Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today, we are going to learn about 10 signs that she’s
obsessed with you. Now, let’s begin
1. Narcissistic Behavior When someone’s feelings escalate past infatuation
to the level of obsession, their obsession may gradually consume their thoughts and emotions.
Many partners become narrow-minded, selfish, and even narcissistic as their obsession grows.
They become so entranced by their feelings that they lose control over their thoughts and actions.
They may damage their other relationships and compromise their values — all in the name of love.
If your partner uses love to justify unhealthy or inappropriate behavior, they may be swept up in a
twisted obsession with you. They’ve distorted your relationship in their mind, and that distortion
drives them to do careless, hurtful things. Sometimes, it’s a small invasion of privacy.
Other times, obsessive behavior verges on aggression or harassment. In either case, if
your partner uses love as an excuse to intrude on your life, they’re not in love… they’re obsessed.
2. Obsessive Photographs
Does she take hundreds of photos of you together? Is she posting pictures of you on social media,
as if you’re deeply in love? Every time you see each other, all she wants to do is take pictures.
When you do something romantic, she hardly ever enjoys the moment. Instead, she whips out her
camera and snaps photos of every tiny detail, which she immediately posts on social media.
This is common among obsessive partners. It’s one of many ways that partners claim their territory,
advertising to the world that you are taken, and your relationship is strong.
In other words, she takes hundreds of photos because she wants the world to see you together.
Chances are… the love she feels for you isn’t deep or heartfelt.
More likely, it’s a surface-level obsession, fueled by fear of losing you to someone else.
Unfortunately, she may not realize how abnormal her behavior really is.
Couples that are deeply in love don’t need other people to validate their relationship.
In fact, many loving couples forget to take photos or document any moments of their relationship,
because they’re too busy enjoying each other’s company.
Luckily, taking too many photos doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. If you
confront your partner and openly express your discomfort, they may realize what they’re doing
and change their ways. But if they continue taking and posting hundreds of you,
it may be time to go your separate ways. 3. Constant Messages
The only thing she does more than take photos… is send you messages. Every time you look at
your phone, you see dozens of messages from her. And if you don’t answer soon, she starts to worry.
She assumes you’re doing something to hurt or betray her, so she sends more messages
and starts calling you repeatedly. She may leave panicked or angry voicemails. She may
twist the situation to make you seem like a bad person and guilt you into doing what she wants.
If this behavior sounds familiar, this girl may have developed an obsession with you.
That obsession may be driving her relentless insecurity,
therefore destroying the trust you two have built. Every strong relationship is built on a foundation
of mutual trust. Partners can live their own lives and take time apart, because they have faith in
commitments they’ve made to each other. Mutual trust validates your connection and allows your
relationship to deepen and grow. It’s true what they say: absence makes the heart grow fonder.
But if your partner is texting and calling you constantly… you won’t be missing her anytime soon.
4. Overwhelming Dependence Does she depend on you for
everything in her life? You might hear her say phrases like, “I don’t know what I would do with
you.” You may think she’s expressing her love and dedication, but her overwhelming dependence on
your is a worrying sign of romantic obsession. Strong, stable couples want to be together,
but they can support themselves when they’re apart. For example, it may make you very sad to
break up with your partner, but you would still be able to get out of bed in the morning. You
would still go to work and spend time with your friends, because you can function on your own.
When a partner is obsessed with you, you may feel like the glue that holds her together.
She may rely on you for the most basic things in her life. Without you around,
she can hardly get out of bed. She doesn’t eat, sleep, or work. The moment you leave her side,
she crumbles into a million pieces, because this person is overwhelmingly dependent on you.
5. Friendly Jealousy In life, you will have many
kinds of relationships. She’ll have strong, long-lasting friendships. Shallow, workplace
acquaintances. Deep, loving partnerships. But if someone you know is obsessed with you, they may
try to erase the other relationship in your life. It’s common for obsessive partners to sabotage
relationships with friends and family. She becomes jealous when you spend time with
anyone other than her. In extreme situations, an obsessive partner may try to create rifts between
you and your friends or simply guilt you into spending more time with them. In other words,
she does not want to share you with anyone, but that’s not a sign of a healthy relationship.
Loving, stable partners encourage each other to deepen their connections with others.
Because loving partners want each other to be happy. Your bonds with friends and
family are just as important to your health and happiness as a romantic relationship.
So, don’t settle for a partner who gets angry or jealous when you spend time with friends and
family. No one can monopolize all of your time, energy, or emotions. If your partner
wants all of those things for themselves, it’s not love… it’s an unhealthy obsession.
6. Where Are You? Does your partner need to know where you are every
second of the day? Obsessive partners will keep you on a short leash. She wants to know where you
are and who you’re with at all times. You may feel suffocated in the relationship because you can’t
go anywhere without telling your partner first. This is a big red flag and a telltale sign of an
obsessive relationship. Stable, loving partners don’t need to know where you are at all times.
They give you space and freedom, and they trust you to make good decisions.
On the other hand, obsessive partners are constantly suspicious of what you’re doing.
They panic whenever you leave them in the dark. If your partner is not just clingy but overwhelmingly
demanding… they may be obsessed with you. 7. Accidental Encounters
What’s worse than asking where you are 24/7? Showing up everywhere you go,
whether you invited your partner or not. When you don’t answer your phone, she drives across
town to find you in person, often because she can’t stop worrying that something is wrong.
This obsessive behavior rapidly encroaches on your personal privacy. Your partner doesn’t give you
a moment to breathe, because they may be afraid you’ll spend that moment looking at someone else.
If you “accidentally” run into your partner everywhere you go, don’t let them sweep the
issue under the rug. This person is following you around and may be hiding a deeper obsession.
8. Future Talk In a strong, loving relationship,
talking about the future can be a wonderful way to reaffirm your feelings for each other.
But if she’s talking about the future three days after you’ve met… she may be obsessed with you.
Overly obsessive partners may talk about living together or getting married, even though you
hardly know anything about each other. She might dream about growing old together, while you’re
still wondering if you even like her as a person. Often, these uncomfortable conversations are
motivated by deep-rooted insecurities. An obsessive partner may be anxious about where your
relationship is headed. She may exaggerate your connection and worry that you aren’t as committed
to the relationship as she is. So, what does she do? She skips ten years into the future and
dreams about your lives together without giving your individual feelings enough time to grow.
No matter how vividly she imagines your future, remember that you always have a choice.
If you aren’t feeling what she’s feeling, don’t rush into any life-changing decisions.
Chances are… she’s not saying these things because she’s deeply in love with you.
Instead, she’s feeling insecure, and that insecurity is fueling an unhealthy obsession.
9. Intense Attention Partners should give each other
their undivided attention. But no one expects to hold their partner’s attention all the time.
If you have an overly eager or obsessive partner, they may be constantly fixated on you.
She hangs on every word that comes out of your mouth. She laughs at everything you say,
even if it isn’t funny. It feels like she wouldn’t breathe unless she saw you breathing first.
You may think she’s just deeply in love with you, but this isn’t what love looks like.
When a woman loves you, she pays attention to you, but she doesn’t put you on a pedestal. She
may think you’re funny, smart, and interesting, but she doesn’t worship the ground you walk on.
This kind of intensity is unhealthy and borderline obsessive. She constantly gushes over you and
may idealize everything they do. But when you idealize a person, you don’t perceive them as a
well-rounded human. You don’t see their weaknesses and flaws, which makes it impossible to know or
love their genuine selves. 10. Emotional Control
An obsessive partner is never satisfied. They want every part of you for themselves,
and that includes your thoughts and emotions. Your partner can’t stand the idea that you have private
thoughts and feelings. She may wish she could read your mind at all hours of the day. It’s not
because she finds you interesting, but because she’s worried you’re keeping secrets from her.
No matter what she says, you are entitled to your private thoughts and feelings. Anyone who demands
to know every thought that crosses your mind is not in love with you. They’re obsessed, and that
obsession is tearing your relationship apart. Thank you for watching TopThink,
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