Hey, Marianne DeNovellis here with a Six Figure Mastermind and I'm standing in
the very room where my speaking career began. You know, a lot of these ideas that
people put forth their great wisdom. But the way I did it it was a little bit
unconventional. So, if you want to learn how to become a public speaker in the
motivational space, you might want to hear some of the tips and tricks I use
so, stay tuned.
So, we're down here at the Utah Valley Convention Center and I got to tell you,
this is giving me some flashbacks right now. So, I want to share with you the
secrets to becoming a motivational speaker and what I did. And the reason
we're here at the Utah Valley Convention Center is because several years ago I
was in one of these classrooms and I can remember sitting there, you know, if I
arms folded across my chest as the speaker was presenting on how to speak
and what to do and I remember sitting there and thinking, you know, there's a
lot of great information coming my way. But if I only pay attention to the
speaker, I'm going to be missing out on 80% of the content. Now, what sense does that
make, right? You're missing out on 80% of the content if I'm only listening tothe
speaker you think it'd be the other way around. But it's not about distraction.
It's about becoming an intern of the classroom. And I decided as I was sitting
there in that classroom that I wanted a piece of everything that was going on.
I watched the speaker on stage, I watch where they put the easel, I watched when
they presented, I watched where they were standing on the stage, I watched when
they went into the audience, I watched at what part of the stories all of this was
taking place. I even went over to the back table and I was watching what the
a/v team was doing, I was watching what the helpers were doing when they
were passing out papers, I was watching what the facilitators doing especially
when they weren't on stage. And I decided right there in that moment that if I
wanted to make a name for myself in anything, I had to become a recognized
face in the industry. So, I made an effort to come to every single seminar I could
think of. I also became a credible groupie and you probably know what it
means to become a groupie and then some in our world there's lots of them. But
when I decided to become a credible groupie, here's what that means, it means
I was going to go and be a student and not just a student but an intern in every
single seminar I was a part of. And there's a difference between being a
student and being an intern of the program. The student will come in, they'll
take studious notes, they'll listen to the presenter and they'll walk away put
their notes in their desk at home and never pay attention to them again. That's
what the student does. Because students we're trained in this
school system in United States to be excellent test takers, right? We're
trained to do those mad minutes in elementary school, we're trained to take
those bubble sheet tests in college and in high school
and we're trained to write essays. But how many of you know that when you are finished with
that test that that information is as good as gone. You know that happens a lot
of the time more time than we would like to think. But if you're an intern of the
program, if you're an intern of the classroom, then you've got eyes and ears
on everything that's going on around you. You're watching the a/v table, you're
watching the facilitator, you're watching the facilitator offstage, you're watching
the helpers in the room, you're watching how the chairs are set up, you're
watching what color markers they use, you're watching where they're standing
on stage, when and why. And everything is just getting a sensory input inside. So, I
decided that right there in that event that I wanted to become this recognized face
this credible groupie. My meaning, that I'm going to go into every event, I'm going
to ask to help at the event if I can, I'm going to ask to help pass out papers, I'm
going to ask to help get the the people, the fulfillment materials that they need, I'm
going to ask to pass out booklets, I'm going to arrive early so I can figure out what
the dynamic is being created in the room, what music they're playing. And I'm going to
write down a playlist of everything that they're doing and I'm going to ask to be a
part of it as much as possible. You bet I was volunteering at events, you bet I was
volunteering in the back of the room because I wanted to soak up as much as
humanly possible. So, why am I telling you this about being an intern in the
classroom? Why am i standing here in the Utah Valley Convention Center where I
went to my very first seminar? Well, I'll tell you what happened.
I watched the presenter as they left the room and I wondered what they were doing.
So I caught up and I followed him out there. And they were looking for
presenters for their next event, right? And they were looking for people who
could speak and who could share their story and I followed them out there. I
took the opportunity. I went for it and as I experienced that, I went into
classroom, into classroom in the classroom after that experience
following this mentor around and and just sticking right by their side
because they loved the mission and I loved the message. Fast forward, six
months from when I snuck out of the back of that classroom, I was teaching the
public speaking program that that classroom was designed to bring people
into. Now I speak on hundreds of stages all over the world. In fact, we're going to
be going to Cambodia just at the end of the week, this week to speak
internationally. I've been so honored and so privileged to share the stage with
amazing voices with hugely motivational people. I've met people like
Kevin Harrington, I've met people like Dan Clark, I've shared the stage with these
brilliant amazing minds only to share a story, to share a message and now I get
to live this incredible lifestyle where I get to just share what I love
and do what I love and share the broken and vulnerable parts and not only
how they're broken and vulnerable but how they've been healed. And now I
actually get to teach others how to do the exact same thing. I have to tell you
there's nothing quite like getting someone on stage for the first
time. All the nerves are coming up and all that the jitters are there but then
breaking all that away and extracting the amazing message that comes out of
each individual human being, that is a huge passion of mine. So, that's the first
secret to becoming a motivational speaker is to become an intern of the
classroom. Know all of the moving parts, know all of the moving pieces when it
comes time for you to present, you've already got a stockpile of information
you're going into your event with. When you're an intern of the program and
you're becoming a motivational speaker, one of my secrets is to look for
opportunities, look for opportunities for everything that goes back to
volunteering. It goes back to being a groupie, it goes back to serving the
people in the audience. You know, I'll never forget it was at a department
store and I saw this stack of blue jeans that was totally messy, totally all over
the place and I thought, "This is a mess". I knew I can't even shop. I need to put these
back together. And I put it back together and someone came, I had no less than
three people came up and asked me if I worked there,
okay? The same principle applies in the classroom. So, if you're wanting to become
a motivational speaker, you have to be willing to be a participant first and be
a helper, be as helpful as possible, provide answers as often as possible
especially when you're in groups or in team projects. Step out. Be a leader in
that moment and offer advice and counsel with permission to those people that are
seeking it. That's how you build your credibility as you seek for
opportunities to serve. One of the most important keys to becoming a
motivational speaker is to allow your mess to become your message. I was
talking to a good friend of mine and this person is a really big YouTuber in
this space right now and I was asking him, you know, "what do you like, what do
you not like, what's going on in your world?" And he said, "Really I would love to
get into motivational speaking department, I just don't know how to do
it." And I turned to him and I said, "You know, what's the biggest mess, what's the
biggest obstacle that you overcome?" And as he shared that with me, I was super
humbled and super impressed because it has nothing to do with his YouTube
career at all. This is a personal triumph that he had after a personal tragedy.
That's what we say, "When your mess becomes your message." Which leads me into
my final secret of the motivational speaking circuit. You have to allow
yourself to become vulnerable. I can't tell you how many times I've seen people
on stage either in a church setting or on a public meeting, assessing or setting
or even on the phone and they'll start to feel emotions come up as they tell
their story. And you know what? The first thing they do is, you know, when you know
this. People start to feel that emotion and they apologize. And I'm sitting there
in the back of the room like, "This is nuts. Why are we apologizing for having
these emotions? Why are we apologizing for the tears that run down our face?
Why are we apologizing for feeling these things? It's just crumbling the
connection that could be made by experiencing this on the vulnerable
level. To be a connective speaker, to be a motivational speaker, to actually go from
the information age to total transformation which is the total point
of being a motivational speaker, you have to allow yourself to feel. You have to
allow yourself to experience that because a lot of people will come into
your classroom feeling broken. A lot of people will come into your classroom
feeling vulnerable. A lot of people will come to your classroom, no joke, as their last
resort. And if you don't have the ability to be vulnerable and get down and be in
a muck with them, then there's no way you can pull them out of it. So, when you're
sharing your mess as it's become your message allow yourself to feel, allow
yourself to pause, allow yourself to use and leverage the language of silence. So
that people can connect with you and your unique message. And you've heard
this a thousand times over. Especially if you've done any more research on YouTube
on how to become motivational speaker, you've heard this before. You
know that you need to be vulnerable. You know you need to be authentic. You know
your mess needs to become your message. So, I'm going to give you my final bonus tip
with all that knowledge, it's useless without doing. So, if you want a huge
challenge, if you want to really take that step into that space, I'm going to
challenge you to do this, get out and practice. Practice delivering your story,
practice delivering your presentation. Even go so far as to record yourself and
watch it again which I know, it can be one of the toughest things to do, it's
one of the scariest places, right? The public stage, it's the number 1 fear in
America, right now. But if you can nail that with that practice and start
sharing your story, that's the number 1 key to getting out there. So, those are my
secrets to start in your motivational speaking career. Hey, thanks for watching
today. Hey let me know if you liked this video. I'd love to make more about public
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I'll see you tomorrow.