They fake being empathetic to manipulate you,
I'm gonna tell you all about how they do it,
so you can spot them from a mile away,
so, stay tuned.
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Are you ready for 5 ways that narcissists fake being empathetic?
They kind of just watch,
they sort of mirror that and
especially in the love bombing phase, by the way.
I do have a whole video on how narcissists mirror you,
which is sort of weird on that.
But they do, they watch you,
especially in the love-bombing phase,
they wanna just sort of watch you, mirror you,
see what you're doing and covert narcissists are really good at this,
looking to see how others behave and just do exactly that.
By the way, this is a way how you can tell
narcissists know their behavior is wrong,
because they know how to look good, right?
They know how to look like they're behaving correctly,
so they watch others and behave based on that.
This is especially true in situations where,
“I'm so sorry to hear what's been happening with you,
since your mom has been sick”
or “I'm so sorry to hear that your dog has cancer”
“I'm sorry to hear what's going on in your family” or whatever.
I mean, they know the things to say,
especially, if they think it's gonna get them somewhere,
or if they are trying to get you, to lure you into their web,
into their layer, especially early on in the situation,
whether it's a business situation, or a personal situation,
whether they're trying to get you to the next phase as quickly as possible.
I do have a whole video on love-bombing,
if you wanna know more about that,
you can definitely check that out as well.
I've seen this especially,
if somebody has cancer, for example,
they run to the side of the person who has cancer,
especially if it looks like they can become
the center of attention for themselves,
because everybody's paying attention to that particular person,
so they can be sitting at the hospital bed and
basically be the person who’s getting attention,
sitting next to that person,
it's really, really gross, it's really manipulative.
I've seen it where they end up actually,
putting themselves in the situation of trying to almost be,
like, munchausens by proxy, by the way is an extension of this,
where the parent actually makes their child sick and
that's exactly what this is, which is so sick.
I mean, no pun intended.
But that's what they do.
They try to become the victim,
then, like, that makes them hear more empathetic.
like, “Oh, they're so caring, crying about other victims”,
because they're just absolutely crying about victims of I don't know,
an earthquake, or a hurricane and
almost so empathetic about other victims that they're crying,
empathetic and feeling guilty about these victims themselves,
manipulating people in that way.
Sometimes they really do care,
but sometimes it's also part of a game or a manipulation as well,
so you have to look to find what their real motivation is.
It's like, what is the motivation behind it?
What is the intent behind it?
Sometimes you see people who really do care and
obviously this is not an attack on people who actually do care,
but there are times people put themselves in roles,
like a priest, or a preacher, or something like that,
to make it seem like they're caring and
then they use that position to manipulate people,
or do really bad things,
because they want to appear like they're empathetic and
then they use that position to do things that are not good.
So, they fake being empathetic and
they use that role to do really horrible things to people.
These are some of the ways narcissists
can fake being empathetic to people and
I have seen it especially with coverts,
this is really a methodology of a covert narcissists,
even more so than grandiose narcissists I think,
where they put themselves in roles,
especially like careers where they look like they're empathetic,
I've also seen this in members of my own family sometimes,
where they’ve used people's heartstrings, sicknesses, things like that,
as an opportunity for themselves to get attention.
It's really awful when you see it happen,
but that's what they do sometimes.
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