Hey, it's Min Liu from The Art Of Verbal War where people learned to excel in verbal skills
So I'm a bit fired up and pissed off
why?!
No not because Donald Trump is president
I'm pissed off because no matter where I look
Conversation advice that other people give is useless
And 100% guaranteed to lead to mediocre conversations
This video is called Conversation Skills For Rebels
Because I think it's time for a revolution my friends
A revolution in conversation skills
But before we revolt let me recap for you the conventional wisdom about conversation
Number one: Be interested in others
Number two: Be a good listener
Number three: Ask lots of questions
Number four: Know and use interesting conversation topics and starters.
I mean that sounds reasonable right?
But I'll tell you in a bit why this is terrible advice
Number five: Talk about your passions and interests
Number six this one is very in right now
Tell stories, again I'll tell you why this is terrible advice
Number seven: Be polite and inoffensive
Number eight: Try to have deep conversation
You've heard all these quote unquote tips before, haven't you?
Well, let me tell you exactly what will happen if you follow this generic mundane advice
Boredom, leading to nodding off, leading to drooling, outright snoring
And sometimes even snorting
It's time for a revolution, a revolution conversation skills
No more mundane uninteresting conversations
Follow these conventional conversation tips if you want to have mediocre conversations
But follow what I'm about to tell you if you want to be so much more than mediocre in conversation skills
Join this Rebellion
Now let me introduce you the conversation manifesto
The eight principles for conversation revolutionaries
Here are eight principles
Which turn this conventional conversation advice upside down
Now I want you to raise your right hand and swear allegiance to these eight principles
Number one: Instead of being interested in others focus on being interesting yourself
Stop being passive in conversation and start being an active participant
And start being the person who is the cause of a great conversation not merely the effect
Number two: Instead of being a good listener focus on being someone with something to say
And don't place the burden of making conversation on other people
Number three: Instead of asking a lot of questions
Promise me that you'll use questions infrequently and only in specific situations
You want to know what to do instead and what situations I'm talking about?
Go to: www.artofverbalwar.com/manifesto
Number four: Instead of worrying about what conversation topics are good topics?
Learn how to talk about any topic even really boring and mundane ones
In an interesting way, and even more importantly, remember this okay!
It's never the conversation topic that matters
It's the type of conversation that matters
You want to learn what types of conversations? again go to:
www.artofverbalwar.com/manifesto
Number five: Instead of talking about your passions and Interests
Which is rather self-absorbed, isn't it?
Flip the conversation into a two-way conversation
And you want to know how to do that? well you know where to go
Number six: Instead of telling stories just for the sake of telling them
Or because some shitty conversation advice told you to do that
Tell stories only when they serve a specific purpose
Number seven: Instead of worrying about being polite and inoffensive
It's okay and actually preferable to be a bit edgy and a bit provocative
Stop worrying about being so politically correct
And start being more authentic and real
If there's anything that's a true killer of conversation
It's being too polite, too inoffensive, too politically correct and too vanilla
And you're not vanilla now, are you?
Number eight: Instead of trying to have quote unquote deep conversations
Learn how to create fun and exciting conversations
Most people just want to have fun
They don't care about analyzing issues and even if they do
Doing that is no way to create a connection or a bond
With another person or with the group
Fun and exciting conversations are the best type to have
So there you go, that's the conversation manifesto
You got that memorized?
By following these eight principles
You will never have a mundane conversation again
Now if you want to learn how to implement each of these eight principles of conversation revolutionaries
go to: www.artofverbalwar.com/manifesto
Okay, that's it for today
I'm Min Liu from The Art Of Verbal War
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Until next time! keep being excellent