especially when you're going to negotiate with one,
you really want to be able to know like,
am I my dealing with a narcissist?
Is this person like gonna screw me?
So if you want to know how to do this,
you want to be able to spot
one like coming at you from a mile away
and you're thinking should I run away from this person or this deal?
You definitely want to stick around and watch this video.
Okay, so I'm Rebecca Zung.
If we haven't met before, I am a lawyer,
I am a narcissist negotiation expert.
I know that sounds like a weird thing to do for a living.
That is what I do. It is my mission on this planet my crusade to
save you from dealing with narcissist.
Yep. That's what I do.
I want to make sure that you don't get screwed
and not only that but you can become powerful.
Yes, if you can stand in your power and feels
when you're dealing with toxic personalities.
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All right, so when you're dealing with a narcissist in real life in any part of your life,
the good psychologists and psychiatrists of the world have come up
with this whole list of things that they look at
and they look at all sorts of things.
Like, do they have a grand sense of self-importance.
Do they look at themselves and go,
wow, I'm so important and use words
like grandiosity things like that
and do they experience fantasies of being
influential and famous and important?
Do they exaggerate their abilities
and do they exaggerate their
talents and their accomplishments?
Do they crave admiration and acknowledgement by they preoccupied with being beautiful
and of love and power
and all of these sorts of things and I have a whole video on the
narcissists seven deadly sins
and if you would like to check that out,
you can check that out
and it's all part of
what they call the DSM-5 that the Diagnostics and Statistical Manual fifth edition
and this is what would happen
if somebody would go into a psychologist or psychiatrist office and say,
hey, I think I might be a narcissist
or check out my husband or my wife
or somebody and say see if there's person might be a narcissist and somebody will go,
okay, say ask you these questions.
Do you have you know experience just ease of being whatever?
I don't know what they do exactly
but they diagnose this person and say this person may be a narcissist or not.
Anyway, that's how they check it out.
But during a negotiation.
Do you want to know how you want to find out if a person is narcissist during a negotiation?
Because let me tell you something, when somebody's on the other side of you,
here's how it goes, but the narcissist you're either for them or against them.
Okay, and if you're against them,
which clearly in a negotiation.
Number one and especially in a divorce situation or something like that.
Definitely want to take you down because I want to make sure they take you down before they do.
You think they make you look bad before
you can make them look bad.
Okay, they don't want you to expose them
and by the way, they get narcissistic supply,
you know, that thing that feeds their ego from making you miserable.
So it's twofold.
Don't make me look bad and I enjoy making your life miserable.
So there's a lot of things going on with that.
So what are they going to do?
Okay, here's how you're going to spot it.
We don't want to spend a lot of money. I'll handle this.
Okay, let's just meet together and we can get this done.
But of course it's you know,
we're going to handle this, you're just going to sign this.
But however, even if you just think you're going to do it the nice way,
they're still never going to leave you alone, number 1.
They lie about everything, they use the court system as a sword.
They refused to give you documents that their code order to give you any way.
They give you parts of things.
They say they want to settle but then they never do
and by the way,
have you guys seen any of this?
Because if you have, I want you to comment,
I've definitely seen this.
I've seen this in the comments below
and I would love to know what you guys have seen.
Give me some examples of the things that you guys have seen too
I'm going to hold you to all those parts of the agreement,
but me, actually,
I want more now and actually,
it's because of you.
It's because you took so long or it's because you did this or you did that or you lied about this.
So you said that and it's this never-ending cycle and they rack up the fees and it takes forever
and then, of course, it's your fault because they did everything
they were supposed to do.
They gave you all the documents.
They did everything they were supposed to do.
This is your fault, your problem.
So, anyway that's just way that you can spot a narcissist
especially during a negotiation.
So that's my story and I'm sticking to it.
So if you guys have seen any of this,
I definitely want to see what you guys have seen and if you are dealing in a negotiation,
make sure to grab my free
Crush my negotiation prep worksheet
at winmynegotiation.com
and also make sure to join my free private Facebook group
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For sure do that and for sure
go to winmynegotiation.com.
Love to see you guys in my Facebook group
and get my free ebook for sure
and remember to slay because you can definitely slay this.
You can definitely do this.
Don't ever give in.
Don't ever give up.
I've helped thousands and thousands of people that will tell you that they're smarter.
You will be will believe them because that's the story that they fed you for so long
but you can do this, right?
Got your back and besides you can do this.
All right, so I'm so glad that you're here
and I will definitely see you in the next video.