frequently.
Another way to spark a conversation between the two of you is to be interactive with the
content that they post.
If they're posting pictures on Instagram leave comments on them.
If they're posting stories, ask questions and just follow up with them there.
It's easier for someone to respond based on things that they post rather than to start
a conversation from out of nowhere just talking to them about nothing really in particular.
But if you start a conversation on something that they posted, it's a lot easier to have
a lot of back and forth with them.
Now if you want to DM someone that goes to a nearby school or even to your school and
you don't really know them, there are a few other techniques you can also add on top of
those that can really help you out.
The first one is to utilize the tagging feature.
When you tag a person in one of your stories, it appears in their inbox so that's a good
way to kind of grab their attention without having to send a message at the beginning
that's like hey, what's up, how are you?
You can tag them on memes or follow back Fridays or any kind of post like that but here's the
thing, don't overdo it.
It's the same thing as spamming them hey hey what's up over and over.
You want to do it sparingly and see if they interact with those posts here and there.
Another option for DMing them of they don't know who you are is to create a group chat.
Invite some of your friends, invite some of their friends if you know who they are and
then from there just let the conversation flow.
Eventually, hopefully they can invite that person into conversation and you guys can
get to know each other more in this like a group setting.
And while group chatting is good, what you really want is a one-on-one conversation with
them so, start a conversation in the group chat, ask a question, get that person involved
in it and then from there shoot them a DM talking about what you were talking about
in the group chat and just go deeper into that conversation with them one on one.
And in that direct message, you might want to say something like "I really like your
answer in the chat but I don't really know who you are, so tell me a little bit about
yourself so we can get to know each other."
Just because you've never met a person in real life doesn't mean you can't start a conversation
with them and DM them.
Just use the tools at your disposal.
But now I'm curious to know, what do you think is there someone you want to message and you
don't know how to go about it, someone you've never met before and you don't know where
to start?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
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messaging anyone.
On that note, I'll catch you guys in the next video.
As always, love and peace.