Everybody wants to have high status, that's the goal because when you're high
status you get all kinds of advantages that most people don't...simply put. It
takes a lot of work to build yourself into someone who can hold themselves in
high status and high regards and that's a good thing but today I'm going to
teach you a little backdoor trick that can catapult your status especially if
it's the first time you're talking with someone like nothing else can so the way
this works is most guys when they talk to you they probably are very quick to
share a shared experience so like maybe you went to Beijing or you said you
spent some time in Venezuela the minute a guy let's say you're talking a guy and
he's try to flirt with you a little bit the minute he hears that he is probably
if there's anything that he knows or say he happened to visit Venezuela is he
probably really gonna quickly come out good I was in Venezuela too right I
lived there too automatically automatically and you'll see their eyes
light up because they think that she's gonna be like that's incredible most
guys have never done that you have what's up let's hang out that's not the
pros way to do it okay it's not necessarily terrible if you do it really
cool I bet that's really interesting I was in Venezuela too I noticed this what
are your thoughts that's kind of a cool way to do it but how can we turbocharged
this okay the way you're gonna do it is you're gonna back off of saying that
commonality and hope that it comes in through the back door okay because how
much more powerful is it when I'm talking to her and she's like yeah I was
in Venezuela for a while and then she continues to talk and she's like you
know have you ever been have you ever traveled anywhere near Venezuela and I'm
like yeah by the way I actually lived in Venezuela for six months it was really
cool how cool does that look because you were not jumping on that opportunity to
try to create that rapport cuz most guys want that so much anything they can do
to have that commonality they're gonna jump on but the pro will not bring up
that commonality and the more obscure like living it being in Venezuela is
pretty kind of obscure or like maybe you were like something that I did that a
lot of people have known as I travel to Cambodia more
people are doing that stuff now butts the more obscure and the more unique the
more powerful it is when they find out through their own question that you
didn't bring it up that you didn't jump on that chance to get that rapport with
them that is gonna be something that people are gonna be like wow this dude
is not like most dudes he's not jumping on this he's comfortable enough to not
feel that need to cling to every little chance he can get to get me to like him
very powerful way to do it it's tough to do because you're gonna the first couple
times you do it you're almost gonna like you're gonna get kind of awkward you
like should be saying some and they're gonna kind of pick up on it just think
about in your head was she saying something let's use the vanilla seize
Cambodia for example so you have to anchor wat to see the temples and she's
like yeah one of the most incredible places I was was a sentient sunset
temple in Angkor Wat and ears to be thinking that's really cool just be
thinking it's coming back it's coming back it's coming back and you can be
like yeah Southeast Asian travel is really cool and then what is she you can
even set it up a little bit like that like if she happens or she or the person
you're talking to happens to naturally come back to that cool that's the
easiest but let's say it seems like the conversation is going a bit off of that
and she may never ask if you've been there and then you lose your chance you
can kind of egg that on a little bit but don't be too obvious you can be like
yeah there's some really cool things that happen in Southeast Asia just
something like that that piques our interest and then she might be like oh
really if you've been to Southeast Asia oh yeah is that also at that sunset
temple and Angkor Wat there's actually a wild experience the Sun was going down
it was so beautiful that people were staying their way past it the time they
should it's like pitch dark and people like trying to go down these temple
stairs the temple stairs are like this steep if you ever been there and they're
like this wide so having a size 14 shoe literally had to go like sideways down
in the pitch dark it's crazy so you're gonna wait for it you can egg that
question on if it's running too far away from her ever asks you that story again
that's kind of a cool way to bring it back now in this story like these
examples are kind of a bit fancy kind of a bit advanced right waiting to share a
story you maybe hear this like dude I'm just trying to understand
what's going out when I'm out at a restaurant like why is this person
acting this way to me what can I do to make someone react in a positive way for
me and if that's the way you're feeling I'd encourage you to download my social
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